Being the main character of your own life and building confidence only happens when you have focus. Our focus on the why behind our lives really does matter. Too often we are so busy living life that we never think about why.

We call this survivor mode. A way of life for too many of us

We have to start living with purpose in the face of the busyness of life

Busyness is a distraction and deception for too many of us

We want to escape the survivor mode by focusing our lives and we do that by recognizing some key mental traps that we can get caught up in

Trap #1: Activity = Success

- Everyone is busy today

- Busyness isn’t evil

- Busyness isn’t evil, but busyness isn’t necessarily success either

- The problem comes when we allow ourselves to take on the activity = success mindset

Trap #2: Riding vs Driving

- The reality of the “Victim Mentality” and how it has permeated our society today

- Question “Is life moving you are, or are you moving you”

- Many of us act like we are on a roller coaster instead of driving a car

- **Decide Your Destination**

- **Evaluate Your Every Day**

- The calendar is the greatest mirror of what your priorities really are

- “Desires without discipline will only be dreams”

- Use the Word No

- We have to learn to say no to ourselves first

- Men who can’t control their own appetites can’t control their life

- We have to learn to say no to others

- We have to say no to the urgent and unimportant

- This is simple but not easy

Trap #3: The “One Day” Dream

- Our society pushes and showcases the “one-day” dream

- One day will never happen if we aren’t ready for it

- The lottery mentality - dreaming of how you’ll spend the millions but not doing anything to earn money now

- Are you a good steward of what you have now?

CHALLENGE

- Ask yourself, “Why am I so busy”

- Am I choosing what I do or allowing it to be selected for me?

- Do this in the reality of your life.

- Write out everything you are committed to, and how much time that takes each week, and look at that list. Are you setting yourself up for stress and overcommitment?

- You can’t control everything but what CAN you control

- Start with the little daily decisions

- Are you choosing how you live or just surviving in the little things of everyday life?

- The “one-day” mentality comes from feeling overwhelmed with all the stuff life throws at us

- Do you need all the decisions you have to make?

- Start fixing the small areas and you will build up strength for the big areas

Watch and Enjoy!

David & Reese Maxwell

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