If you have social anxiety, a lot of the time people associate that with shyness or introversion. It can be a bit strange to find out that extroverts might also struggle with social interactions and anxiety. These feelings are not mutually exclusive to one type of person!

We should clarify and define what introversion vs. extroversion is. People who are introverted prefer to recharge when they’re alone and extroverts tend to get their energy when they’re with people. However, when you are an outgoing person by nature with social anxiety, you can have an internal conflict happening.

There is also this notion that extroverted people are naturally the life of the party. When extroverts have an expectation to fill, this can cause even more nervousness for them, especially if they are known to be ‘fun and always down for a good time’. This is why it’s so important to not put people into boxes because none of us are immune to these feelings of insecurity, anxiety, and self-doubt.

If you’re an extrovert that craves to be around people, but you feel overwhelmed by their expectations or you feel like you have to ‘perform’ for others, then it’s important to start small. Go for the less-effort tiers of social situations that are not as triggering for you. This might be going to a friend’s house and just playing a video game together. This might be getting a cup of coffee, or doing a pet walking date. There are many low-tier ways to recharge your social battery without having the spotlight shine on you.

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Let’s talk about conscious parenting. It is very common to go through a rollercoaster of emotions when trying to raise your child, especially if you’re a first time parent. Sometimes we lose our cool and we don’t always react appropriately to a situation.

Kamini recently witnessed a father completely lose his cool and berate his daughter for walking off and out of sight. It can be scary to lose your child! However, this father was screaming at his 5-year-old daughter and it brought up some very uneasy feelings at how young this child was to be receiving this level of treatment.

The father even said at one point, “Name all the ways you were bad today.” Wow! It can be easy to judge, but this is how moments like this get internalized for children and carried into adulthood. This was very shaming language to use and not a great way to treat another person, much less a developing child.

It was obvious the father was in a dysregulated state due to something frightening occurring, but it is our jobs as parents to control ourselves and communicate to the best of our ability. If we are in this state, it’s important to recognize it and take time for ourselves to calm down, and then we can parent from an empowered and conscious state.

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Self-care doesn’t mean you have to treat yourself to a lavish spa day or spend large quantities of money to take care of yourself. Your self is as personal and as intimate as you want it to be. A self-care day could simply mean finding low-tier ways to rejuvenate your spiritual, emotional, social, and physical well-being.

We want to think of self-care as a space that you create that allows you to reset and destress from the chaotic world. What that looks like varies from individual to individual. The act of self-care is the act of being self-ful and not an act of being selfish. So many chronic overpleasers and people who are on the verge of burnout feel such a sense of guilt and dread when they take some time just ‘for themselves’. Instead, we should re-frame self-care in a positive light. It should be as necessary as brushing your teeth in the morning.

What are the 7 pillars of self-care? We have physical health, emotional well-being, social connection, spiritual fulfillment, personal development, environmental management, and finally, we have financial stability. Now that we know what the 7 pillars of self-care are, we can find creative ways to cultivate and energize these pillars based on our lifestyle, values, and schedule.

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