The parts of a survivor that split off or dissociate into different parts to cope with the overwhelming internal conflict that results as a protective mechanism to having to perpetrate harm to other victims are actually heroes in a person's system. Well, you may think how can they be a hero if they did such harm to other people? They protected the survivor’s heart during the most horrific and unconceivable acts against others because there was no choice for either of them. I want you to hear that again. If you are a survivor I want to talk directly to you. Those parts of you that harmed other victims protected you from having to experience what you were not capable of doing because you have a heart of love and compassion. You might say, but you don’t know what I’ve done. I’m just as evil as my perpetrators. No. That is what they wanted you to believe. But, I’m here to say that I know that if you had actually been given a choice which you weren’t, you would not have decided to harm anyone. Listen as Sharri talks about the abuse of power and control that abuser groups have over survivors that leads to forced perpetration and how survivors can take a different look at themselves than one of self-condemnation and self-hatred.