When we talk about career success, we often think of climbing the ladder, collecting accolades, and thriving at the highest levels. But what happens when those very benchmarks of achievement no longer serve us, when accomplishment leads not to fulfillment, but to exhaustion? This week on The Change Effect, I’m diving into the concept of “The Quiet Breakup,” a powerful cultural shift where women are honoring their whole selves by redefining what success truly means.

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In this episode, I discuss:

• The difference between “quiet quitting” and “the quiet breakup.”
• How the pandemic created space for reflection and gave many women permission to listen to their inner voice for the first time in years.
• The new landscape of work: A surge of women founding companies, consulting, creating platforms, and leading with authenticity, empathy, and intuition.
• A powerful reflection exercise: the Work Meaning Map, to help you locate your own alignment between fulfillment, contribution, and freedom.
• Actionable strategies for exploring deeper meaning at work, resisting external validation, and fueling curiosity and connection through supportive communities.

If you’re feeling restless in your career or questioning what’s next, this episode offers both insight and inspiration, reminding you that honoring your truth is not just a personal shift; it’s changing the world.

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When life feels like an endless list of demands, how do you find peace and safety in your own body?

This week on The Change Effect, we're joined by Carly Catherine, Certified Teacher, Emotional Success Coach, and founder of The Healing Hive. In this episode, she shares how nervous system regulation and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) tapping helped her move from exhaustion and hyper-independence to a life of emotional expansion, creative joy, and authentic self-trust.

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Carly Catherine is an Ontario Certified Teacher and EFT Practitioner who helps women and educators move from survival mode to emotional expansion through nervous system regulation and EFT tapping. After years of people-pleasing, over-functioning, and pouring everything into her students, family, and work, Carly hit a breaking point—realizing she’d built a life that looked “successful,” but left nothing for her.

Through the practice of EFT tapping and nervous system work, she began unwinding patterns of hyper-independence and self-abandonment, learning to feel safe in her body, express her emotions, and reclaim joy, creativity, and purpose.

Now, she teaches others to do the same, bridging science and soul to help women and educators regulate stress, build emotional capacity, and lead from self-trust instead of burnout.

Carly is the founder of The Healing Hive, a global EFT tapping membership and community for women, and she also leads workshops in schools and organizations focused on emotional regulation, well-being, and embodied leadership.

In this episode, Carly and I discuss:

• Carly’s journey from chronic people-pleasing and burnout to reclaiming her voice and joy with nervous system regulation.
• The science and practice of EFT tapping
• Practical ways to use tapping in everyday life
• How modeling nervous system regulation in the classroom helps students (and teachers) break cycles of dysregulation and discover emotional safety early.
• Why asking for help and setting boundaries aren’t signs of weakness, but the ultimate acts of strength and self-honor.

Whether you’re new to EFT tapping or searching for real tools to navigate stress, anxiety, or burnout, Carly’s story offers practical insights and encouragement to find safety and possibility within.

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This week on The Change Effect, I talk about how speaking your truth can change well, frankly - everything!

In this short but mighty episode, I address something that's at the core of every personal transformation – finding your voice and learning to trust it.

If we can’t find our voice, we can’t find our truth and at the end of the day, isn't the truth what life is all about? Recognizing what is true for you and lending your voice to your feelings, beliefs, and preferences even in those difficult moments, is honoring yourself at the highest level.

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In this episode, I discuss:

• The energetic connection between your voice, authenticity, and the throat chakra.
• Common ways we learn to package our truth for safety and how this affects connection and self-expression.
• Simple, practical strategies to access and strengthen your voice.
• A powerful “truth audit” exercise to help you explore where you’re expressing yourself freely, where you’re holding back, and what one truth you can express today to feel a greater sense of freedom.

If you’re ready to step up, get unstuck, and claim more joy and authenticity in your life, this episode will encourage you to say what you mean with greater purpose and honesty. Give it a listen, share it with someone who needs to hear it and start speaking your truth today!

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What does it mean to truly say “enough” and rewrite your own story in the middle of life’s chaos?

This week on The Change Effect, I welcome back midlife sobriety coach Lori Massicot, founder of Team Alcohol Free, for a candid and empowering conversation about embracing change, breaking free from alcohol, and finding deeper peace and purpose in midlife.

After decades of using alcohol to cope with anxiety, doubts, and the demands of daily life, Lori reached her turning point with an unshakeable realization that she was ready for more.

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Lori Massicot is a Midlife Sobriety Coach and founder of Team Alcohol-Free, a global community for women who are ready to redefine their relationship with alcohol and reclaim their lives with clarity, confidence, and purpose. After decades of using alcohol to cope with anxiety, self-doubt, and the pressure to do and be everything, Lori decided to stop drinking and start living.

In 2013, she reached a powerful turning point. She chose to walk away from the numbing cycle of drinking - not because she hit a dramatic rock bottom, but because she was ready for more. More joy. More energy. More life. Now, over a decade alcohol-free, Lori has helped thousands of women navigate the emotional, social, and identity shifts that come with sobriety in midlife.

Through her private coaching, thriving community and top-ranked podcast To 50 & Beyond, She offers a compassionate and empowering approach to sobriety free from labels, shame, or perfection. She believes sobriety isn’t about giving something up, it’s about getting your life back.

In this episode, Lori and I discuss:

• The myth of “rock bottom” and why real change begins with your decision, not a catastrophic event.
• How negotiating and bargaining with alcohol keeps us stuck
• Navigating the unique challenges of quitting alcohol in midlife
• The ways alcohol-free living can bring clarity, emotional freedom, and renewed energy during the perimenopause and menopause transition.
• The importance of accountability, support, and community when breaking free from drinking
• Rediscovering your true self, embracing self-care, and finding peace with “being enough” at every age.
• The ongoing journey of recovery, self-compassion, and redefining success beyond productivity and external achievements.
• Why change is the catalyst for creating the life you deeply desire.

If you’re contemplating your relationship with alcohol, struggling with change in midlife, or simply ready to put yourself at the center of your own story, this honest and inspiring episode is for you.

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Episode #24: High Functioning Alcoholism and Hiding Your Drinking

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In a world that never seems to slow down, it's easy to wear busyness like a badge of honor and ignore the subtle signals of stress and anxiety brewing beneath the surface.

This week on The Change Effect, we’re diving deep into the everyday experience of stress and anxiety and more importantly, provides simple, actionable tools to help you regulate, reset, and turn overwhelm into powerful new beginnings.

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In this episode, I discuss:

• The different forms of stress and how they show up physically, emotionally, and behaviorally.
• How stress and anxiety manifest in the body
• Practical tools to regulate stress and anxiety
• The power of mindset shifts and how these create resilience.
• The importance of self-expression and conscious attention to your thoughts

When you learn to understand its language, you gain the power to proactively manage its effects and transform even the most challenging moments into opportunities for positive change.

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Content Warning: This episode has brief mentions of suicidal ideations.

What does it mean to reclaim your identity after surviving years of trauma and emotional manipulation? For so many women, toxic relationship patterns leave deep marks that quietly shape our future choices, our self-image, and our ability to set healthy boundaries. This week on The Change Effect, I am joined by Darla Ridilla– certified Somatic Trauma Informed Relationship Coach and founder of High Value Women—to talk healing, self-trust, and the power of becoming whole.

After enduring cycles of narcissistic abuse and years of feeling “too much” or “too emotional,” Darla found herself at rock bottom, only to rise again and rebuild her life from the inside out. In this episode, Darla opens up about her path through dysfunctional relationships, breaking generational patterns, and helping other women reclaim their inner power.

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Darla Ridilla is a certified somatic trauma-informed relationship coach who helps high-achieving women stop shrinking themselves in relationships and start showing up as their full, unfiltered selves. After decades of looking successful on the outside while secretly navigating toxic patterns behind closed doors, Darla broke free from emotionally unavailable partners, codependent cycles, and the lie that she had to tone herself down to be loved.

Today, she helps women who are done being told they're "too much" — too intense, too emotional, too successful — reclaim their power and stop settling in any relationship that demands self-abandonment. Whether it’s a partner, boss, friend, or family member, Darla shows her clients how to set radical boundaries, trust their inner wisdom, and build connection without sacrifice. A dynamic speaker, published author, and host of You Have the Power: The Road to Truth, Freedom and Real Connection, Darla equips women with the tools to stop proving and start choosing — so they can create relationships that honor the powerhouse they are.

In this episode, Darla and I discuss:

• Signs and cycles of narcissistic abuse and the painful process of breaking free.
• How shame, self-doubt, and grief compound the difficulty of leaving toxic partnerships (and how Darla overcame it).
• The process of self-discovery, learning to embrace her “too muchness,” and setting higher standards for relationships moving forward.
• Key steps Darla now uses to help women recognize brainwashing, rebuild after abuse, and create healthy boundaries without shrinking or settling.
• Why true healing goes deeper than self-love; it’s about becoming whole, accepting yourself as you are, and never apologizing for your innate traits.

If you’ve ever questioned your worth, doubted your judgment, or felt trapped in unhealthy relationship patterns, this powerful conversation will remind you: you are not broken, healing is possible, and the path to self-trust starts from within.

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We've all had moments where our intuition nudges us toward something bigger, whether it's starting a new business, mentoring others, or simply wanting more fulfillment from our work.

But what happens when the desire for change grows stronger than your reasons to stay in a life you've known for so long?

This week on The Change Effect, I’m unpacking one of the most transformative (and scary) decisions you can make: leaving your corporate job to step into a life that's truly your own.

Drawing on my own experience, I share practical insights, mindset shifts, and a roadmap to prepare for this life-changing move. If you’re restless, burned out, or yearning for a new challenge, this episode will help you spot the signs, overcome fear, and plan your exit with confidence.

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In this episode, I discuss:

• My own journey of leaving my seemingly “perfect” corporate job to explore new avenues.
• Tell-tale signs it might be time for you to make a change in your life.
• Essential mindset shifts for leaving the stability of corporate life.
• Step-by-step strategies for planning your exit.

If you’re feeling the nudge to explore life beyond the nine-to-five, I invite you to reach out, share your story, and become part of a growing community of change makers.

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Change can upend us in ways we never expect, yet so often, our toughest seasons become the fertile ground for our greatest growth. This week on The Change Effect, I welcome Sarah Brown, whose life’s path has been marked by profound transformation through sobriety, the loss of an 18-year marriage, and a breast cancer diagnosis.

Drawing from her work as an executive coach, her journey along the Camino de Santiago, and her guiding philosophy of amor fati—to love one’s fate—Sarah has emerged not just as a survivor, but as a voice of compassion, wisdom, and hope for others traveling through their own storms.

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Sarah is a seasoned executive coach and People & Culture leader who seamlessly blends therapeutic insights with practical, solution-based business coaching. With a Masters in Clinical Counseling and over three decades of executive coaching experience, she began her career counseling high-risk children before pivoting to work with teams and leaders at Fortune 500 companies, including a major Cincinnati healthcare system.

A firm believer in the philosophy of Amor Fati (loving one's fate), Sarah draws on her personal journey—which includes overcoming alcohol abuse, divorce, and a cancer diagnosis—to foster resilience and potential in others, a theme she explores further on her podcast, Failing Forward.

In this episode, Sarah and I discuss:

• Sarah’s journey of sobriety, the end of her marriage, surviving breast cancer and finding new love.
• Walking the Camino de Santiago as a spiritual pilgrimage that mirrored her own healing.
• The role of intuition and how listening to her body, even amidst doubt and trauma, shaped every pivotal decision.
• Navigating “the gifts inside suffering,” and how adversity became her soil for new beginnings in love, purpose, and work.
• The power of vision boards, synchronicity, and trusting in the unknown when dreaming a new life into reality.

Whether you’re walking through a difficult chapter, seeking to reframe your pain, or searching for wisdom in your own process of becoming, Sarah’s story is a testament to resilience, radical acceptance, and the healing that comes with embracing our story—no matter how it unfolds.

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