At 20, I thought life was about proving myself and earning approval. I shape-shifted depending on who was in the room, always worried that if I slipped, people would see the “real” me. What I didn’t realize was that all that performing wasn’t protecting me..it was erasing me.

The turning point came when I finally stopped pretending and started showing up as myself. That’s when I discovered something powerful: authenticity is magnetic. People aren’t drawn to perfection; they’re drawn to truth, vulnerability, and courage.

In this episode, I share:

• The mistake I made at 20 that held me back.

• Why “auditioning” for approval never works.

• The moment I realized honesty connects more than performance ever could.

• Practical tips for catching yourself in performance mode, practicing small honesty, and finding the people who value the real you.

This isn’t just advice for your twenties. Whether you’re 20, 30, or 40+, the same lesson applies: you don’t need to have it all figured out. You don’t need to be perfect. You need to be present, courageous, and unapologetically yourself.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re faking it, chasing approval, or shrinking to fit in, this episode is for you. Tune in, reflect, and ask yourself: what would change if I stopped performing and started showing up as me, right now?