In this episode, we confront common misconceptions about predator behaviors with insight from retired deputy sheriff Joy Farrow and survivor-advocate Laura Frombach. Together, they reveal how predatory tactics unfold through subtle tests, familiar social scripts, and systemic blind spots—and discuss how to interrupt these patterns before they escalate into crisis.

We start by redefining safety, looking at it through the lens of prevention. Drawing on years of frontline experience, Joy Farrow describes a shift: where once the evidence of harm was visible bruises, now it is visible fear. She explains how coercive control operates—isolating, restricting, and terrorizing without leaving physical marks. Laura Frombach adds a personal perspective, describing the lived experience of “mind colonization,” in which choices gradually shrink and even simple decisions begin to feel manipulated.

Both Farrow and Frombach emphasize the importance of pattern recognition. They teach us to identify predatory behaviors: microtests of boundaries, subtle nudges for compliance, violations of personal space, and how a moment’s hesitation can give predators the time they need to act.

Using the 2022 University of Idaho murders as a backdrop, we analyze how planning, surveillance, and a sense of entitlement often contradict the “he snapped” narrative. The case against Bryan Kohberger, a convicted murderer, demonstrates a crucial distinction: progress, such as sobriety or earning a new degree, does not equate to genuine change in mindset or safety.

We then shift the focus to solutions. These include implementing practical home security layers, maintaining stricter control over access and location sharing, and using everyday tools such as pepper spray and personal alarms. Farrow and Frombach also advocate for a cultural shift—honoring intuition and acting on early warning signs, rather than waiting for a crisis to make headlines. Institutions are also encouraged to strengthen their early warning systems and to respond to the first red flag.

If you have ever sensed that something was wrong and hesitated to act, this conversation provides language, tools, and actionable next steps. We encourage you to subscribe for ongoing information, share this episode with someone who could benefit, and leave a review detailing the safety habits you are adopting. Your shared story could help someone else trust their instincts in the future.

The numbers are staggering, but the stories are even more urgent: sex trafficking thrives where demand goes unchecked and myths cloud our judgment. Today we sit down with human rights attorney Yasmin Vafa, co‑founder and executive director of Rights for Girls, to pull the curtain back on how this market really works—and why centering girls’ voices is the key to stopping it. From courtroom biases that turn victims into defendants to the hobby boards where men casually review the people they buy, we map the hidden infrastructures of exploitation with clarity and care.

Yasmin breaks down the “abuse to prison pipeline” and explains how forced criminality and self‑defense cases trap survivors—often Black girls—in adult courts. We discuss adultification bias, the blurred line between trafficking and prostitution, and language that normalizes harm. Then we go straight to the root: demand. Drawing from the report Buyers Unmasked, we examine buyer attitudes, the role of pornography and entitlement, and why credible buyer accountability programs focus on changing beliefs, not just counting arrests.

Policy is where culture meets consequence. We compare full decriminalization—removing penalties for buying, pimping, and brothels—with the survivor model adopted in places like Sweden and Maine, which decriminalizes the sale of sex while holding traffickers and buyers to account. You’ll hear how fines can fund survivor services, how major sporting events attract sex tourism, and why the “Sex Buying Isn’t A Game” campaign tackles this surge head‑on. Practical takeaways include how to support survivor‑led services, advocate for buyer accountability laws, and bring The Right Track documentary to your community.

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The statistics related to domestic violence are sobering, but the story behind them is even more complex—and too often misunderstood. In this episode, we dig into how popular frameworks for understanding domestic violence took hold and how survivors play a role in shaping those frameworks - and thereby enhancing our understanding of abuse.

Our guests, Melissa Scaia and Dr. Lisa Young Larance, bring decades of frontline practice, research, and program design to this conversation. Melissa explains how the Duluth Model emerged from listening sessions, and why anger management fails when entitlement—not emotion—is the root of abuse. Lisa introduces the “arrest web,” showing how coercive partners weaponize preferred arrest policies and police interviews, leading to survivors over confessing while abusers stay calm and quiet. We examine plea pressures, court silencing, criminalized survivors and the ripple effects of probation and child protection that can replicate intimate harm. We also discuss how oppression theory and intersectionality help to explain why women of color are arrested more and believed less, regardless of stand-your-ground or duty-to-retreat frameworks. Practical takeaways include better police questioning, expert-informed court processes, and agency support that moves beyond the victim–offender binary to truly increase safety and autonomy.

A late-night call, a closed clinic, and a stack of unanswered emails set the stage for one of the most determined quests for justice you’ll hear this year. We walk through Kaitlin Hurley’s drug-facilitated rape in Antigua, the UK police officer who tried to outrun accountability, and the father who refused to let an international border or a slow bureaucracy be the end of the story.

We start with the numbers—why sexual violence remains vastly underreported and how rates in the UK and the Eastern Caribbean highlight a global crisis—then move into the granular realities of response: trauma-informed policing that helped, harmful missteps that nearly derailed the case, and the crucial role of preserved messages and medical evidence. From there, we open the black box of extradition. You’ll hear how errors stalled requests, why a UK judge first denied removal over prison conditions, and how coordinated diplomacy, detailed prison audits, and a high-level sign-off finally brought the perpetrator back to face trial and a 15-year sentence.

Beyond the courtroom, we tackle the cultural work that actually reduces harm. We discuss practical safety for online dating without shifting blame to survivors, and we press into prevention that starts with men—building respect, empathy, and consent as norms. Derrick Hurley shares how this case reshaped his life, from writing Antiguan Justice: A Father’s Fight to delivering trauma-informed training and supporting communities with high rates of missing and murdered Indigenous women.

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In this episode, two parent-advocates - each with a child diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) - share how ASD shapes communication, safety, and trust, and why lived experience should guide training for police, firefighters, EMTs, and courts. Together with Cheryl Stehle and Jamiel Owens, we explore misread behaviors, practical de-escalation, family preparation, and the need for policy that reduces harm.

When neurodivergent people interact with first responders a single misunderstanding can turn a routine interaction into a crisis. We sit down with two parents whose lived experience with ASD reshaped how they see safety, communication, and trust—and how first responders can, too. Their personal stories and experiences move from early fear about ASD and confusing diagnoses to purposeful advocacy that prioritizes dignity and practical skills.

We unpack what ASD really means in day-to-day life—why one person’s eye contact challenges or stimming are not defiance, and how processing time, clear language, or a written prompt can lower the temperature fast. Jamiel shares how fatherhood and his role at the Center for Autism Research inform an approach that treats difference as a lens, not a deficit. Cheryl explains how AUTT training equips police, firefighters, EMTs, and juvenile probation with field-ready habits: pause to observe, ask neutral questions about communication needs, and look for tools like blue envelopes, ID cards, or a support contact. The message is simple and actionable: just ask, then adjust.

We also talk about preparation within the family especially when domestic violence is present. An autism go-bag with headphones, comfort items, and a communication device can restore predictability during stressful moves or shelter entry. We discuss emergency preparedness practices for people living with ASD such as visiting police stations, seeing emergency response gear up close, and rehearsing traffic-stop steps that can prevent sensory shock and build confidence. Finally, we push for systems change: mandate recurring, lived-experience-led autism training across public safety platforms; create policy that normalizes optional license notations and standardized info kits; and fund community-curated resource hubs that actually meet families where they are.

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One decision in the interview room can change a life—or ruin it. We sit down with interrogation expert David Thompson to unpack why survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault, and trafficking are uniquely vulnerable to false confessions, and how science‑backed interviewing protects truth without compromising justice. The conversation moves past TV tropes and into what the data actually show: a significant share of DNA exonerations include confessions that never should have happened. We explore the three core errors that drive these outcomes—misclassification, coercion, and contamination—and translate them into plain‑language risk points that any investigator, advocate, or attorney can spot and fix.

Rather than glorifying confrontation, we focus on curiosity, empathy, and structure. David explains how trauma‑informed, rapport‑based interviewing increases disclosure, accuracy, and case solvability—all backed by large-scale field studies. We talk about why behavioral “lie detection” fails, how the false evidence tactic breeds memory distrust, and what simple safeguards—recording, open‑ended prompts, time limits, legal counsel, trained advocates—do to keep both survivors and cases safe. Along the way, we examine gendered bias in financial abuse cases - pointing to an example featured in the Netflix documentary film, "Tinder Swindler." We also explore youth and disability as vulnerability multipliers, and the ripple effects wrongful convictions have on public trust and real offender accountability.

If you work in law enforcement, legal practice, advocacy, or forensic nursing—or you’re simply a citizen who cares about justice—this discussion offers a practical roadmap to prevent harm while getting better results.

Pregnancy should be a time of joy and anticipation, but for thousands of American women each year, it becomes the most dangerous period of their lives. In this eye-opening conversation with Professor Elizabeth Tobin-Tyler of Brown University, we explore the shocking reality that homicide is a leading cause of traumatic death for pregnant and postpartum women, accounting for 31% of maternal injury deaths.

Professor Tobin-Tyler draws on her unique background spanning both law and public health to explain how pregnancy often triggers escalating violence in abusive relationships. When an abuser's need for control meets the shifting attention and resources that accompany pregnancy, the results can be deadly—particularly for Black women, who die at five times the rate of white women from homicide during pregnancy.

We dive into the complex systems that fail pregnant survivors, from healthcare settings where brief appointments and the presence of abusers make disclosure difficult, to legal frameworks that inadequately protect women from armed abusers. The conversation explores innovative solutions like medical-legal partnerships that bring lawyers into healthcare settings to address both medical and social determinants of health simultaneously.

The ripple effects of this violence extend far beyond individual families. Children exposed to domestic violence face lifelong health consequences, creating an estimated $8 billion annual economic burden across healthcare, education, and criminal justice systems. Despite these staggering costs, funding for research and services continues to face cuts.

You'll come away from this conversation with a new understanding of how Medicaid access, firearm regulations, and community-based services can save lives, along with practical advice for supporting pregnant survivors in your own community. Professor Tobin-Tyler challenges us all to stop normalizing violence against women and to recognize pregnant women as valuable human beings in their own right—not just as vessels for their children.

What happens when protection orders fail? In November 2019, Tiffany Hill did everything by the book to protect herself from her abusive husband. She reported his violence, obtained no-contact orders, and worked closely with law enforcement. Yet she was still murdered in front of her children and mother while sitting in her car outside an elementary school.

Former Washington State Senator Lynda Wilson had already recognized this deadly gap in victim protection. Years before Tiffany's murder, Wilson had introduced legislation for GPS monitoring with real-time victim notification—a system that creates electronic "geofences" around domestic violence survivors. Had this technology been in place, Tiffany might have received a warning when her estranged husband approached, potentially saving her life.

This powerful episode brings together three key figures who transformed this tragedy into lifesaving change: Senator Wilson, whose own childhood experiences with domestic violence fueled her advocacy; Sergeant Tanya Wollstein of the Vancouver Police Department, who investigated Tiffany's case and now implements the monitoring program; and Senior Deputy Prosecuting Attorney Lauren Boyd, who fought for higher bail to keep Tiffany's killer behind bars.

Their conversation reveals both the frustrating limitations of our current legal system—including Washington's constitutional "right to bail" that allowed Tiffany's killer to be released—and the promising results of the technology that now bears her name. Today, approximately 240 domestic violence offenders in Clark County wear ankle monitors that alert victims when their abuser comes within 1,000 feet, with early data showing reduced recidivism rates.

Through heartbreaking details of Tiffany's story and illuminating insights into how the justice system works (and sometimes doesn't), this episode offers a masterclass in turning personal tragedy into community protection. Listen now to understand how this groundbreaking approach to victim safety might be implemented in your community.