Spider-bite analogies, nut-kick stories, and the hard line between healthy conflict and pure toxicity. John and Nicole dissect when a relationship is worth the grind—and when zero-tolerance is the only sane choice.⏱️ Timestamps (approx.)0:00 – Net-negative vs net-positive fights: the instant litmus test4:20 – Emotional & physical abuse examples: where the line snaps10:15 – “Getting worse every day” spider-bite analogy explained15:30 – One-off mistakes vs patterns: spotting irreversible trends20:40 – The fix-it checklist: accountability, change, and proof25:55 – Violence anecdote: crossed lines, kicked groins, zero tolerance26:25 – Narcissist label & gas-lighting: real diagnosis or buzzword?32:59 – Cheating + severe betrayal: can trust ever rebuild?38:10 – Calm repair vs shouting matches: which actually solves problems?44:15 – Rebuilding respect: trust timelines, third-party support, hard deadlines48:00 – Exit plan vs redemption path: choosing without regret50:36 – Rapid-fire takeaways & next-week teaser👇 Links & Resources• Podcast site: https://betterthanperfectpod.com• Instagram: https://instagram.com/betterthanperfectpodcast• Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0Os5mBb4WMKy7rw5GMHDN7• Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/better-than-perfect-a-relationship-podcast/id1719469324🔔 Subscribe for weekly no-filter debates on love, polarity, and personal growth—every topic splits the vote.