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Some days it feels like the only way through is to push harder. We took a different route with psychologist and author Dr. Kate Lund, exploring how real resilience is built on flexibility, calm, and the everyday choices that shape family culture.

Dr. Lund’s story starts with hydrocephalus in childhood and winds through Washington, DC communications work before circling back to clinical training in Boston. That zigzag path becomes a lesson for students and early-career clinicians: growth isn’t linear, and the skills you need—listening, adaptability, presence—are forged in messy, meaningful places. We compare athletic grit with parental grace, trading the “bulldoze through” mindset for a lifestyle that leaves room to breathe.

We unpack Dr. Lund’s two books, including Bounce and its seven pillars of resilience—emotion regulation, frustration tolerance, friendships, focus, courage, confidence and motivation, and optimism—and Step Away, a playbook for parents who want to model steadiness without losing themselves. You’ll hear the practical side: how to lower your baseline stress, use the relaxation response (breath plus a calming word) to reset quickly, and turn post-game car rides into moments of connection instead of lectures. We share stories about twins, youth sports, and the small decisions that help kids redefine winning as effort and learning, not just the scoreboard.

The heart of it is authentic connection. We practice listening first, telling age-appropriate stories about our own setbacks, and changing one behavior the next time emotions run high. If you’ve been more directive than present, there’s a way to turn the ship—patiently, consistently, and without shame. By the end, you’ll have tools you can use today to create a calmer home, a stronger team dynamic, and a more resilient you.

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We talk with Bryan Power about how a near-collapse became the turning point for a stronger marriage. He shares the six pillars of Integrated Attachment Theory and real steps to move from anxious or avoidant patterns to secure connection.

• origin story and the emotional restraining order
• discovery of anxious and dismissive avoidant dynamics
• subconscious patterns driving conflict and rupture
• six pillars: core wounds, needs, emotions, boundaries, communication, behaviors
• regulating before hard talks and structured listening
• how to spot core wounds beneath small fights
• setting balanced boundaries that evolve with life
• dating and vetting through compromise and respect
• rebuilding a new relationship rather than fixing the old one
• resources to start learning attachment theory today

If you are interested in hearing more from Bryan, check out his website https://www.myrelationshipfail.com/

Bryan also mentioned: Go watch the Mel Robbins episode with Thais Gibson to learn more about integrated attachment theory.

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Two counselors trade jokes about inbox guilt, dying Durangos, and overpowered espresso while wrestling with a deeper question: how much real life belongs in the classroom. We explore program culture, student shock, and what it takes to build identity, grit, and readiness for hard cases.

• inbox pressure, family interruptions, and guilt
• digital clutter vs responsibility to students
• humor as relief and as teaching tool
• old car frugality and tradeoffs in priorities
• guest plans and student-centered goals
• boundaries around oversharing in class
• the value of honest case examples
• program culture: grit, support, and balance
• supervision during tough cases and growth
• helping students find authentic clinical identity

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If you have any questions about any counseling related topics or would like the twins to share their thoughts about a particular counseling case - reach out with the info below:

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