In this episode, we confront common misconceptions about predator behaviors with insight from retired deputy sheriff Joy Farrow and survivor-advocate Laura Frombach. Together, they reveal how predatory tactics unfold through subtle tests, familiar social scripts, and systemic blind spots—and discuss how to interrupt these patterns before they escalate into crisis.

We start by redefining safety, looking at it through the lens of prevention. Drawing on years of frontline experience, Joy Farrow describes a shift: where once the evidence of harm was visible bruises, now it is visible fear. She explains how coercive control operates—isolating, restricting, and terrorizing without leaving physical marks. Laura Frombach adds a personal perspective, describing the lived experience of “mind colonization,” in which choices gradually shrink and even simple decisions begin to feel manipulated.

Both Farrow and Frombach emphasize the importance of pattern recognition. They teach us to identify predatory behaviors: microtests of boundaries, subtle nudges for compliance, violations of personal space, and how a moment’s hesitation can give predators the time they need to act.

Using the 2022 University of Idaho murders as a backdrop, we analyze how planning, surveillance, and a sense of entitlement often contradict the “he snapped” narrative. The case against Bryan Kohberger, a convicted murderer, demonstrates a crucial distinction: progress, such as sobriety or earning a new degree, does not equate to genuine change in mindset or safety.

We then shift the focus to solutions. These include implementing practical home security layers, maintaining stricter control over access and location sharing, and using everyday tools such as pepper spray and personal alarms. Farrow and Frombach also advocate for a cultural shift—honoring intuition and acting on early warning signs, rather than waiting for a crisis to make headlines. Institutions are also encouraged to strengthen their early warning systems and to respond to the first red flag.

If you have ever sensed that something was wrong and hesitated to act, this conversation provides language, tools, and actionable next steps. We encourage you to subscribe for ongoing information, share this episode with someone who could benefit, and leave a review detailing the safety habits you are adopting. Your shared story could help someone else trust their instincts in the future.

The numbers are staggering, but the stories are even more urgent: sex trafficking thrives where demand goes unchecked and myths cloud our judgment. Today we sit down with human rights attorney Yasmin Vafa, co‑founder and executive director of Rights for Girls, to pull the curtain back on how this market really works—and why centering girls’ voices is the key to stopping it. From courtroom biases that turn victims into defendants to the hobby boards where men casually review the people they buy, we map the hidden infrastructures of exploitation with clarity and care.

Yasmin breaks down the “abuse to prison pipeline” and explains how forced criminality and self‑defense cases trap survivors—often Black girls—in adult courts. We discuss adultification bias, the blurred line between trafficking and prostitution, and language that normalizes harm. Then we go straight to the root: demand. Drawing from the report Buyers Unmasked, we examine buyer attitudes, the role of pornography and entitlement, and why credible buyer accountability programs focus on changing beliefs, not just counting arrests.

Policy is where culture meets consequence. We compare full decriminalization—removing penalties for buying, pimping, and brothels—with the survivor model adopted in places like Sweden and Maine, which decriminalizes the sale of sex while holding traffickers and buyers to account. You’ll hear how fines can fund survivor services, how major sporting events attract sex tourism, and why the “Sex Buying Isn’t A Game” campaign tackles this surge head‑on. Practical takeaways include how to support survivor‑led services, advocate for buyer accountability laws, and bring The Right Track documentary to your community.

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The statistics related to domestic violence are sobering, but the story behind them is even more complex—and too often misunderstood. In this episode, we dig into how popular frameworks for understanding domestic violence took hold and how survivors play a role in shaping those frameworks - and thereby enhancing our understanding of abuse.

Our guests, Melissa Scaia and Dr. Lisa Young Larance, bring decades of frontline practice, research, and program design to this conversation. Melissa explains how the Duluth Model emerged from listening sessions, and why anger management fails when entitlement—not emotion—is the root of abuse. Lisa introduces the “arrest web,” showing how coercive partners weaponize preferred arrest policies and police interviews, leading to survivors over confessing while abusers stay calm and quiet. We examine plea pressures, court silencing, criminalized survivors and the ripple effects of probation and child protection that can replicate intimate harm. We also discuss how oppression theory and intersectionality help to explain why women of color are arrested more and believed less, regardless of stand-your-ground or duty-to-retreat frameworks. Practical takeaways include better police questioning, expert-informed court processes, and agency support that moves beyond the victim–offender binary to truly increase safety and autonomy.