In this episode of Together Real Bad, we dive deep into what happens when exes spin the block. From an old flame asking about a “pass,” to a wild dream about becoming our baby daddy, to a surprising threesome proposal—this week brought it all.

We open up about the respectful, the messy, and the off-limits, while breaking down how queer couples navigate trust, boundaries, and unexpected interactions with people from the past.

If you’ve ever wondered how to deal with exes, keep your relationship secure, or explore openness without losing trust, this episode is packed with laughter, honesty, and lessons in love.

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This week, we dive deep into the messy, beautiful, and sometimes dangerous world of queer PDA (public displays of affection). From debates about what’s “appropriate” to the very real risks of holding hands in the wrong neighborhood, this episode is as raw and real as it gets.

We open up about our own experiences—navigating affection in front of kids, parents, church communities, and even at work events. How much of our hesitation is about “respect,” and how much is fear rooted in double standards? Straight PDA is normalized, but queer PDA is often policed, shamed, or even criminalized.

💔 Things get heavy as we reflect on a heartbreaking story of a Black queer couple who were victims of a hate crime while simply trying to drive home. Their experience is a chilling reminder of how love, safety, and survival intersect for queer people of color in America. If you want to support their healing, you can contribute to their GoFundMe here: 👉 Survived a Hate Crime, Now We're Fighting to Heal

But it’s not all heavy—this episode also touches on biking adventures, family dynamics, funny moments with our dogs, and our ongoing Date Night Diaries series. We share how PDA feels different in spaces like the beach, rural small towns, or even in our own families’ living rooms. And of course, we bring our usual mix of laughter, honesty, and unfiltered love.

🎧 Topics We Cover:

• Who decides what PDA is “too much”?

• Double standards: straight PDA vs. queer PDA

• When affection becomes protest and visibility

• Navigating affection in religious spaces

• Feeling safe (or unsafe) in different communities

• Family dynamics: PDA around parents

• Work culture & being out vs. “fighting for your life” in the closet

🔥 Plus, a Black Business Highlight you’ll want to check out: NzuriKulture – candles, body oils, and fragrances we are obsessed with. (Find her at @together.real.badpod

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If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review, share with your friends, and let us know how YOU navigate PDA in your relationship.

Life has been lifin’ ya’ll, so we will drop a new episode on Wednesday! Yay! We will be talking about Queer PDA! See y'all then!!

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In this raw and vulnerable Patreon episode, Beautifulll & Ace dive deep into relationship responsibility, emotional triggers, and real-life stressors, all while keeping their signature mix of humor and honesty.

• shares a personal and frustrating experience after a minor car accident where the other driver (Mario) exaggerated injuries and damage to commit what they believe is insurance fraud.

• Despite minor damage, the claim jumped to over $3,000, triggering emotional and financial stress.

• The couple discusses how to handle these types of injustices and the emotional toll they can take on a relationship.

• Koda went to the vet for surgery and came home groggy but adorable.

• Kenzie went to work with Beautifulll and was surprisingly well-behaved.

• Cute dog moments bring a touch of lightness to the episode.

• They recap their recent night out to see Beauty and the Beast at the Cadillac Palace.

• While the experience was fun and long overdue, they weren’t impressed with the production.

• They compare it to other Broadway shows they’ve seen together and reflect on how much shared experiences matter.

• 🏳️‍🌈 Living Out Loud:

  • Beautifulll shares a personal milestone—introducing Ace as her partner to family members at a birthday brunch. A vulnerable but affirming step in showing up fully in their relationship.

  🖤 Black-Owned Business Highlight:

  • Shoutout to The Unseen Femme, a bold apparel brand celebrating identity and visibility.

  • Beautifulll wears one of their shirts during the episode as Ace mentions hopes for a future collab.

  📢 Pop Culture Quick Hits:

  • They touch on Charlamagne Tha God vs. Trump commentary.

  • Highlight Lambda Legal’s $6.42M win for LGBTQ+ and HIV advocacy groups (sourced via Queer News by Anna DeShawn).

Inspired by a friend’s post, the couple explores the idea that love isn't just about feelings—it’s about responsibility.

Key conversation points:

• You're responsible for how you care for someone's heart once they've trusted you with it.

• Disagreements are natural, but maintaining a safe space during conflict is critical.

• They reflect on past relationships and how they’ve grown in their current one, especially when it comes to communication, apologies, and emotional maturity.

• Triggers from past relationships may not be your fault, but in a relationship, they become our responsibility to handle with care.

• They emphasize the importance of maintaining the love by planting seeds daily—through small gestures, communication, and honesty.

They pose a reflective challenge to listeners:

"What are you doing to grow your love and take responsibility for it?"

Despite outside frustrations, the episode is a testament to how Ace and Beautifulll choose each other, show up, and continue to build a strong, evolving love. It's vulnerable, funny, and deeply relatable for any couple navigating love, stress, and personal growth.

In this episode of Together Real Bad, we dive deep into how generational communication habits in Black families impact our adult relationships—both romantic and platonic.

Beautifulll and Ace share stories from their childhood, how they were raised to handle (or avoid) conflict, and what it’s like navigating communication with family as out, queer Black women. From unspoken tensions and "what happens in this house stays in this house" mindsets to rebuilding sibling relationships and confronting parental silence, this conversation is raw, vulnerable, and very necessary.

We also talk:

Playing contact flag football in our 40s 🏈 (and paying for it with sore backs!)

Millennium Park summer music series & Digable Planets

A brunch review of Honey Bear Cafe 🍳

Family resistance to queerness and our journeys to acceptance

The emotional weight of trying to bridge generational gaps with love and boundaries

Pop culture: Queer Ultimatum Reunion (yes, we had thoughts.)

Our Black-Owned Biz of the Week: Chef Grady of Straight Up Bussin in Chicago

Shoutout to our new friends behind the Two Dope Grandmas podcast 👵🏽🔥

✨ Plus: We drop some serious gems around "The Four Horsemen" in relationships, emotional tools for couples, and how to move past conflict without burying it.

Relationship Tools

4 Horsemen 6 Hours To A Better Relationship

In this episode of Together Real Bad, your favorite queer couple podcast dives into what happens when you mix travel, friends, and relationship expectations. Beautifulll and Ace get vulnerable about a recent trip to New Orleans — and how a birthday vacation quickly turned into a lesson on boundaries, communication, and prioritizing your partner.

💬 They discuss:

• How to navigate travel with friends vs. travel with your girlfriend

• Why certain behaviors are relationship red flags on vacation

• Lessons on emotional maturity and conflict resolution

• What it means to “move differently” in a serious relationship

• Recaps of The Ultimatum: Queer Love (season 2 hot takes!)

• And why Mrs. Doubtfire was lowkey emotional parenting in the ‘90s

They also shout out a delicious Black-owned cookie vendor from Chicago and reflect on Pride Month visibility on the South Side.

🎧 If you’re in a queer relationship, planning a couples trip, or figuring out how to balance friends and love, this episode is for you.

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🖤 Queer. Funny. Real. Welcome to Together Real Bad.

In this episode of Together Real Bad, we’re diving into the deep end of what love, gender energy, and fluidity actually look like in our relationship. From surprise birthday letters and edible arrangements in New Orleans to unpacking who “wears the pants” at home, we're getting real about how we show up for each other in ways that break the mold.

We get personal about:

Why labels like “stud” or “femme” don't fully fit us—and how we navigate assumptions.

How our energies shift depending on the moment, from cuddling on the couch to fixing furniture.

The real talk on gender presentation, soft life dreams, and what it means to be your full self in love.

A restaurant horror story that turned into a conversation about expectations, service, and Black-on-Black care.

Our take on love languages without calling them that—and how we live and love out loud, in public and private.

And yes, we dish on our experience at Vegan Dale and the big next step for Jem Junkies at Boxville!

Whether you're navigating your own relationship, rethinking what labels mean, or just in the mood for some honest, hilarious, queer-as-hell love talk—this one’s for you.

This exclusive Patreon video episode gets into the real, real of what it means to build (and keep building) a long-term relationship. Beautifulll shares what it’s like to be in her longest relationship ever, and Ace reflects on lessons from two 8-year loves. The talk growth, communication, triggers, and how to stay soft when life (and your ex) tried to harden you.

In this episode:

• Posting your partner for the first time 😳

• Creating a soft space when past relationships made you hard

• Why we don’t go to bed angry (and what our friends do instead 👀)

• Living out loud and letting the whole world know who you love

• Keeping things fresh 3 years in: date nights, packing help, and podcasting

• How Boystown has changed and why we’re dreaming up a Girls Town

This one’s for the lovers, the healers, and the homies preparing for their person.

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