After a personal loss, Ciara and Richard explore the reality of grief. How it ebbs and flows, why no two losses feel the same, and the complex emotions that follow. What helps in the early weeks and how to find connection while living with loss.

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They Mess You Up! Taking on the issues that people struggle with behind closed doors.
New episode every Wednesday.

Exploring loneliness - why it can feel like physical pain, the stigma around admitting it, who is most affected and the small, practical steps that can make a difference.

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They Mess You Up! Taking on the issues that people struggle with behind closed doors.
New episode every Wednesday.

The impact of technology on children - from harmful content pushed by algorithms to material on eating disorders and self-harm. Ciara and Richard discuss regulation, big tech, and simple steps parents can take, including keeping phones out of bedrooms at night!

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They Mess You Up! Taking on the issues that people struggle with behind closed doors.
New episode every Wednesday.

People who turn every situation into a crisis! Dealing with dramatic people is the topic this week. Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan look at why some people rely on drama, how it affects those around them, and how to protect your own peace without getting pulled into the chaos.

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They Mess You Up! Taking on the issues that people struggle with behind closed doors.
New episode every Wednesday.

A topic few people talk about: when a parent doesn’t like their child. In this episode Dr. Richard Hogan and Dr. Ciara Kelly explore why this can happen, from personality clashes to deeper issues. They look at how emotional distance and constant criticism affect a child’s self-esteem and ability to trust. And dig into what’s really behind these difficult parent child dynamics.

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They Mess You Up! Taking on the issues that people struggle with behind closed doors.
New episode every Wednesday.

In the first episode of 2025, Dr. Ciara Kelly and Dr. Richard Hogan dive into the topic of New Year's resolutions and the futility of punitive self-improvement goals. They discuss the high failure rates of common resolutions and why setting oneself up for a "new year, new me" can lead to feelings of hopelessness. Instead of purging negative habits, Ciara and Richard advocate for the power of positive reinforcement and self-acceptance. Tune in as they share insights on building sustainable habits, distinguishing triggers, and cultivating a kinder internal dialogue. Discover how embracing yourself can lead to genuine growth and fulfillment.