In this intimate and deeply honest episode of The Power of SelfEVOLution, I visit with my long-term client for a real-time reflection on what truly changes when our relationship with our "Self" begins to heal.

What unfolds is a #RealRawRelatable exploration of anxiety, self-doubt, people-pleasing, and the invisible patterns that invisibly shape our relationships with partners, parents, and children.

"I didn't know who I was, so I couldn't communicate clearly with anyone else." - C.M.

From surviving on the outside while struggling on the inside, to learning how to recognize emotional triggers, set boundaries, and communicate without fear ~ this conversation reveals how inner awareness transforms the way we show up in life.

And, most importantly, transforms how we truly feel deep down in our core being and heart!

My client shares, in her own words, how understanding her unconscious patterns shifted lifelong dynamics with her mother, strengthened her marriage, changed the way she parents, and ultimately restored a sense of calm, trust, and inner safety she had never experienced before.

"Speaking up felt terrifying—I thought it would ruin the relationship. Instead, it made it stronger." - C.M.

This episode is for anyone who:

• Feels reactive, anxious, or disconnected in close relationships

• Struggles to speak up without fear of conflict or loss

• Wants deeper emotional clarity, presence, and self-trust

• Knows there is "more" to life, but isn't sure where to begin

A powerfully enriching reminder that when the relationship with Self transforms ~ everything else miraculously follows.... #KarenLoveLee

If this conversation resonates, I expand on this theme ~ moving beyond reaction and into conscious self-leadership ~ in my latest Substack essay, "The Advantage of Self-Evolution: Elevating Consciousness Beyond Reaction."

#EliteSelfEvolution #EliteInnerMastery #ConsciousLeadership #HighPerformers #UnconsciousMastery #NervousSystemIntelligence #SelfMasteryAtScale

I believe that the internal vibrational frequency we radiate synchronizes with reality gifting us with MIRACLES, and come out of nowhere when we least expect it.....

Death and loss are wake up calls for radical mental, emotional and spiritual growth. But only if we face it, and choose to process the thoughts and feelings associated with such a loss. Our brain wants to keep us on auto-pilot mode, rather than learning new insightful life-worthy lessons!

"I had only two choices on how to deal with yet another Death, wallow in self-pity and guilt or relentlessly search for all the Hidden WISDOM I possibly could find...." ~ Karen Love Lee

As I drew from all the past ENLIGHTENMENT I had gained in the recovery of every death up until this point, I was able to TRUST the healing process....regenerating profound feelings of FAITH.

"The subconscious mind acts first on the dominating desires which have been mixed with emotional feeling, such as faith." "FAITH is the head chemist of the mind." ~ Napoleon Hill, Author of Think and Grow Rich

As I laser focused on elevating self-realization, without being aware that this new wisdom was enhancing my trust and faith, my brain was sending and receiving energetic signals. Napoleon Hill likens this to "radio waves transmitted by the brain."

"Our minds become magnetized with the dominating thoughts we hold in our minds, and these magnets attract to us the forces, the people, the circumstances of the life which harmonize with the nature of our dominating thoughts." ~ Napoleon Hill, Author of Think and Grow Rich

The more consistently we align our mental frequency with a wish or goal the more the universe mysteriously shifts to create what is imagined into the material form.

Poof! Another horse that has been on my wish-list appears, a Friesian Stallion. But, this time it's a new consciousness experience. Granted, manifesting dream horses is typical for me. But what is atypical is the underlying driving force.

In the past I was driven by the unconscious need to bury or hide from pain, not untainted pleasure. This time, I diligently transformed the pain into deeply rooted passion stemming from my soul. Rather than numbing or disguising the problem with a band-aid fix.

In retrospect, I used a lot of horses to mask UNconscious insecurities, and vowed not to repeat this unhealthy self-sabotaging pattern. No matter the cost or sacrifice. Because it only prolongs hidden heartache. Learning from my past history, I was able to make a conscious choice to stop this maddening cycle.

Ta-dah!!!! As a result of this promise to mySELF, I ended up exponentially elevating my mental, emotional and spiritual acuity to the next-level!!!! More said, this time I didn't use something or someone to cover up or mask my deep-seated inner turmoil and grief.

As humans, we are automatically designed to override EMOTIONAL processing in times of crisis, which distorts and deflects us from what eternally matters ~ soulful happiness and fulfillment.

In my particular case, if I had distracted myself by getting a quick-fix, adenaline high from simply replacing my deceased horse with a new dream horse, I would have missed all the empowering Evolutionary Consciousness.

Hence, intensifying my "Infinite Intelligence." As Napoleon Hill describes it, is the all-pervading intelligence of the universe -- a boundless source of ideas, inspiration, and guidance. It communicates through the subconscious and imagination, and it responds when desire, faith, and action are aligned.

"The univers is asking... Show me your new vibration, I will show you miracles." ~ Solancha

Bottom line: I ended up embodying the best of both worlds of the Human Mind. The World of Logic and The World of Mysticism. The Power of Fantasy becoming REAL.

Not only did I get radical wisdom, I miraculously magnetized my next DREAM Horse, Arion Vrai!!!!

#BelieveInMIRACLES #EmpoweringYouThroughUs

After snapshot of the transformaional healing through the death of my beloved purebred Andalusian performance horse, "Angel." It's profoundly more than what meets the eye.....

Part 1 was recorded just 3 days after Angel passed on July 3, 2024. Now, 13 months later, I share all of the empowering wisdom in hopes of empowering you through loss....True sustainable healing is an UNconscious, subconscious and conscious phenomenon!!!!!

My chosen Godmother, Marilyn joins me as we discuss the mental, emotional and spiritual wisdom to be gained when bravely facing our deepest emotional torment in times of the death of not only a DREAM, but of a loved one.

When we experience a heartbreaking loss the last thing our brain wants is to look for the #Enlightenment or #Empowerment or #BlessingsInDisguise ~ Why? Becaues our brain has an emergency override system that causes logic to temporarily trump emotional heartache. The brain is designed to prioritize the ability to function over emotional processing.

If we don't process our emotions they become repressed, meaning unconscious to us, feeding into a cycle of being driven by the need to unknowingly mask pain instead of dealing and healing it.

This is why elevating and evolving consciousness matters!

It's a conscious choice to take the time to feel and process our emotions which brings healing and empowerment. Ultimately, feelings of peace and meaningfulness to enrich our Sense-of-Self, our heart, soul and spirit....

If we don't allow ourselves to dig deeper into the inner workings of the human mind for the sake of self-understanding, acceptance and love, we end up reinforcing the mental patterns that instill pain. The scariest part is that it's NOT obvious.

The solution and remedy is to look for what you can't see....for the miracles are actually happening in real time!!!!! Listen to this podcast as I share my journey and why digging deep creates a whole new inner-world..........Fulfilling happiness and gratitude stem from within.

#KarenLoveLeeEmpowersYOU #EmpoweringYouThroughUs

Just 3 days after the death of my horse, which triggered losing my sister and father....I share with my dear friend, Marilyn what I was going through to help empower those who can relate to any type of "Death." #RealRawRelatable

In this series, here is the Before snapshot of my own personal experience of mental and emotioanl transformation. This is all about evolving consciousness and how to deal directly with heartbreak and grief.

I'm unable to hold back my tears after unexpectedly losing my purebred Andalusian performance horse, Hermoso CVIII, aka "Angel." He and I were in training together, as I practice to compete on new higher levels.

BUT, this is more than just losing my horse, it's about the grieving process and death of a long time DREAM! Digging deeper into the depths of the human mind and spirit, there's way more here than meets the eye....

On the surface this horse was directly connected to the death of my father because of my own spiritual beliefs. Just days after my father died, this horse showed up out of nowhere and was meant to be mine. But then Angel dies, retriggering the pain of losing my father, which UNconsiously caused my feelings to shut down, closing off my heart. Simply because I didn't want to feel the crushing sorrow anymore.

Yet, I had NO idea this was happening because my life is full of dreams come true, and I've been living life on my terms. Though, there was a part of my heart closing off that I didn't see....

It's never ever about the physical world and what we think we see. It goes far deeper into the FEELINGS connected to our heart and soul. Death in all forms is a wake up call to get an opportunity to gain greater insights and wisdom to expand our heart's capacity to LOVE more deeply, NOT less.

However, the human brain will trick us to inadvertently close off and harden our heart and distract us from enduring the depths of the heartache. Why? Because our brain is designed to override emotional processing to prioritize survival mode. Meaning, attending to practical needs rather than emotional needs.

Over time, if left to our own devices, if we don't consciously choose to go back and process these chaotic feelings and sensations, it worsens the underlying, unresolved turmoil.

Ultimately, causing serious REPRESSION---unknowingly pushing feelings out of awareness, which is detrimental on all levels.

The concept of "Death" comes in all shapes, sizes and forms. This was the death of losing another dream horse, and I've had many. But this time, I was subconsciously triggered back into the grief of no longer having my father, and then losing my sister years ago. So, the trauma runs deep, far and wide.

There's obvious death - of a person or pet. And there's the death of a romance, job, marriage, career, losing a position of authority, a demotion, losing a favorite car or object of desire, etc. Simply losing someone or something that you feel a deep connection to.

Loss is symbolic of "Death."

This experience has so many layers for me, and with every death associated with the next death, a piece of my heart dies. As time progresses, my heart kept dying just a little bit more. Yet, this was NOT obvious to me because so many aspects of my life have been getting better and better with more wishes coming to fruition!

Yet, this was extremely difficult to detect. Because by default, the human brain focuses on the physical world, not the inner emotional world! I've created an awesome outer world, but still missing what truly matters....profound feelings of fulfilling bliss.

The catalyst was just this. Within weeks following the loss of Angel, I was offered yet another Dream Horse on my wish list. But, I wasn't excited or happy about it. The more goodness I kept creating and magnetizing, the less joy and exuberance I felt.

Once I realized this, it forced me to wake up and examine what was really going on!!!!

Bottom line, all the devastating deaths in my life where UNCONSIOUSLY rearing their ugly heads, overshadowing and cancelling out my hearts capacity to feel abundant love, joy and graitude.

Join me as I explain the inner workings of the mind and heart to empower YOU!!!!!

#KarenLoveLeeEmpowersYOU #EmpoweringYouThroughUs

My heart breaks over the unprecedented Southern CA wildfires.

Healing through catastrophic tragedy mentally, emotionally & spiritually gave me, not only the will to live, but profound self-acceptance, peace and gratitude. Once again, I am personally reliving my own experiences of wildfire evacuation by being on high alert to flee at a moments notice.

This compelled me to share my feelings and wisdom I've gained through my expereinces of crisis, chaos, death and loss as my way of supporting others suffering from overwhelming emotions of shock, anger, pain, hurt, despair, hopelessness....

The human brain is built for survival, especially when it comes to life or death situations. It designed to shut off emotions to either fight or flee. We need this function to step into functional action for the best chances for survival.

Once the eminent danger has subsided, the brain disengages from the fear-based fight/flight function, it's imperative to allow the emotions and feelings to emerge. This is the most important first step to healing and recovery. There is then an opening for understanding and the ability to process making sense of our experiences.

We, then can gain greater perspectives that transform the pain into peace.....

My awesome client, Cody joins me to express some of his greatest lessons learned from our coaching together. Spoiler alert - he quit coaching at one time, and tried to quit on several occasions. But, obviously, learned the hard way and came back stronger and better than ever!!!!!

• Stopping the cycle of QUITTING.
• Letting go of the negative lies you tell yourSELF.
• Results don't define you. Never fixate on outcomes.
• Your material world doesn't dictate your worth!
• The need to "Look Good" is fake confidence. Just masks the deep-rooted insecurities.
• Your highest best investment is YOU!
• Staying out of your own way by addressing the hidden blockages.

Cody, thanks for being a dedicated testament to #ThePowerOfSelfEvolution. #SustainableSuccess stems from understanding how to override UNconscious blocks that stop us from reaching our greatest potential.

An extraordinary couple, my clients, Cody & Cristina join us to share their miraculous experiences as a direct result of understanding and loving their own individual inner-SELVES, first.

With a new baby on the way, Cristina was a week late going into natural labor.....That is, until we dug into the depths of her UNconscious mind to see what was REALLY stopping her from experiencing the childbirth of her dreams!!

At first glance, Cristina's delayed labor seemed to be caused by her stress and circumstances. Yet, in acutality, it was something much deeper that she could not see. It was hidden blindspots of emotional trauma stemming from her past.....

It's never ever what meets the eye, it's REALLY what meets the brain!

What meets the brain is UNconscious FEAR, which causes an inability to get what we truly want in life, to feel a sense of FREEDOM & HAPPINESS.

Healthy, happy, loving relationship are created through profoundly understanding YourSELF and others, while exercising mutually sympathetic LISTENING. Meaning, hearing and allowing the other to freely express themselves with no preconceived notions, judgement or criticism.

Actually LISTENING to what they are saying, NOT what you are hearing in your own head! All the while, never taking anything personally!!!! Cristina shares a great example of this on our podcast!

Easier said, than done. But, learning and training to actively listen is radically worth it because it creates a rapturously intimate LOVE connection that penetrates the depths of your SOUL.

I was asked these questions in regards to my own "BEingness," so I address them in this podcast to share my journey to help enlighten and empower others.....

* How did I develope my philosophies and ways of being?

* Where they trickled in or did they click all at once? For example, was there a moment when you figured out weighing the costs [of thoughts, feelings, actions, results] were of major importance in our consciousness?

* What were your initial thoughts about our unconscious?

* What factors contibuted to learning about consciousness? Books, people, self-examination?

* What inspires you?

I never knew that "Beingness" even existed until I learned about ontology, mind and brain function. I was living my life by DOing (achieving and producing results) and HAVE-ing (things in the material world). All the while, I was an unhappy, unfulfilled human BEING. Eventhough I achieved alot, and had alot!!!!!

Now, I focus on how I am feeling and who am I being, first and foremost, which makes "Doing" and "Having" things radically FUNner, FREEr and most of all, profoundly, HAPPIER.

It's a lifelong persistent journey to create who we ARE internally, NOT externally, as life's circumstances challenge us deep within our core BEing.