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You’re not the same after what you’ve lived through, but what if that’s not a setback? What if it’s the beginning of becoming?

In this transformative episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon, trauma-informed therapist, positive psychology coach, and founder of Happya, explores the powerful concept of Post-Traumatic Growth (PTG) and why healing isn’t about going back to who you were, but about rising differently.

Whether your life was disrupted by grief, burnout, a relationship breakdown, a career shift, or something that doesn’t “seem big enough” to name as trauma, if you’ve felt changed by it, this episode is for you.

We cover:

• What post-traumatic growth really is and how it’s different from toxic positivity
• How trauma (big or small) reshapes your identity and your nervous system
• The signs you may already be in a phase of growth and don’t even realise it
• The difference between PTG and learned helplessness
• What makes PTG possible and the practical, emotional shifts to look for
• A grounding practice and reflection prompt to help you anchor into the growth already happening in you

Clare shares openly about how the death of her husband shifted everything, not only her grief, but her strength, courage, and authenticity. And how Happya was born from the belief that survival isn’t enough.

If you’re wondering whether this season of hardship might also be the soil for something more meaningful, this episode will leave you feeling seen, softened, and supported.

You are not broken. You are becoming. And that becoming deserves to be honoured.

👉 Want to explore post-traumatic growth with Clare? Send a message on Instagram or reach out through the website, she’ll guide you towards the right support for where you are now.

🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support

➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
👉 happyacoach.com/bookstore

➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach

➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
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💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com

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You’ve been everything for everyone, the mum, the leader, the caretaker, the high achiever.

But now something’s shifted.

And you’re left wondering... who am I, really?

This episode is for the woman quietly realising she no longer recognises herself and doesn’t know how to begin again. Whether it’s your kids growing up, your career changing, a relationship ending, or a subtle sense that the roles you’ve played no longer fit, this isn’t failure. It’s an awakening.

In this powerful, grounding episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon explores what it means to lose yourself and how to gently, compassionately rebuild who you really are.

✨ Inside this episode:

The real reason identity loss is so common in midlife (and why it’s not just trauma)

How role changes: motherhood, career shifts, relationship breakdowns, can make you feel invisible

Why survival mode leads to self-forgetting

How to start reconnecting with your true self in small, doable ways

What nervous system regulation has to do with identity rebuilding

How to grieve old roles while creating space for something new

If you’ve ever said “I don’t know who I am anymore,” this is your invitation to come home to yourself, gently, honestly, without rushing.

📩 Reach out to Clare on Instagram or through the website if this speaks to you. Whether you need support, coaching, or just permission to begin, you don’t have to do it alone.

You’re not broken. You’re becoming.

🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support

➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
👉 happyacoach.com/bookstore

➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach

➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk.
👉 happyacoach.com/chat

➤ 📩 Join the Happya® Newsletter (Tools + Notes from Clare):
Weekly soul-checks, real-life insights, and practical tools.
👉 happyacoach.com/newsletter

➤ 🌐 Explore More at:
happyacoach.com

💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com

🎵 Music by LemonMusicStudio

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You say you’re protecting your peace…
But are you really protecting yourself from discomfort?

This episode is for the women who’ve said “I’m setting boundaries” but deep down suspect they might just be pulling away. If you’ve ever avoided messages, cancelled plans, or shut someone out and called it self-care, this conversation will help you gently unpack what’s really going on underneath.

In this episode, Clare shares how to tell the difference between healthy boundaries and protective avoidance and why your nervous system often confuses the two.

✨ What you’ll hear:
The key difference between a true boundary and an avoidant response
How trauma and people-pleasing shape the way we disconnect
Why avoidance isn’t bad, but it isn’t always honest
How to set boundaries from a place of self-worth, not fear
Real-world signs you might be avoiding under the label of “boundaried”
What to do when your nervous system shuts down instead of speaking up
Whether you’re constantly retreating or unsure how to hold your ground with compassion, this episode will help you come back to clarity, connection, and choice.

📩 Feeling stuck in the blur between avoidance and boundaries? DM Clare on Instagram or get in touch via email, you don’t have to figure it out alone.

Boundaries should bring you closer to yourself, not push you further away.

Click here if you want to join the Blooming Happya Journal Series: https://happyacoach.com/journal

🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support

➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
👉 happyacoach.com/bookstore

➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach

➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk.
👉 happyacoach.com/chat

➤ 📩 Join the Happya® Newsletter (Tools + Notes from Clare):
Weekly soul-checks, real-life insights, and practical tools.
👉 happyacoach.com/newsletter

➤ 🌐 Explore More at:
happyacoach.com

💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com

🎵 Music by LemonMusicStudio