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Notice That

Notice That

By: Jen Savage and Bridger Falkenstien
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  • Attachment-Focused EMDR with Deb Wesselmann: Children, Families & Trauma Recovery
    Apr 23 2026
    In this episode of Notice That: An EMDR Podcast, we sit down with internationally respected clinician, trainer, and author Deb Wesselmann to explore the powerful intersection of EMDR therapy, attachment wounds, childhood trauma, parenting, and relational healing.Deb shares her decades of experience integrating attachment theory with EMDR therapy, including practical ways therapists can work with children, parents, families, and adults carrying unresolved developmental trauma.We discuss:Why attachment trauma often lives beneath symptomsHow EMDR can help heal early relational woundsWorking with children using EMDRFamily therapy + EMDR integrationResourcing trust, safety, and connectionParents as part of the healing processParts work / ego states in EMDRHow therapists become corrective emotional experiencesWhy the therapeutic relationship still matters deeply in trauma workDeb also shares stories from training with Francine Shapiro in the early days of EMDR and how the field has evolved over time.If you're an EMDR therapist, trauma therapist, counselor, psychologist, or simply fascinated by healing relationships, this conversation is packed with wisdom.Learn more about Deb Wesselmann through her website: https://debrawesselmann.com/Learn more about training and professional development opportunities with Beyond Healing through our website: connectbeyondhealing.comDETAILED SHOW NOTESIntroductionBridger and Jen open the episode by discussing their upcoming EMDR Basic Trainings, hybrid learning model, consultation opportunities, and their emphasis on relationship-centered EMDR training.Meet Deb WesselmannDeb shares her background as:Former school teacherTherapist for 35+ yearsEMDR clinician since the mid-1990sCo-founder of the Attachment and Trauma Center in NebraskaLongtime specialist in attachment, trauma, adoption, children, and family healingHer journey into therapy began through witnessing the unmet emotional needs of children in school settings.Early EMDR with Francine ShapiroDeb reflects on training directly with Francine Shapiro when EMDR was still considered “experimental.”She discusses:Why she was initially skepticalHer powerful practicum experienceHow EMDR differed from hypnosisWhy EMDR felt safer, gentler, and more effective for trauma treatmentWhy Attachment and EMDR Fit So WellDeb explains how EMDR naturally supports attachment healing because it helps process:mistrustabandonment woundsrelational fearunresolved griefabuse memoriesdevelopmental traumaShe emphasizes that attachment styles are shaped through experience—not fixed identity.What Didn’t Happen Matters TooOne of the most powerful moments of the episode:Healing is not only about processing what happened to clients...It is also about grieving and repairing what never happened:protectionsoothingattunementnurturesafetyemotional co-regulationParts Work / Ego States in EMDRDeb and the hosts discuss:ego statesparts languagemultiplicity of selfinternalized child partswounded protector partsThey explore how parts work deepens EMDR treatment, especially with complex trauma.Deb’s Integrative Family EMDR ModelDeb outlines her step-by-step model for working with children and families:Phase 1:Parent psychoeducation and case conceptualizationHelping parents understand:“This is not a bad child.”“This is a wounded child in survival mode.”Phase 2:Family preparation and regulation workIncluding:body regulation exerciseswindow of tolerance educationplayful nervous system workemotional literacyPhase 3:Attachment-focused EMDR resourcingExamples:parent-child connection exercisesmessages of lovesoothing touchbilateral stimulation paired with relational safetyhealing the “little one inside”When Parents Are the BarrierDeb speaks honestly about difficult cases where caregivers are emotionally unsafe, resistant, or abusive.The hosts discuss how therapists may need to pivot toward:supporting the child directlygrief workcoping strategiesbecoming a safe relational templateThe Therapist as Attachment ResourceA major theme of the conversation:The therapeutic relationship itself becomes healing data.Bridger discusses inviting clients to:“Take my voice with you.”Meaning:internalize compassionremember safetyborrow regulationcarry supportive relational memory into distressThis is a beautiful section for therapists working with complex trauma.Why This Episode MattersThis conversation reminds us that EMDR is not merely protocol.It is also:relationaldevelopmentalembodiedattachment-informeddeeply humanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    1 hr and 1 min
  • "Cognitive" Interweaves in EMDR: From Scripts to Relational Process
    Apr 3 2026

    In this return to our Back to Basics series, we’re diving into one of the most misunderstood—and often over-scripted—parts of EMDR therapy: interweaves.

    If you were trained to think of interweaves as something you “pull out of a list” when a client gets stuck, you’re not alone. But what if interweaves aren’t about saying the right thing… and instead about understanding what the system needs next?

    In this episode, we explore:

    • What interweaves are actually doing in the brain and nervous system
    • Why “cognitive interweaves” are only part of the story
    • How stuckness in EMDR often reflects deeper relational and developmental patterns
    • The difference between interrupting processing vs. supporting movement
    • How to move from rigid scripts to relational, somatic, and intuitive interweaves
    • Why some interweaves increase distress—and why that’s not a failure


    We walk through core categories from Francine Shapiro's EMDR: Basic Principles, Protocols, and Procedures (responsibility, safety, and choice), while also expanding into a more integrative framework that includes:

    • Somatic interweaves
    • Affective interweaves
    • Relational and resource-based interweaves


    You’ll also hear real clinical reflections on:

    • Why “I’m confused…” doesn’t always land
    • How metaphor, imagery, and even humor can unlock stuck processing
    • When to stay out of the way… and when your presence matters most


    Ultimately, this conversation reframes interweaves not as a technique—but as a relational intervention grounded in attunement, timing, and case conceptualization.

    If you’ve ever found yourself thinking:

    “What do I say right now?”

    This episode will help you shift toward:

    “What does my client’s system need right now?”

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    1 hr and 2 mins
  • Can You Use EMDR During Pregnancy? Debunking the Biggest Myths with Beth Warren
    Apr 2 2026

    What happens when one of the most meaningful seasons of life—pregnancy and early parenthood—collides with trauma, grief, and attachment wounds?

    In this episode of Notice That, we sit down with perinatal mental health specialist Bethany Warren to explore how EMDR therapy can be used safely and effectively with pregnant and postpartum clients—and why so many clinicians have been taught otherwise.

    Together, we unpack:

    • The most common myths about EMDR in pregnancy (and what the research actually says)
    • Why “just resourcing” may unintentionally limit healing
    • How attachment wounds, identity shifts, and grief show up in the perinatal period
    • The difference between trauma and the deeper layers of loss
    • How EMDR helps untangle both present-day distress and long-standing relational patterns


    We also explore the emotional reality of becoming a parent—the unexpected grief, the vulnerability of attachment, and the ways our own histories come alive in this stage of life.

    This conversation is both clinically rich and deeply human—an invitation to rethink how we approach trauma, healing, and development in one of the most transformative seasons of life.

    Whether you’re an EMDR clinician or simply someone navigating parenthood, this episode offers a powerful lens into what it means to heal while becoming.

    Connect with Bethany Warren:

    • Website: https://bethanywarrenlcsw.com/
    • Perinatal EMDR Training (HAP): https://www.traumarecoveryhap.org/course/warren-perinatal-clients

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    1 hr and 6 mins
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I'm pretty new to EMDR Therapy and have forked out soooo much money for training and resources already, so I'm really thankful to have a podcast that gives genuine and helpful advice (and doesn't just tell me to buy their book). These episodes include lots of tips for everyone, including I imagine more seasoned EMDR therapists.

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