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When Anxious Meets Avoidant (Replay) | E468

When Anxious Meets Avoidant (Replay) | E468

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 This episode originally aired on April 3, 2023 (Episode 343), and we’re bringing it back because it resonated with so many of you. Whether you’re reflecting on a past relationship, navigating one right now, or supporting clients through these dynamics, the lessons are worth revisiting. Why are people with anxious attachment styles and avoidant attachment styles drawn to each other? Can anxious-avoidant relationships work, and most importantly, can they be healthy and satisfying? Yes, they can. But the key is through your understanding of yourself, and of your partner. When you develop true understanding and empathy for your differences, you can create profound connection, and a genuinely secure and healing relationship for both of you. This episode is going to show you how. If you’re in an anxious-avoidant relationship, or have been in one before, I hope it helps you understand these dynamics from a new perspective, and empowers you to move toward greater connection and security. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Attachment Styles Matter 02:42 Core Conflict: Desire for Closeness vs. Space 07:04 The Push-Pull Dynamic of Anxious and Avoidant Partners 11:08 Can Anxious-Avoidant Relationships Be Healthy? 16:09 Finding Compatible Partners & Building Security 17:02 Strategies for Anxious Attachment 18:06 Strategies for Avoidant Attachment 33:04 Why Anxious and Avoidant Partners Are Drawn Together 42:05 Avoidant Discomfort with Closeness & Anxious Pursuing Behaviors 45:06 Doing the Work: Self-Awareness and Self-Management 49:04 Practical Tools for Avoidant Partners 55:00 True Love as a Conscious Choice Want to know where your relationship stands today? Try my free How Healthy Is Your Relationship? Quiz. It gives you quick insights into what’s working well and where you might want to focus your growth together. If this resonated with you, let’s keep it going. I share more relationship advice and tools on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube, and I’d love to hear your thoughts too, whether it’s feedback on the show, questions about past episodes, or ideas for what you’d like me to cover next. Let’s talk! xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self
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