In this episode of STEPS Together, Debra Johnson, MS, OTR/L, explores what it really means to “work too hard” as a parent or caregiver—not in chores or daily tasks, but emotionally. When we try to control every behavior, feeling, or outcome, we often end up drained, stressed, and disconnected from our children. Instead of striving for control, there’s a different path: focusing on what is really yours to control and fostering connection. Tune in to learn how letting go of what’s not yours to carry can reduce your stress, strengthen your relationship with your child, and create space for both of you to grow.

Supporting a child with unique needs comes with layers most people never see — balancing school meetings, therapy sessions, sensory needs, and emotional ups and downs, all while trying to connect and guide. It’s a constant juggle of time, energy, and emotions that can leave you feeling misunderstood, second-guessing yourself, and wondering if you’re doing enough. Whether you are a parent, educator, childcare provider or healthcare professional you know how hard it is to be present and "on" for a child with different needs.

In this episode, I See You: Acknowledging the Hard Work Behind Every Step Forward, we take a compassionate, judgment-free look at the reality of working closely with children whose needs go beyond the expected. You’ll hear a powerful reminder that struggling doesn’t mean failing — it means you’re human, showing up in ways the rest of the world may never fully see.

We’ll reframe self-criticism into recognition of effort, exploring how “trying” — whether it’s taking a deep breath before responding, researching new strategies, showing up for therapy, or simply being present during a hard moment — is success in motion. We’ll also uncover the hidden wins that matter most: building trust, modeling resilience, and helping children grow one step at a time.

You’ll walk away with practical strategies to keep learning and growing without burning out, from focusing on one change at a time to giving yourself the same compassion you offer the children in your care. Because supporting kids isn’t about perfection — it’s about alignment, connection, and the courage to keep going.

By the end, you’ll be reminded: You are not failing. You are trying. You are learning. And that is enough.

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"Why won't they just listen?!" If you've found yourself asking this question (maybe even more than once today), you are NOT alone! In this episode, I explore what adults really mean when they say "they don't listen," unpack what really going on for the child, and identify a few simple strategies that you can implement today to shift that behavior and improve cooperation. From executive function challenges and sensory processing differences, to emotional regulation and language processing disorders, there's often much more beneath the surface that has nothing to do with defiance.

So, let's start shifting from being frustrated at lack of follow through or kids "doing whatever they want" by using practical strategies that really work - rooted in developmental approaches and based on neuroscience. I'll talk about ways to truly engage your child's attention, how to adjust your communication style to fit your child's needs, and why co-regulation is often more effective than correction. If you're ready to stop repeating yourself, eliminate the power struggles and start building understanding for real change, this episode is for you!