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It's Not Me, It's You

It's Not Me, It's You

By: Vanessa Castillo and Matthew Castillo
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Love is messy. Dating is chaotic. And sometimes, it’s not you... it’s definitely them. Or is it? Join sibling duo Vanessa and Matthew Castillo (11 years apart but equally chaotic) as they dive into the wild world of relationships, fireside chat style. From ghosting and cringe-worthy situationships to long-term love and red flags we all ignore. Expect real talk, unfiltered laughs, and hard truths. Whether you’re single, cuffed, or somewhere in between, you’ll leave every episode feeling a little less alone, and a lot more entertained. Come for the laughs, stay for the relatable chaos. ♥️ 💔Vanessa Castillo and Matthew Castillo Relationships Social Sciences
Episodes
  • No More Lateral Moves: Your Dominatrix Guide to Housewifing
    Jul 21 2025

    She’s not your average housewife, she’s running the house, the schedule, and the bedroom. In this episode, we sit down with a real-life freaky housewife and talk about the power dynamics of love, control, and cooking in thigh-highs. No more settling. No more playing small. It’s time to upgrade your role, from passive partner to power player. Let’s talk dominance, devotion, and domesticity… all at once.

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    1 hr and 39 mins
  • Getting Ghosted, Accountability, & Simple Communication
    Jul 13 2025

    Ghosted again? Same. In this episode, your favorite chaotic sibling duo dives into the messiness of modern communication (or lack thereof). We’re talking about ghosting, breadcrumbing, avoiding hard convos, and why “just say how you feel” seems impossible for some. We also get into accountability in dating (yes, even yours 😬), the fine line between honesty and cruelty, and the underrated power of clear, simple communication. It’s raw, it’s funny, it’s painfully relatable. Tune in and let’s unpack the BS together.

    🎧 New episodes every week! Subscribe so you don’t miss the next one.

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    39 mins
  • She Moved for Love. Now She’s Moving Different.
    Jul 7 2025

    She left Boston for love.

    The love didn’t last.

    What came after… she’s still figuring out.


    This week on It’s Not Me, It’s You, we sit down with Lena the Stitcha... a guest who says less but makes you lean in more. She moved cities, changed chapters, and while she may not have all the answers, her presence says there’s more beneath the surface.


    We talk about starting over, the quiet in-between, and what it means to date when you’re still piecing together who you’ve become.


    Not everything was said, and maybe that’s the point.

    Listen in, lean closer, and see what you pick up.


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    1 hr and 16 mins

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