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The Examined Lives (ENM Vibes)

The Examined Lives (ENM Vibes)

By: Lauren Hayes
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Welcome to an evolved "The Examined Lives" podcast! What started as a deep dive into the drama of the The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives reality show has evolved into a bold exploration of modern love, non-monogamy, and its portrayal in mainstream media.


Join hosts Lauren, an ENM relationship coach and swinger, and Ben, an ex-LDS polyamorist, as they bring their unique perspectives to mainstream media’s portrayal of ethical non-monogamy. From dissecting TV shows to sharing their own insights and experiences, Lauren and Ben invite you to laugh, learn, and rethink what love can look like.

Whether you're here for the spicy stories, thought-provoking discussions, or just some good company, this podcast is your go-to for real talk about relationships that break the mold. Buckle up—it’s about to get real, raw, and a little rebellious!


Still, unofficially representing real communities sometimes misrepresented in media


Hosted by: Lauren Hayes, Swinging Lifestyle Coach & her poly friend, Ben

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Episodes
  • Dying for Sex (and Lasagna)

    Dying for Sex (and Lasagna)
    Aug 4 2025

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    One host just got back from a 2500-couple sex convention. The other is sleepy by 11 PM. Let the games begin. Lauren and Ben tackle the profound TV show Dying for Sex. But not before they workshop the best story for a sprained finger. The whole thing descends into anarchy when Lauren realizes she missed the episode with all the kink, leaving Ben to explain dom/sub dynamics, dick-kicking, and the vital importance of bringing lasagna to a sex-party.


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    For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist

    SwingingLifestyleCoach.com

    Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/swinginglifestylecoach

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew

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    29 mins
  • Compersion Season 2: ENM & The How Not To

    Compersion Season 2: ENM & The How Not To
    Jul 7 2025

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    Fresh from the dusty desert plains of a Burning Man-esque festival, a sleepy Lauren and Ben kick things off with tales of naked bike rides, spanking vs. stomach-raspberries (you'll have to listen to find out who chose what), and a goddess statue with vape-juice teats. Then, they dive into the final season of "Compersion," a show with a plot so bonkers it leaves Ben speechless: a wife inviting her husband's affair partner over for lasagna to… get them back together?! Tune in for a masterclass in (mostly) what not to do.


    STD Hero: or use coupon code Lauren10 at checkout.

    For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist

    SwingingLifestyleCoach.com

    Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/swinginglifestylecoach

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew

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    30 mins
  • Compersion Season 1: A (kinda) Cautionary Tale

    Compersion Season 1: A (kinda) Cautionary Tale
    Jun 3 2025

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    Lauren kicks things off by humbling Ben’s enthusiasm—turns out she’s not soooo good, just “regular good.” From there, they dive into a lively pre-show chat that includes music festival misadventures and an unfiltered look at Lauren’s “Sacred Sluts” project. Then it's time for a no-holds-barred breakdown of Compersion Season 1: morning-after mishaps, questionable partner choices (maybe don’t date the kid’s teacher?), and the ever-controversial one-penis policy. There’s laughter, a little cringing, and plenty of insight into what not to do in non-monogamy.


    STD Hero: or use coupon code Lauren10 at checkout.

    For Better or Even Better: 7 Lessons on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist

    SwingingLifestyleCoach.com

    Retreats: https://www.swinginglifestylecoach.com/inperson-retreats

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/swinginglifestylecoach

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SwingingLifestyleCoach

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZR-9HggJ51NaJnXCnq0Ew

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    27 mins
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