In this powerful episode, we’re joined by the one and only Dustin Barnes, Founder and Lead Clinical Social Worker of Dustin Barnes Therapy. Together, we unpack common controlling behaviors that often appear in our relationship dynamics—sometimes subtly, sometimes overtly. We dive into how to identify early warning signs, understand the impact of these behaviors, and explore practical ways to manage and shift our patterns if we recognize them within ourselves. It’s an honest and necessary conversation about accountability, awareness, and building healthier connections.

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Sometimes, relationships shift, and growing apart can be one of the hardest changes to face. In this episode, we explore the subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs that a relationship may have run its course. We also dive into how to hold space for someone’s evolution while still honoring your own boundaries and emotional well-being. It’s about change, acceptance, and learning when to release with love.

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In this exciting episode, we welcome our first guest to the Do We Have Your Attention? space—the incredible Funmto Ogunbanwo, founder and lead Clinical Mental Health Therapist at Ibi Ayo Therapy and Wellness Limited. Together, we unpack some of the most common myths about therapy, explore why people often avoid seeking support and share practical steps for navigating therapy—whether for yourself or when supporting a loved one. It’s an honest, empowering conversation about mental wellness, community care, and normalizing the journey toward healing.

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In this episode, we're unpacking the ever-elusive concept of closure, especially in the context of relationships. Do we need it to move on, or is it overrated? We explore the different ways people seek and experience closure, challenge common beliefs around it, and reflect on whether healing always requires a final conversation. Tune in as we dive into the gray area between letting go and needing answers.

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Why do communication clashes between generations seem so recurring—and so hard to resolve? In this episode, we dig into the root causes of generational conflict and the biggest barriers to meaningful connections across age groups. From unspoken expectations to shifting cultural norms, we explore what’s getting in the way—and how we can begin to bridge the communication gap with empathy, curiosity, and intention.

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Why is it so hard to show ourselves the same grace, kindness, and respect we freely give to others? In this episode, we explore the deep-rooted reasons behind our struggle with self-compassion. We unpack how our upbringing and early conditioning shape the way we prioritize our wellness—and often, how they hinder our ability to treat ourselves with care. Tune in as we reflect on what it means to extend compassion inward and begin rewriting those internal narratives.

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Welcome back to Do We Have Your Attention? for the premiere of Season 2! In this episode, we're diving into a topic that hits close to home: why do we often prioritize being right over being happy? We explore what happiness truly means, how ego can cloud our decision-making, and the inner tug-of-war between holding firm to our boundaries and learning when to let go. Tune in as we unpack the balance between self-protection and emotional freedom.

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In this episode, we discuss the impact of existential burnout and the factors contributing to someone feeling existential burnout. From careers, relationships, and even ourselves, we identify helpful strategies that can be considered when navigating our lives better

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