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I have been so excited to have my dear friend and Enneagram coach, Wendy Montgomery, on the podcast. The Enneagram is an expansive and incredible tool that has helped me understand myself and those around me in a whole new way. In this two-part conversation, you’ll learn about all nine types and the insight they offer into why and how we people-please. Here’s what we cover:

• The characteristics, core motivator, and core fear of each Enneagram type
• Why understanding your Enneagram type can help lessen people-pleasing tendencies
• How the Enneagram triads offer further insight into your type
• The unique ways people-pleasing shows up for every type
• A question for each type to ask themselves to gain more self-awareness
• How gender stereotypes can impact Enneagram analysis

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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

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Many women who struggle with people-pleasing often blame themselves, but these habits are usually rooted in deeper issues that are beyond our control. There can be various underlying causes, but in this episode, I share how my personal experiences with bullying have influenced my people-pleasing tendencies. If recalling your own experiences of being bullied brings up strong emotions--it’s okay to skip this episode if it feels too tender. But if you’re ready, I invite you to explore how these early wounds may have influenced your people-pleasing—and how healing starts with self-compassion, not self-criticism. Here’s what I cover:

• An overview of the four nervous system responses—fight, flight, freeze, and fawn
• A deep dive into the “fawn” nervous system response and how it connects bullying to people-pleasing
• How bullying-related shame impacts our sense of worthiness
• A visualization exercise that uses arts work to help you heal your inner child
• Why being attuned to others’ needs might actually be a trauma response
• A compassionate question to ask yourself that will reveal the beliefs you formed about safety and belonging

Dr. Ramani Clip: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DHL5jFLMbE2/?hl=en

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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

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You may remember my conversation with therapist Andrea Parks about the drama triangle and how we can shift out of harmful roles in our relationships. But once we escape the drama, how do we build the deep, connected relationships we crave? In this episode, Andrea introduces the intimacy triangle and we dive into how authenticity, openness, and responsiveness create true closeness. Here's what we cover:

• The role that vulnerability plays in intimate relationships
• How to strengthen the three components necessary for intimacy in your relationships
• Why it’s often difficult to develop the three components of intimacy in high-demand religions or family systems
• Examples of how openness increases intimacy in all relationships
• Why responsiveness is often transactional or conditional in an unhealthy system

I can’t wait for you to listen.

By training and profession Andrea is a therapist and facilitator. She is in private practice and the owner of Bloom Healing. She has a degree in Child Development and a Masters degree in Counseling psychology. She has training and experience in psychodrama, attachment, somatic bodywork, developmental trauma, grief and life transitions. Alongside her work as a trauma therapist she specializes in group therapy and loves creating spaces where individuals with diverse backgrounds can come together in community and heal. By choice and good fortune she is the mother to three children and honored to be partnered with Shawn, her closest friend and companion in life. In her free time she is a seeker of poetry, wild things, beauty and friendship.

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http://bloomhealingaz.com/

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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

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You may have heard Dr. Crystal Hall's name on the podcast a few weeks back when I responded to the video about why women are leaving the church. Crystal comes to the church from a feminist perspective–she's doing the deep work of unpacking how patriarchy has shaped religious spaces. As a coach for women in ministry, she helps others identify and unlearn the subconscious beliefs religion has instilled about their worth, roles, and voices. Here's what we cover:

• The influence of patriarchal programming in our society–it's something that shapes us before we even learn about feminism or religion
• How feminist values can come to the surface through the foundation of patriarchy
• Why resistance, recovery, and re-reading are three essential ways to engage with religion through a feminist lens
• How coaching can bridge the gap between the theory of gender equality and its practice
• Why grieving is part of feminist spiritual practice—especially when confronting what was lost or never offered
• What gives us hope for the future when it comes to feminism, patriarchy, and religion

I can’t wait for you to listen.

Find Crystal here:

https://www.crystalhallphd.com/

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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

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So many women blame themselves for their people-pleasing tendencies–I can’t speak up, I apologize too much, I have to avoid conflict at all costs. If you’ve ever had thoughts like these, the first thing I want you to know is that it’s not your fault, and there is nothing wrong with you. We’ve lived our entire lives in a patriarchal system that shapes how we think about ourselves as women. In this episode, I give you a peek behind the curtain of that unconscious operating system and provide a framework to explore–and change–the tendencies that lead us to believe there’s something wrong with us. Here's what I cover:

• The unconscious limitations we have due to our programming
• How our behaviors are shaped by a constant interplay between conscious and unconscious thoughts
• Several examples of how to reframe self-critical thoughts so you can feel better, not worse
• The importance of tuning into your body while practicing new thoughts
• A visualization to help you reach toward the mindset you want—not the one you inherited
• How imagining a younger version of yourself can build self-compassion

I can't wait for you to listen.

Find Sara here:

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https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations

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https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach

https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333

What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

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