Auto-generated transcript:Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. You had asked about advice on raising multiple children. I think in my experience, children are like sponges. They pick up everything from everywhere. And as far as multiple children are concerned, the younger ones pick up from their elder siblings much faster than they pick up from their mother or father. I don't know, maybe it's an age thing or something, but they pick up things from their elder siblings much faster. Now, in most households, the eldest one gets... the maximum attention. That's not his fault, I mean, in that sense, all the fault of the parents. Because there is a period of time before the second one comes where he is the only child. So he gets all attention, he gets a lot of love and affection and so on and so on. And then the next one and the next one. And one of the things that happens is that the elder one then starts feeling the pain because he finds that the total attention that he was... that he was accustomed to is getting divided. And it has to be divided. There's no way that he can continue to get the same attention. So there is some level of resentment that gets built in the heart of the oldest one. That must be addressed. And it's addressed not by talking to him, but by ensuring that he is included in the raising of the younger ones. In the role of a kind of... of a kind of... de facto mentor, a de facto parent. So this must be done subtly, but it must be done clearly. While of course keeping an eye on... on everyone for safety issues. So I think that is very important. Then the... Therefore if you have... if you create that kind of an atmosphere where the elder one now becomes a role model for the younger ones, then there is... this goodness spreads. Second very important thing. Is to strongly encourage collaboration. And to strongly discourage competition between children. This is the most important thing that I can possibly talk about. Because it's... It is the cause of... very destructive sibling rivalry, which I have seen. In many cases in my business consulting practice, I have people who are siblings who are at each other's throats. In many cases in... in the courts, in other cases not in the courts, but you know at home and so on. And I always point out to whoever is concerned, that... that this didn't begin now. At age 40, at age 50. It began at age 2 and age 3. Because a typical scene you will see in the nursery or what passes for a nursery in most homes. Is you will have one child who has a toy. And the other one wants to come and play. And the first one resents it and starts screaming and so on. And the parent comes, the mother or the father, and they say, no, no, no, no, don't... don't fight with the child. Don't fight with the child. Don't fight with the child. Don't... don't fight. I will get you your own. Now that is a fatal mistake. Absolutely fatal mistake. Because you are teaching them to not to share. On the other hand, what you must do is to say, no, this toy belongs to all of you. So share it. And share it the way where everyone is happy with it. Both work. This method also works, the other method also. But when you grow out of that, fast forward 40 years, fast forward 30 years, you do not... you... the difference between two siblings at each other's throats and two siblings who are cooperating and working together is what shows you as the end result of that. And believe me, in my consulting... in my business consulting, family business consulting practice, I've seen it all... I have seen it and I continue to see it all the time. People literally with millions, they will not share not one cent with their own brothers and sisters. I actually had one case where the father was absolutely desperate about it. That the two brothers should love one another. They should, you know, forget love. I mean, love was a long way off. At least collaborate with one another.
