In this episode of the Not Ready Yet: Curating Conversations for the Aging Journey podcast, host Lisa Harper speaks with Veteran Advocate, Toni Moses about the complexities of navigating VA benefits for veterans and their families. Toni shares her personal journey as a Service-Disabled Veteran and emphasizes the importance of understanding available resources, including the role of Veteran Service Officers. The conversation covers essential documentation needed for claims, recent legislative changes affecting veterans, and the significance of support for caregivers. Toni provides valuable insights and case studies to illustrate the impact of advocacy on veterans' lives.

Takeaways

• Toni Moses is a Service-Disabled Veteran and advocate for veterans.
• Navigating the VA benefits system can be complex and overwhelming.
• Veteran Service Officers are crucial for assisting with claims.
• Documentation like the DD214 is essential for filing claims.
• Recent legislation has expanded benefits for veterans and their families.
• The VA has expedited processes for elderly or terminally ill veterans.
• Caregivers can access benefits for in-home care assistance.
• Many veterans may not know they are eligible for service-connected benefits.
• Disabled American Veterans provide comprehensive support for veterans.
• It's important for families to stay informed about changes in veteran benefits.

Resources

Disabled American Veterans - Office Locator

https://www.dav.org/find-your-local-office/

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In this episode of Not Ready Yet: Curating Conversations for the Aging Journey, Lisa Harper speaks with David MacMahan, founder of FairSplit.com, about the emotional complexities of dividing personal belongings during estate settlements. David shares his personal experiences that led him to create FairSplit, a platform designed to help families navigate the often difficult process of estate division with transparency and fairness. The conversation covers the importance of estate planning, the emotional attachments to belongings, and how AI technology can streamline the inventory process. David explains the FairSplit system, which allows families to list items, express their preferences, and ultimately divide belongings in a way that minimizes conflict. The episode emphasizes the need for open conversations about aging and estate planning, providing listeners with valuable insights and resources to prepare for these challenging discussions.

Takeaways

• David MacMahan founded FairSplit to help families divide belongings peacefully.
• Personal experiences with loss inspired David to create a better system for estate division.
• Transparency in estate planning can prevent conflicts among heirs.
• AI technology significantly reduces the time needed to inventory belongings.
• Emotional attachments to items can complicate the division process.
• Families often underestimate the overwhelm of estate division without a system.
• FairSplit allows for a structured and fair way to divide personal property.
• The emotional value of items often outweighs their monetary value.
• Open conversations about aging and estate planning are crucial for families.
• Utilizing technology can ease the burden of estate management.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to FairSplit and David MacMahan
01:43 The Emotional Dynamics of Estate Division
04:50 Personal Stories Behind the Passion
06:16 The Importance of Estate Planning
08:45 Utilizing AI for Home Inventory
10:22 Legal Considerations in Estate Division
11:29 The Value of Sentimental Items
14:24 Understanding True Value in Estates
19:19 How FairSplit Works
23:56 Navigating Family Divisions and Fairness
25:17 The Role of AI in Estate Management
26:51 Overcoming the Overwhelm of Moving
27:34 Engaging Family in the Process
29:19 Utilizing Technology for Inventory Management
30:48 Setting Expectations and Responsibilities
32:56 Avoiding Conflicts in Estate Division
33:51 Resources for Executors and Families
38:10 Promoting Transparency and Fairness
42:44 Proactive Planning for Family Assets

Resources

PROMO Code NRYTRYAI for the Starter Inventory ($79.99 value) found here: https://www.fairsplit.com/plans/home-inventory/

Resources Page for Sample Letter of Instruction and 5 Tips to avoid conflict in estates: https://www.fairsplit.com/helpful-tips-and-videos/

YouTube Channel for Dividing Things with David and other tips: https://www.youtube.com/@DivvyMaster

Printable flyers on this page: https://www.fairsplit.com/resources/printables/


Keywords

FairSplit, estate planning, emotional attachments, AI inventory, family conflict, personal belongings, estate division, downsizing, family resources, transparency

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In this episode of Not Ready Yet: Curating Conversations for the Aging Journey, Lisa Harper engages in a profound conversation with C. Vicki Gold, PT, MA, a semi-retired physical therapist, about the aging journey. At 81 years young, Vicki truly is a lifelong student of transformation. She has woven together science, movement, and personal growth in such a unique way. Vicki shares her insights on the importance of learning the ABCs of aging, which encompass alignment, breathing, and centering. She emphasizes the significance of self-talk, intentional living, and the role of feet in maintaining balance. Vicki also discusses her personal experiences with aging and offers practical advice for adult children on how to communicate effectively with their aging loved ones. The conversation is rich with strategies for enhancing quality of life as we age, encouraging listeners to embrace the journey with curiosity and resilience.

Takeaways

• Aging is a journey that can be embraced with curiosity.
• The ABCs of aging include alignment, breathing, and centering.
• Self-talk significantly impacts our mindset and actions.
• Feet play a crucial role in maintaining balance as we age.
• Intentional living is essential for a fulfilling life.
• Communication with aging loved ones should be open and respectful.
• Small, consistent actions can lead to significant changes.
• Aging can bring a sense of freedom and opportunity.
• It's important to challenge negative beliefs about aging.
• Practicing mindfulness and awareness can enhance quality of life.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Aging Conversations
01:43 The ABCs of Aging Safely
05:21 Mind-Body Connection in Aging
07:27 The Importance of Self-Talk
11:45 Challenging Aging Myths
16:27 The Power of Intention and Visualization
21:27 Understanding the Alexander Technique
25:09 The Central Cylinder and Postural Alignment
28:40 The Importance of Conscious Breathing
31:45 Breathing Techniques for Better Health
33:54 Embracing Aging and Personal Freedom
37:06 Effective Communication with Aging Parents
39:18 Encouraging Active Lifestyles in Loved Ones
41:10 The Book and Its Benefits

Resources

Link to Book: https://thera-fitness.com/the-book/

Email Vicki: vicki@thera-fitness.com

Social Media Links:
o Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheraFitness
o LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cvickigoldptma/
o Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/c.vicki.gold/

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In this episode of Not Ready Yet: Curating Conversations for the Aging Journey podcast, host Lisa Harper speaks with Scott Fischer, a leader in senior care, about the complexities of aging and the importance of having open conversations about senior living options. Scott shares his personal journey into the field, the nuances of placement in senior living, and the critical need for families to engage in discussions about aging before crises arise. The conversation emphasizes acceptance, preparation, and the emotional challenges families face as they navigate the aging process together.

Takeaways

• Scott Fischer has over 30 years of experience in healthcare and senior care.
• Placement professionals help families find suitable senior living options.
• Senior living encompasses various types of care, including independent and assisted living.
• CCRCs require a significant upfront fee for future healthcare needs.
• Families should start conversations about aging before a crisis occurs.
• Acceptance of aging is crucial for families to navigate the process.
• The importance of understanding the financial implications of senior living options.
• Families often face emotional challenges when discussing aging and care.
• It's essential to have a plan for aging to avoid urgent crises.
• Scott emphasizes the need for compassion and ethics in senior care.

Resources

Options for Senior Living

National Placement and Referral Alliance (NPRA)

Contact Scott

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In this episode of Not Ready Yet: Curating Conversations for the Aging Journey podcast, host Lisa Harper speaks with Melanie Henry, Founder and CEO of the Driver Cognitive Assessment Center (DCAC), and co-author of two books. They discuss the critical need for compassionate and objective assessments of older drivers, especially those experiencing cognitive decline. Melanie shares her personal journey into this field, the technology used for driver assessments, and practical tips for families to navigate the sensitive conversations around driving and aging. The episode emphasizes the importance of family involvement, recognizing cognitive and physical changes, and planning for transportation needs to ensure safety and dignity for aging loved ones.

Takeaways

• Melanie Henry founded the Driver Cognitive Assessment Center (DCAC) to address the gap in driver evaluations for older adults.
• Many families avoid discussing driving safety due to emotional challenges.
• Technology can play a role in assessing cognitive abilities related to driving.
• Family involvement is essential in recognizing changes in driving skills.
• Regular vision and hearing exams are vital for safe driving.
• Ride-alongs can provide valuable insights into an older adult's driving abilities.
• It's important to approach driving conversations with compassion and understanding.
• Isolation after losing driving privileges can significantly impact mental health.
• Planning for transportation needs can ease the transition away from driving.
• Age alone does not determine driving safety; cognitive and physical health are key factors.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Aging Conversations
01:37 Melanie's Journey into Driver Evaluation
03:32 Understanding Driver Assessment Technology
06:48 Navigating Difficult Conversations about Driving
15:21 Strategies for Family Conversations on Driving Safety
18:47 Understanding Cognitive Impairment and Driving
23:04 The Role of Vision and Cognition in Safe Driving
25:25 Assessing Physical Abilities for Driving
26:32 Planning for Transportation Needs
29:20 Fostering Independence and Community Engagement

Resources

Connect with Melanie Henry | melanie@dcacbayarea.com

Warning Signs Checklist

NAIPC 3rd book - Aging in Place Conversations - The Caregiver's Edition: Stories, Strategies, and Support for Aging in Your Community

Driver Cognitive Assessment Center

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#AgingJourney #AgingParents #FamilyCaregivers #CompassionateCare #AgingPopulation #FamilyMatters #Aging #DrivingSafety #ElderCare #CaregiverSupport #AgingInPlace #CognitiveAssessment #FamilyConversations #TransportationPlanning #AgingandDriving

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In this episode of Not Ready Yet: Curating Conversations for the Aging Journey, host Lisa Harper speaks with Tara Ballman, Executive Director of the National Aging in Place Council. They discuss the importance of proactive planning for aging, the five pillars of aging in place, and the role of technology in supporting older adults. Tara shares her personal journey into the aging space, emphasizing the need for open conversations about aging and the resources available to families. The conversation also touches on transportation, home safety, and financial planning, providing listeners with valuable insights and practical advice for navigating the aging process.

Takeaways

• Aging is a privilege that should be embraced.
• Proactive planning is essential for aging well.
• Transportation options are crucial for maintaining independence.
• Social engagement is a key pillar of aging in place.
• Technology can significantly enhance the aging experience.
• Home safety assessments can prevent falls and injuries.
• Conversations about aging should be ongoing and inclusive.
• Financial planning is vital for a secure future.
• Resources are available to assist families in the aging process.
• The National Aging in Place Council offers valuable support and information.

Resources

https://ageinplace.org/

Books
Aging in Place Conversations - The Caregiver's Edition: Stories, Strategies, and Support for Aging in Your Community

Aging in Place Conversations: What Industry Experts Have to Say

Difficult Aging in Place Conversations: What Industry Experts Have to Say

https://www.linkedin.com/in/taraballman/

taraballman@gmail.com

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#NotReadyYetWithLisa #SeniorHomeCoach #AgingParents #FamilyCaregivers #AgingPopulation #FamilyMatters
#Aging #Caregiving #FamilyPlanning #AgingPlan #LisaHarper
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In this episode, Lisa Harper speaks with Annalee Kruger, founder of Care Right, Inc. and the author of The Invisible Patient: The Emotional, Financial, and Physical Toll on Family Caregivers, about the challenges of aging, caregiving, and the importance of proactive planning. Annalee shares her extensive experience in senior care and emphasizes the need for families to have open conversations about aging and care options. The discussion covers essential tools for families, such as an Aging Plan, the emotional toll on caregivers, and the financial implications of inaction. Listeners are encouraged to create an aging plan to ensure their loved ones receive the best care possible while maintaining family harmony.

Takeaways

• Families often wait until a crisis to seek help.
• Proactive planning can prevent caregiver burnout.
• Understanding care options is crucial for families.
• Communication is key in family dynamics regarding aging.
• The caregiver often suffers in silence and is overlooked.
• An aging plan should include financial and care considerations.
• Families need to be educated about aging and care resources.
• The cost of emergency care can be exorbitant.
• It's important to have legal documents in order.
• Aging is a natural process that requires planning.

Resources

Care Right Inc.
https://carerightinc.com/

Grab 'N Go Binder
https://carerightinc.com/digital-grab-and-go/

The Invisible Patient: The Emotional, Financial, and Physical Toll on Family Caregivers
https://carerightinc.com/the-invisible-patient-book/

Annalee Kruger on LinkedIn
https://www.linkedin.com/in/annaleekruger/

#NotReadyYetWithLisa #SeniorHomeCoach #PodcastNotReadyYet
#AgingJourney #AgingParents #FamilyCaregivers #CompassionateCare #AgingPopulation #FamilyMatters
#Aging #Caregiving #FamilyPlanning, #ElderCare #CaregiverBurnout #AgingPlan #ProactivePlanning #FamilyDynamics #EndofLifePlanning
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In this episode of Not Ready Yet: Curating Conversations for the Aging Journey, Lisa Harper sits down with Dio and Christina Tadin, creators of Memcara—a web app designed to enhance dementia care through the power of music and imagery.

They share their personal journeys into music therapy, the inspiration behind Memcara, and the importance of engaging individuals with memory loss in meaningful ways. The conversation explores the effectiveness of music therapy, the role of original music, and the exciting research collaborations that are shaping Memcara’s impact.

With partnerships ranging from Universal Music Group to ongoing studies with Dartmouth Empower Labs at the Thayer School, Memcara pairs familiar songs with engaging visuals to support goals such as easing anxiety, boosting social interaction, and sustaining attention.

Caregivers and professionals alike will discover practical tools and heart-centered insights for creating stronger connections through music and visuals.

Takeaways

• The app provides a structured approach to memory care interventions.
• Memcara offers tools for both home caregivers and skilled nursing facilities.
• Memcara is designed to help caregivers connect with their loved ones.
• Music therapy can reach individuals with memory loss in profound ways.
• Caregivers should focus on what individuals can do, not what they can't.
• Combining music and visuals can stimulate cognitive functions.
• Research shows increased engagement with consistent use of music therapy.
• Sundowning is a common challenge in dementia care.
• Original music is crucial for effective reminiscence therapy.
• Patience and perseverance are key in dementia care.

Resources

www.memcara.com

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