This week’s episode dives into something we all experience but rarely talk about— embracing all of our weird social reactions. The feelings that rise up when we’re around other people: self-doubt, comparison, superiority, inferiority, grasping, withdrawing, fixing, or trying to prove ourselves.

The idea for this episode came to me at a women’s retreat I attended with my daughter, led by facilitator Katie Dove, whose words always stop me in my tracks. Her insights about power dynamics and emotional patterns sparked a question I couldn’t stop thinking about: What if, instead of rejecting our social reactions, we just noticed them?

When we put our ideas out into the world—when we share, create, or contribute—we inevitably encounter others, and in doing so, we also encounter ourselves. When we have an idea we really care about, we can expect our brains to do all kinds of squirmy gymnastics to avoid judgment. Today we’ll think about how to embrace that wiggly brain, and refocus it on what matters

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

Where our automatic social reactions—feeling superior, inferior, excluded, or judgmental come from.

• The difference between power over (superiority, condescension, fixing) and power under (people-pleasing, grasping, shutting down).
• Where you can expect power over, power under, and power with to show up in the Regenerative Design Cycle
• Why suppressing or acting out these reactions keeps the power dynamic stuck, looping in our own body and in our interactions with others—and what we can do instead.
• How to pause, notice, and allow your social reactions to move through you, so you can respond with intention instead of habit, and keep putting new ideas out there without fear that someone’s stink eye will make you throw in the towel.
• How this practice leads to regenerative energy—fueling authenticity, empathy, and creativity.

When we stop judging our social power reactions and simply let them move through us, we regain choice. We become more empathetic, more grounded, and more aligned with our true selves. That’s when our relationships strengthen, our ideas flow, and our contributions expand.

Your Invitation This Week

Notice your own social reactions. When do you feel “better than”? When do you feel “less than”? What thoughts create those feelings, and how do you act from them? Just notice—without judgment. Let it all move through you, and then decide how you want to think, feel, and act.

Notice your reactions to putting ideas out there. Are you afraid of what people will think? Nervous they won’t want to be a part of it? Worried they won’t think you can do it?

When you can pause your reaction and steer it where you want it to go, you become unstoppable. The world needs your ideas—and the authentic, grounded you behind them, more than ever.

Mentioned in this episode:
Katie Dove — Women’s facilitator and retreat leader in San Diego

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The more we put ourselves out into the world, the more people come to know us by the value we add—and the more they begin to depend on us. This is beautiful…until it isn’t. Because over time, the value we add and the strengths we command become commodities people want more and more of. Eventually, we’re faced with a flood of requests: friends needing support, family projects that need a helpful hand, community support requests, work opportunities, and so much more. For many of us, our hearts want to say yes to all of these things, but everything we say yes to means we’re saying no to everything else.

In this episode, I offer a perspective and tools to navigate this tension between wanting to give and needing to protect our capacity. Because hey, we’ve all been there. The month I said yes to too many things and eroded my margins landed me in bed with migraines, a cancelled videographer session, and a good, hard look at the greater contribution I had sacrificed by saying yes to so many small ones.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

• Why every yes is also a no—and every no is a yes to something else, though we often don’t see it in the moment
• How leaning into this concept makes saying no much easier
• The concept of a high-quality no
• Using values, Regenerative Design, and priority thinking to help differentiate your yeses from your no’s
• Examples of the areas my students struggle with the most, and the payoff they experience when they start to use this thinking

We also dive into the truth that saying no with love, clarity, and strength doesn’t create rejection—it creates relief, respect, and space. A “high-quality no” (as Eckhart Tolle would call it) is contagious in the best way: it shows others what’s possible when we live in alignment with our commitments to ourselves.

By the end of this episode, you’ll be challenged to ask yourself: Every time I say no, what yes am I creating space for? It might just be more joy, more peace, and more energy to make your own ideas for how the world can be a better place, real.

Mentioned in this episode: Eckhart Tolle

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Last week, I hit pause. A middle-of-the-night migraine, a body that said “nope,” and—after three straight years of weekly episodes—I let myself skip a week. Not because I didn’t care, but because I chose health over hustle for this week. That tiny, honest shift is exactly what today’s episode is about: thought bridges—the believable steps that carry us from an old, harmful loop to a new, supportive one.

If you haven’t listened to Episode 144: Regenerative Thought Cycles, start there. Awareness comes first: noticing the thoughts running under the surface, the feelings they create, and the way our actions keep “proving” those thoughts true, through the evidence our brain is collecting on repeat. Once you can see the loop, you can change it—without gaslighting yourself, and without pasting sparkly positivity over real experience.

In this episode, Marie walks you through how to build a bridge from that awareness to a new way of thinking; one that your body actually believes.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

• A quick, honest story about choosing rest over perfection—and why that counts as a win.
• Why it doesn’t work to just stop thinking a negative thought
• How introducing a new thought can backfire
• How to tell when a new thought is congruent vs incongruent
• How to build a thought bridge that will replace a degenerative loop with a believable, regenerative path.
• How to strengthen that new neural pathway until it becomes your default way of thinking

Try this now (2 minutes)

• Download your degenerative thoughts into the left-hand column of a three column sheet.
• Write: Degenerative thoughts (left column), Ideal thoughts (right column).
• For each pair, create a thought bridge in the middle.
• Say each bridge thought out loud. Circle the one that your body believes.
• Practice those new thoughts until they become your default

If this episode helped, share it with a friend who’s hard on themselves, or leave a quick review so more humans can find this work. And if you’re building bridges this week, tag @BloomYourMind so we can cheer you on. 🌱

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In this episode of the Bloom Your Mind Podcast, we unpack the cycles of thought that either move us toward the life we want—or pull us away from it.

Just like a garden, our minds are always growing something. Some thoughts regenerate possibility and growth. Others are degenerative—reinforcing old, unhelpful beliefs and keeping us stuck. Today we’ll break down how that happens, how to recognize it, and most importantly, how to change it.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

• How regenerative vs. degenerative cycles actually work
• Why most of our thoughts are subconscious and programmed in without our control
• The role compassion plays in effectively changing our thought cycles
• Real-life examples of both degenerative and regenerative cycles
• A simple 5-minute practice to identify, interrupt and change thought cycles from degenerative to regenerative
• A ten second version to use on the fly

Resources & Links:

• Listen to the episode on Regenerative Design (for the full framework)

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• On the Web | The Local Bloom
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Seasons change, and so do we. Sometimes we’ve literally got one foot in the next season, as we change from spring to summer, summer to fall. Other times we’re transition a personal season of life, from one era of ourselves to another. This episode is guides you through a process for transitions. A way to pause, witness what’s good in your life, in your world and in yourself, and design how you want to move into what’s next with intention.

You’ll learn a simple three-step practice to celebrate how far you’ve come, envision where you want to be by year’s end, and reverse-engineer the systems and anchor thoughts that will get you there.

We’ll talk about:

• Why your brain wants to focus on your failures and how to redirect it to joy and growth.
• How a four foot mandalorian taught me to be in the moment before it’s passed by.
• A guided five sense visualization to step into your future self at the end of this year.
• How to reverse engineer your brain to get to the future self
• How to hack your subconscious thinking to wire your brain toward your goal, and work with your conscious mind by designing systems and action steps to get you there
• How to design your own anchor thoughts that keep you consistent and aligned.
• Why systems and habits are just as and sometimes more important than goals.

Each literal and metaphorical season is a chance to recalibrate and choose our direction again and again. To make the tiny tweaks that keep us authentic and keep us on course. This episode is your invitation to use whatever transition you’re in right now, to transition intentionally instead of reactively.

Mentioned in this episode:

• Atomic Habits by James Clear
• Nostalgia for Now

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• On the Web | The Local Bloom
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Conflict isn’t a detour. It’s the road itself.
And if you’re out there making ideas real, you’re going to hit it—whether you like it or not.

This week on the Bloom Your Mind Podcast, we’re wrapping up our 3-part conflict resolution series with a quick-and-dirty cheat sheet. Think of this episode as your prep guide before a hard conversation: the moves that give you and the other person the best shot at resolution, connection, and growth.

We’ll cover:
✨ A lightning recap of the last two episodes (why the problem is the problem—not the person—and the five things conflict is really about).
✨ The mirror listening tool, and how to use it so people actually feel heard.
✨ An eight-point cheat sheet for walking into conflict as your best self.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

• Grounding tips for entering a conversation with a still mind, a calm body, and lead by the outcome; you and I against the problem
• Using a mental talking stick to keep our inner interruption beast at bay
• What it means to stick to one topic at a time, even when our topics are vendiagrams
• How owning our own experience, impact and subjective experience increases connection
• How ditching generalizations can bring us together, and how to recognize the sneaky ones that we use without realizing it.
• How to sort out when we’re coming from attachment vs. coming from love (and why boundaries matter).
• Manage your mind—how to watch your thinking and stay curious before during and after, so that your mind doesn’t regenerate the same conflicts again and again.

By the end, you’ll have a go-to conversation checklist you can use now, or years from now, to turn conflict into a tool for building stronger ideas, deeper relationships, and a more resilient you.

Your homework: Pick one current or past conflict, and run it through the cheat sheet. Where could you have shifted from “me vs. you” to “us vs. the problem”? Which step would have changed the tone?

Mentioned on this episode:

• Betty Pries: The space between us
• Episode 140: Resolving Conflict
• Episode 141: Solving People problems
• Episode 117: Two things are true
• Episode 114: Listening is Sexy

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• On the Web | The Local Bloom
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Ever notice how much easier it is to point at a person and say, “YOU are the problem”? Yeah, me too. But here’s the truth: people aren’t the problem—problems are the problem. And when we stop confusing the two, everything gets lighter, easier, and way more solvable.

In this episode of the Bloom Your Mind Podcast, we’re going one layer deeper into conflict resolution and flipping the script: instead of making the person the issue, we learn how to sit shoulder-to-shoulder and face the actual issue together.

We’ll cover:

• Why this shift matters for your relationships, your problem-solving chops, and your ability to bring ideas to life.
• Why it’s a huge waste of time and energy to follow our brains down the rabbit hole of making others the problem and make ourselves the problem
• Betty Pries’ five roots of conflict (resources, history, structures, values, and communication) and how they show up in everyday life.
• Four laughably real examples of moving from “You’re the worst” to “Hey, looks like we have a trash monster problem.”
• A step-by-step exercise to help you spot where you’re making someone the problem, reframe it, and approach them in a way that makes collaboration actually possible.

Spoiler: once you stop turning people into villains and start tackling the real problem, you’ll save yourself a ton of drama, resentment, and late-night imaginary arguments in the shower. You’ll also have WAY more time to focus on making your ideas real.

✨ Your homework: Identify one spot in your life where you’ve been making a person the problem. Reframe it into a problem problem instead, then try out the “same side of the table” approach. Bonus points if you use humor to call out the real monster.

✨ Share this episode with someone you love who might be making you the problem 😉

Mentioned on this episode:

• Listen to last week’s episode on resolving conflict if you missed it (it sets the stage for today).

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• On the Web | The Local Bloom
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• All Things Marie on LinkTree

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We are all changing. Sometimes we’re doing it on purpose- setting goals that require us to think and feel and act differently, goals that require us to evolve and grow. Sometimes we’re changing in reaction to the world and the people around us. The one thing we know for sure is that change is constant… and sometimes really hard. With change often comes conflict; with ourselves and with others. Since change is guaranteed, and conflict will come with it; why not get really good at navigating our way through it? When we do, conflict becomes incredibly valuable. When we learn that we are not the hero, the good gal, the one in the right, or the virtuous one, we open a whole new capacity for calm, leadership, and love. When we realize many things are true at once, we open up rich, connecting, flourishing relationships and a world where all our ideas can become real.

That’s what today’s episode is all about.

Over the past two years I have been approached to be a conflict resolution mediator for couples, families, friends, entrepreneurs, executive teams and CEOs- each one leading to referrals for more. It’s led me to deep dive into research, and tool finding. Today I’ll share my favorite tools to help you step out of conflict and into flourishing.

What you’ll learn in this podcast:

• Tools to resolve internal conflict
• Tools to navigate and resolve external conflict
• How different ways of change create conflict and why it can be valuable
• How to make the problem the problem, instead of making the person the problem
• The five things that all conflicts are ACTUALLY about, instead of being about the person
• A three part process to preparing for conflict resolution
• A five part framework for approaching someone in your life to resolve a conflict
• Five other quick tips to adopt a mindset that will lead to connection and resolution

Referenced in this podcast:

• The space between us by Betty Pries
• Becky Kennedy
• Carmen Landsdowne
• Brene Brown
• BYM Podcast Episodes:
  • Listening is sexy
  • Listen to this
  • Feelings are a superpower
  • When It’s happening for you
  • The Practice
  • The tool that changed everything
  • Thought trades

How to connect with Marie:

• On the Web | The Local Bloom
• Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
• All Things Marie on LinkTree

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