A familiar story about Gandhi is apocryphal, but nevertheless illustrates one of my Secrets of Adulthood: If we’re trying to encourage or enforce a particular behavior, we should be willing to observe that behavior ourselves.

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My friend Chip Conley joins the “Dan Buettner Podcast” to explain why the old idea of a “midlife crisis” holds us back and how reframing this stage can open the door to purpose, curiosity, and stronger connection in life after 50.

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As part of our Happier Podcast Book Club, we revisit our conversation with Michelle Zauner of Japanese Breakfast about her compelling bestselling memoir “Crying in H Mart.”

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• Crying in H Mart

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We report on our experience with the “Design Your Year” exercise of the annual challenge: Read 25 in ’25. We also reveal the annual challenge for 2026—join us.

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• Move 26 in 2026
• Visit the Happiness Project shop
• The science-backed trick that soothes an itch better than scratching
• Elizabeth: is coming into the end of War and Peace (Amazon, Bookshop)
• Gretchen is reading: Mothering Sunday by Graham Swift (Amazon, Bookshop)

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Do You Feel Like an Employee of Your Former Self? Renowned novelist Ian McEwan makes a funny observation about book tours that’s applicable to many familiar situations.

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Make entertaining easier. These simple hacks take the stress out of hosting and help you focus on what really matters: enjoying the people you’re with.

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We talk about why choosing a one-word theme for the year can be such a creative, constructive, and satisfying exercise. We review our words for 2025 and reveal our words for 2026. Plus we share an original and fun reason to have a party.

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• Amazing scene in Mad Men
• Work through my new Gift Idea Generator worksheet
• Elizabeth is reading: War and Peace by Leo Tolstoy (Amazon, Bookshop)
• Gretchen is reading: Couples by John Updike (Amazon, Bookshop)

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The gap between expectations and reality determines whether we feel happy or disappointed. From empty-nest parents hoping for daily texts to tourists experiencing "Paris syndrome," our expectations shape our emotions. Sometimes adjusting expectations—rather than changing reality—is the key to happiness.

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