Consensual non-monogamy (CNM) is something everyone seems to have an opinion on, but many people’s views are decidedly negative. For example, people often say things like “open relationships never work,” and “how is that any different than cheating?” In today’s show, we’re going to dive into common CNM myths and misconceptions and separate fact from fiction.

My guest is Dr. Justin Mogilski, an associate professor of psychology at the University of South Carolina Salkehatchie, where he teaches courses on human sexuality, the psychology of marriage, and evolutionary psychology.

Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:

• What the difference between CNM and infidelity?
• How is cheating within a CNM relationship similar to or different from cheating in a monogamous relationship?
• What are some of the logistical and emotional challenges in CNM relationships?
• What are some of the key components to a successful CNM relationship?
• How is CNM related to sexual health and safer-sex practices?

You can click this link to read Dr. Mogilski’s large-scale study on consensual non-monogamy.

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Many parts of female sexual anatomy have long been misunderstood, but the clitoris is chief among them. Throughout history, the clitoris is something that has repeatedly been discovered, described, and then forgotten. In today’s show, we’re going revisit one of my favorite conversations from the archives and talk all about the history and science of the clitoris.

My guest is Dr. Maria Uloko, a board certified urologist specializing in comprehensive sexual health, reconstruction and prosthesis. A former clinical professor at the University of California San Diego, Dr. Uloko is now the CEO of MUMD Sexual Medicine Consulting and the founder of VULVAi, an innovative patient advocacy tool that employs AI to aid patients grappling with vulvovaginal issues.

Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:

• Why has it taken so long for us to gain a solid scientific understanding of the clitoris?
• How many nerve endings are actually in the clitoris?
• How can a better understanding of clitoral anatomy help to improve sexual health and pleasure?
• Is there really a difference between clitoral and vaginal orgasms?
• What is the role of testosterone in clitoral health and wellness?

You can visit Maria’s website to learn more about her work.

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It’s November again, and that means a bunch of people on the internet are giving up masturbation for the month. While “No Nut November” is a relatively recent phenomenon, it actually has deep roots and reflects humans’ longstanding and very complicated relationship with self-pleasure. In this show, we’re talking about the history of masturbation and why people are so conflicted over it.

My guest is Dr. Eric Sprankle, an Associate Professor of Clinical Psychology and the co-director of the Sexuality Studies program at Minnesota State University, Mankato. He’s also a licensed clinical psychologist and AASECT-certified sex therapist affiliated with the Minnesota Sexual Health Institute. His latest book is DIY: The Wonderfully Weird History and Science of Masturbation.

Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:

• Where does the idea of masturbation as sinful originate?
• Historically, how have religious and political figures dissuaded people from masturbating?
• When did masturbation start to become a public health concern?
• How has the rise of social media coincided with the rise of negative views of masturbation?

You can visit Eric’s website to learn more about his work.

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