In this episode of Three Shades Deeper, we're joined by Paul Weinfield—musician, meditation teacher, life coach, and retired professor of religion from Columbia University and Hunter College

Paul shares his personal polyamory journey and explores ethical non-monogamy through the lens of spirituality, religion, and mindfulness. Together, we discuss how presence, compassion, and non-attachment show up in poly relationships, how religious frameworks influence our views of love and commitment, and how polyamory can become a practice in conscious, intentional living.

A thoughtful and grounding conversation for anyone curious about the intersection of spirituality and non-monogamy.

🎧 Listen now and go deeper.

Rules.

Everyone has them. But where do they come from—and do they actually work?

In this episode of Three Shades of Grey, we dive into the rules couples create when entering non-monogamy, with a special focus on swinging. From no kissing and no single men to same room only and no repeat partners, we unpack the most common rules, why people make them, and what they're really trying to protect.

We talk about the difference between rules, boundaries, and agreements, how some rules help couples feel safe, and how others quietly create more anxiety than security. We also explore how rules evolve over time, which ones tend to backfire, and what healthier alternatives can look like as couples gain experience.

If you've ever wondered whether your rules are serving your relationship—or holding it back—this episode is for you.

LINKS

Three Shades Of Grey | Website

Episode 008: Setting the B.A.R (Boundaries, Agreements, and Rules)

Awakening: The Growth and Empowerment of Women in Open and Poly Relationships

Pinky's Audiobook

PolyPoet.com

The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love

Pinky and Ava turn up the heat as they dive into one of Ava's favorite pleasures—and one of Pinky's former fears: spanking.

Ava teases Pinky as her "pampered princess," while Pinky gets real about how letting go of control and stepping into trust changed everything. With a safe space, a little surrender, and a lot of curiosity, Pinky discovers that pushing boundaries can feel very good.

It's playful, it's daring, it's deliciously intimate—just the way pajama parties should be.

LINKS:

Three Shades Of Grey | Website

Sentinel Bear

Normalizing Non Monogamy | Emma & Fin

Check out Pinky's debut book of poetry

Check out Pinky's debut poetry audiobook!!

PolyPoet.com