What happens when the place teens go to connect becomes a channel for control? We dig into the real dynamics of tech-facilitated dating violence—how it starts, how it spreads across platforms, and how teens, parents, and advocates can disrupt it without demonizing the tools young people love.

Joined by Audace Garnett, director of SafetyNet at the National Network to End Domestic Violence, we unpack the core idea that technology isn’t the problem—abuse is. Audace brings two decades of survivor-centered expertise to explain how common features like DMs, location sharing, and shared passwords turn into leverage for power and control. We explore the rise of AI-generated intimate images, the emerging “Take It Down” efforts to remove harmful content, and why evidence preservation matters before blocking. You’ll hear the warning signs of grooming, the subtle shift from “care” to surveillance, and how social media culture often normalizes stalking and boundary violations as jokes or romance.

We also shine a light on the disproportionate impact on Black teen girls and the broader social and historical forces that drive those disparities. Rather than prescribing one-size-fits-all rules, we share realistic, teen-driven safety planning: privacy checkups, strong passwords and two-factor authentication, location limits, code words, trusted adult networks, and the simple “two-beat pause” before posting or replying. For parents, teachers, and coaches, we offer ways to turn doomscrolling into dialogue—using the very videos teens watch to spot red flags and rebuild media literacy and trust.

If you care about a teen in your life—or you’re a teen navigating digital relationships—this conversation brings clarity, language, and next steps you can use today. Subscribe, share this episode with someone who needs it, and leave a review to help more families find practical tools for safer, healthier online relationships.