Welcome to "Don’t Pick the Scab," the podcast that brings you real-world insights and advice on the complexities surrounding divorces among men over 40. In this episode, I sit down with Sara Khaki, a renowned family law attorney based in Atlanta, GA, who shares her wealth of knowledge and experience in the field. Join us as Sara and I dive into a candid conversation that feels like two friends having coffee. With topics ranging from narcissism and self-responsibility to getting ahead of things and understanding grandparent's rights, this episode promises to deliver valuable information that will resonate with my male listeners over 40.

But that's not all! We also explore buzzwords, privacy pain points, and the unique experience of looking Middle Eastern, speaking with a Swedish accent, and embracing European fashion. Sara's refreshing perspective adds an exciting twist to the conversation, making it an episode you won't want to miss. So, jump on this episode, all my men over 40! Get ready to gain a deeper understanding of the complexities surrounding divorces and arm yourself with the knowledge needed to navigate these challenging situations. Thank you, Sara, for joining us and sharing your kick-ass knowledge. We can't wait to have you back on the podcast again! Tune in and let's uncover the secrets to a successful divorce journey together.

Other topics:

Parallel parenting

Kids are more resilient than you think

The movie The Firm

Humans are messy

Evangelizing the rest of the firm

The reasonable person

Parental alienation - a slippery slope

The system is not perfect

Advising therapy for some of her clients

Every good Perian girl either becomes a lawyer, doctor or a engineer

A big fan of family

Multi-cultural nuances of divorce

Kids shutting you out - don’t stop fighting for them

Buying your guilt away

The mom voice

Fell in love with the US Constitution

Sara’s Podcast - Happily Ever After Divorce:

https://atlantadivorcelawgroup.com/podcast/

Atlanta Divorce Law Group:

https://atlantadivorcelawgroup.com/

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Welcome, Dr. Marlene to the show. She is a practicing psychotherapist who specializes in helping contentious divorcing parents get the best mutual agreement in their co-parenting space. We connected on Linkedin and realized we are here in the same city, Colorado Springs, CO. Her discussions of safety concerns, grandparents' rights, and not using the kids as pawns lead the conversation on the podcast. I feel we only scratched the surface with our interview, and definitely have Dr. Marlene back for some more words of wisdom for my men over 40.

Additional subjects:

Child welfare vs. parent’s rights

Both parents are crucial to children

Not being able to let go

Co-parenting classes

Narcissism

Borderline personality

Tell the children about the divorce right away

Recreational parent vs. responsible parent

All children to love both parents

Learn to love your children more than you hate your ex

Dr. Marlene’s Website:

https://www.marlenebizub.com/

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Welcome Andrew Dewar, CPA to the podcast. He runs a personal development company and podcast called Five Year You. He engages others in their power of self-improvement. His obstacles in life created this superpower. While directing people to peel the onion-like layers back to find out who they are, Andrew offers us the theory that we are doomed to repeat the negativities in our lives if we don’t learn from the lessons that got us here. This is a very insightful interview. Thanks, Andrew.

Discussions of:

Reiki Therapy

Theta Healing

Talk therapy back in the day

Rebirth and birth can be hard

Terrible accountant but great at solving puzzles

Put pieces together that people may not see

The connection between accounting and therapy

Prioritizing yourself

Scheduling self-care

Giving yourself permission to try and/or fail

Love, kindness and courage

The baby is not running yet!

Your net worth is not your self-worth

Heart and head disagreed

FIVE NEW YOU WEBSITE AND PODCAST

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Welcome coach and businessman Robb Brooks. He penned two books to help men get through divorce and divorce recovery. With his mess in the message - he provides men to experience their greatest comeback from the devastation of divorce. Discussions of modern day kidnapping, being the best father you can be, being friends with your ex, male meltdown mode, and it’s hard to avoid the storm all play a part of this podcast. We are pretty equally yoked in our thoughts and views of divorce and divorce recovery. It was a fresh air to find someone as such. Enjoy.

Topics include:

Know that there is a better side

What assignment does God have for us

Bro hug with the ex’s boyfriend

Course correction with coping mechanisms

Practice gratitude, write 5 things down you are grateful for each day

Rebuilding your identity and self-worth

Co-parenting efficiently

Friends do pick a side

Fall from grace

A shell of your former self

He is a dad first

Divorce meltdown

We all have the innate will to survive

Robb’s Coaching Program

Robb’s Post Divorce Male Meltdown Mode Book

Robb’s Facebook Group

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Rick DellaRatta, an award-winning jazz pianist, discusses the healing power of music, particularly in the context of recovering from divorce or heartbreak. He emphasizes the importance of embracing music as a personal journey and a way to raise one's personal game while suggesting that individuals explore different genres and artists, such as jazz, to find solace and enlightenment. Highlighting the role of music in complementing other forms of therapy and support systems, Rick encourages individuals to take action, empower themselves, and find activities that enhance their healing journey. Check out his Jazz for Peace website!

Interesting Points:

The healing power of music

Music as a coping mechanism

Addressing PTSD and suspicion with men and therapy

Three messages for recovery

Speaking two languages - Jazz and English

Noah and the Arc

Bach never got to play the piano

Find solace in lyrics

Everything to gain by developing a personal connection with any music instrument

Fill our souls up with out greatest qualities and we have a better chance of avoiding destructive behavior

Take your mind off that crazy woman

Country music

John Coltrane

EWF and Grand Funk Railroad

Jazz for Peace Website

Everything Rick DellaRatta

Jazz for Peace United Nations Page

Look For His New Book On Amazon - Paving a Path For Peach Through Music

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Welcome Trevor to the podcast. He is a professor of psychology at Oregon Tech and a licensed clinical psychologist. His concept of Overlap (and his book) explores the need for men to connect more with living things in order to achieve more joy and happiness. A very interesting concept. Trevor, the king of analogies, was very gracious in his ability to project his advice and concepts with a divorced man listening to this podcast. He feels that man need to step out more of the ‘man box’ and be open and maybe seek outside therapies like counseling. Thanks Trevor for hanging with me!

Conversations:

Four levels of engaging

Regain a sense of worth

Carry on from a tragedy

Be kind

BIFF

Keep the bigger goal at hand

Don’t go to a CNA for a brain tumor

You are not alone

Become a better father

Accept Bob at the party but you don’t have to like him

Make little steps of progress

What is the outcome you want and what action will get you there?

Work life balance

Take a step back and realize how good things are

ALL THINGS DR. TREVOR PETERSEN

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Welcome to the show, Alberta Jordan. She is a divorce recovery and trauma coach who can and has walked the walk and talked the talk. Her superpower is getting trauma unstuck in her clients thus enabling them to go through a transformation to a more positive state. Topics of the perpetual victim, toxic relationships, health boundaries, narcissism, advocating for yourself, loving yourself, empowered identity, focusing releasing your trauma from your and more sassy now are all explored in this informative podcast. I feel that Alberta directly speaks to my men over 40 in their quest for healing and a new reality. Take a listen and grab what speaks to you and keep it moving! Spoiler alert - Alberta is giving something valuable away after listening to this podcast to the first 5 people that book a call with her after listening to this episode! Make sure you tell her that you heard about her on this podcast!

Discussions of:

Release and rejuvenate

Forgiveness

Taking your power back

Facing your past is the first step

Be your own hero

Loving somebody else and not loving yourself paradox

Love is Blind - talking to the wall

Making an impact to help others live a better life

Always tell yourself the truth

Taking your power back

Be willing to change your language with yourself and others

Advocate for yourself

Exhilarated Life, LLC

Transforming your Life -20 Incredible Stories Showing Strength of the Human Spirit

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I don’t know how to even start to explain this one. This podcast was so very interesting. I thought, ‘what can a self-published author contribute to a divorce recovery podcast for men over 40”? But I was quite surprised. Welcome John Leister to the mic. His challenging life has shaped his current view and zeal for experiencing life. His basic and thought-provoking advice for men divorcing or divorced over the age of 40 is very genuine. He emphasizes the importance of mindset, self-belief, and the power of creativity in healing and moving on from devastating events. With a slow start to the show, John finally exercised his Yodaesque wisdom. From discussing love as a motivator, anticipating negativity, the fact we need friends, God and faith, thinking of our lives as a quest, and looking for the light at the end of the tunnel - John gives my men over 40 some great insights for divorce recovery. We’ll have to get him back on the show. Thanks John…

Discussions of:

Discovering a passion for writing

Overcoming obstacles and taking a leap of faith

Using creativity as a healing tool

The importance of relationships and support

Favorite detective genres and inspirations

Advice for men going through a divorce

Like-minded people

Embarking on new adventures

Criticism is good - people are paying attention

Take the hits, we all get beat up

We have to love ourselves unconditionally

Healing is priceless.

John’s Email: johnleister611@hotmail.com

John on Indigo Books

Johnny's Way Facebook Group

And search for him on YouTube… very interesting!

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