In this practical episode of The Transforming Us Podcast, hosts Jess and Tamara share seven essential skills to help you build healthier relationships and improve your overall well-being. Using a holistic approach, they connect key concepts from trauma, attachment theory, and the Enneagram to give you a clear roadmap for personal growth.

You'll get actionable tools and techniques for:

• Learning to be aware of subconscious patterns is crucial for personal growth.
• Mindfulness & Overthinking: Learn to identify and shift negative thought patterns to manage anxiety and overthinking.
• Emotional Regulation: Discover the power of emotional and somatic awareness to release stored stress and trauma from the body.
• Communication Skills: Improve your communication by expanding your emotional vocabulary and learning effective verbal processing.
• Self-Compassion: Practice soft resilience to be kinder to yourself and reframe negative self-talk. Becoming more flexible.
• By the end of this episode, you’ll have a guide to building healthier daily practices that can transform your relationships and help you feel more balanced.

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Hey there Beautiful souls! In this powerful episode of Transforming Us, we're diving into one of the most fundamental human needs: connection. Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating the same relationship patterns? Or why some bonds feel so strong and others are fragile? The answer often lies in your attachment story.

Jessie and Tamara break down the science of relational attachment, exploring how our earliest experiences with parents, caregivers, and even adoption, create a blueprint for our adult relationships. We’ll talk about what "good enough" parenting really means and how attunement and deep emotional bonds are the building blocks for secure attachment and long-term resilience.

This episode is a journey of self-discovery. We’ll guide you through understanding your own attachment style and how tools like the Enneagram can illuminate ingrained patterns you might not even be aware of. We’ll also be honest about the tough stuff—like navigating the cognitive dissonance that comes with personal growth and the challenge of shedding old, protective parts of yourself to make room for healing.

Takeaways:

• Relational attachment starts from infancy and shapes our adult relationships.
• Secure attachment is not about perfection but about being attuned to a child's needs and repairing when necessary.
• Emotional bonds are crucial for resilience and strength in relationships.
• Healing unhealthy patterns requires self-awareness and effort.
• The Enneagram can provide insights into attachment styles and relationship dynamics.
• Transforming protective parts of ourselves is essential for growth.
• Understanding oneself is intertwined with knowing God.
• Loneliness can have severe chronic health implications.
• Repairing within intimate relationships is a normal part of the process.

Ultimately, this is about more than just your relationships with others. It's about a deeper understanding of yourself, which in turn leads to a more profound connection with God. Join us as we explore how healing our attachment wounds can disrupt old patterns and pave the way for a life of healthier, more secure connections.

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In Episode 3 of Transforming Us, Jessie and Tamara delve into the essential practices of self-compassion and self-care, illuminating their profound impact on personal growth and emotional well-being. Join them as they explore how cultivating kindness towards yourself can transform your approach to relationship challenges.

This episode unpacks the vital role of emotional safety in building strong, healthy relationships, and how your faith can enhance your capacity for self-compassion. Discover how having grace for yourself fosters humility and authenticity, and how integrating difficult experiences builds true resilience.

Jessie and Tamara discuss the transformative power of self-care but also the necessary path to self-awareness. The episode highlights how understanding your emotional triggers and needs is crucial for personal development. They explore practical strategies for setting healthy boundaries and improving communication, connecting how growth often stems from facing hard truths. Learn how a growth mindset can help you embrace vulnerability and create new softer responses.

Takeaways:

• Self-compassion is essential for personal growth.
• Emotional safety is crucial in relationships.
• Resilience is built through self-compassion.
• Transformation often feels worse before it gets better.
• Curiosity about oneself leads to deeper understanding.
• Effective communication fosters understanding and support.
• Setting boundaries is vital for healthy relationships.
• Humility allows for authentic breakthroughs.
• Nurturing oneself is a key aspect of self-care.
• Recognizing one's inherent value is foundational for growth.

Practical Self Compassion: 3Ns

Notice - become aware of thoughts, feelings, body sensations.

Name - begin to name thoughts, emotions, and physical needs.

Nurture - be cared for by yourself or another person, let yourself have needs and emotions.

This conversation emphasizes that transformation in relationships is a continuous journey, requiring patience, practice, and a deep commitment to your own needs. Listen in as Jess and Tamara share personal anecdotes and insights, offering practical tools to cultivate a more compassionate and become more whole. They’ll provide you with the support you need to improve your soft resilience skills and your relationships through compassionate self-care.

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