• #126: [Inside the Mind] Derek Belch (CEO of Strivr and Stanford Kicker): Visualization on Steroids, Decision-Making Under Pressure, and the Psychology of High-Stakes Performance
    Jan 8 2026
    Pressure exposes the truth. It reveals who's prepared, who's present, and who's pretending. And whether you're standing over an eight-foot putt to win the Masters or staring down a boardroom full of investors, the mechanisms that make you crumble — or come alive — are the same. In this powerful conversation, Derek Belch—founder & CEO of STRIVR, former Stanford kicker, entrepreneur, and competitive golfer—breaks down the psychology of high-stakes performance. Derek shares what truly separates people who execute under pressure from those who collapse, why the myth of "balance" is misleading, and the mindset that's helped him build a pioneering tech company while simultaneously pursuing his quest to qualify for a PGA Tour event. In this episode, you'll learn: Why pressure is a privilege—and the hidden gift inside nervousnessThe difference between preparation that helps vs. preparation that hurtsHow VR training reveals the brain's decision-making blind spotsWhy perspective is the golfer's most underdeveloped mental skillHow to reframe pressure as opportunity instead of consequenceWhy so many founders burn out—and how to avoid becoming one of themThe real meaning of work-life balance for high achieversDerek's biggest lessons from pursuing scratch golf in his 40s Whether you're a golfer, entrepreneur, or high performer hungry for the next level, this episode will reshape the way you prepare, practice, and perform. Get your pencils ready and start listening. P.P.S. Curious to learn more about the results my clients are experiencing and what they say about working with me? Read more here. More About Derek Derek Belch is a former Stanford Cardinal kicker turned entrepreneur, best known as the founder and CEO of STRIVR, a pioneering virtual reality company that builds immersive training for NFL teams, Fortune 500 companies, and the U.S. military. A multi-degree Stanford graduate with an MBA from USC, Derek left coaching at Stanford to launch STRIVR out of the university's Virtual Human Interaction Lab and has since been recognized on Sports Business Journal's "Forty Under 40" list. Today, he balances leading STRIVR with his own quest to become a scratch golfer and hosts The Golfing CEO Podcast, where he explores the intersection of performance, leadership, and the game of golf. Play to Your Potential On (and Off) the Course Schedule a Mindset Coaching Discovery CallSubscribe to the More Pars than Bogeys NewsletterDownload my "Play Your Best Round" free hypnosis audio recording. High-Performance Hypnotherapy and Mindset Coaching Paul Salter - known as The Golf Hypnotherapist - is a High-Performance Hypnotherapist and Mindset Coach who leverages hypnosis and powerful subconscious reprogramming techniques to help golfers of all ages and skill levels overcome the mental hazards of their minds so they can shoot lower scores and play to their potential. He has over 16 years of coaching experience working with high performers in various industries, helping them get unstuck, out of their own way, and unlock their full potential. Click here to learn more about how high-performance hypnotherapy and mindset coaching can help you get out of your own way and play to your potential on (and off) the course. Instagram: @thegolfhypnotherapist Key Takeaways: Pressure exposes preparation — nerves mean you care.Simulation (or mental reps) accelerates decision-making under stress.Perspective is the most underrated skill in golf and entrepreneurship.Tournament golf is a completely different sport than casual golf.You must know who you are to handle long-term stress effectively.Balance isn't real; clear values and non-negotiables are.Founders and golfers fail when expectations and identity collide. Key Quotes: "Pressure is a privilege — nerves simply mean you care.""If I've put in the work, it's in God's hands after that.""Visualization is VR on steroids — but golf still demands feel.""You can play golf once a week and expect scratch results? Expectations matter.""Burnout isn't about hours; it's about losing alignment with who you are.""Tournament golf is a different sport. Completely.""Perspective is everything. Even par is not the definition of scratch." Time Stamps: 00:00: Pressure Situations in Sports02:52: The Importance of Preparation05:26: VR and Simulation in Training08:20: Golf and Visualization Techniques11:12: Reframing Pressure as Opportunity14:13: The Concept of Balance in Life16:53: Identity and Performance Under Pressure28:00: Navigating Challenges in Business and Golf31:35: The Importance of Self-Reflection and Commitment35:36: Understanding Burnout and Stress Management38:59: Perspective: The Key to Success in Golf and Business48:17: Final Thoughts: Dignity and Playing Fast
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  • #125: How to Summit the Mountain of Success
    Jan 5 2026
    In this episode, I want you to imagine this… You're standing at the base of a mountain on a clear day. You can see the trail. You can see the summit. That summit represents the next level of your life—the golfer you know you're capable of being, the business owner with more freedom, peace, and confidence. You know where you're going. You know what to do. And yet, every step feels heavier than it should. Not because you lack discipline.Not because you lack talent.Not because you don't want it badly enough. It feels hard because you're trying to summit your mountain while carrying a backpack full of invisible weight—unexamined beliefs, unresolved emotions, fear, pressure, and destructive mindset programs that quietly sabotage your progress. In this episode, I break down the mountain metaphor to show you why most high performers get stuck two steps forward, three steps back—and why the problem was never the mountain, the plan, or the strategy. We'll unpack emotional fog, destructive mindset programs, perfectionism, fear of success, and why self-sabotage often disguises itself as logic. Most importantly, I'll show you what it actually means to do the work required to clear the fog, lighten the load, and finally reach the summit you already know you're capable of climbing. In this episode, you'll learn: Why knowing what to do isn't enough to create lasting changeHow emotional fog robs you of clarity, confidence, and self-trustWhat destructive mindset programs are and how they keep you stuckWhy self-sabotage often feels logical, responsible, or justifiedWhere most high performers stop short on their climb to successHow perfectionism and fear of success quietly drain your energyWhat it actually means to "do the work" to reach your next level Get your pencils ready and start listening. P.S. Curious to learn more about the results my clients are experiencing and what they say about working with me? Read more here. Play to Your Potential On (and Off) the Course Schedule a Mindset Coaching Discovery CallSubscribe to the More Pars than Bogeys NewsletterDownload my "Play Your Best Round" free hypnosis audio recording. High-Performance Hypnotherapy and Mindset Coaching Paul Salter - known as The Golf Hypnotherapist - is a High-Performance Hypnotherapist and Mindset Coach who leverages hypnosis and powerful subconscious reprogramming techniques to help golfers of all ages and skill levels overcome the mental hazards of their minds so they can shoot lower scores and play to their potential. He has over 16 years of coaching experience working with high performers in various industries, helping them get unstuck, out of their own way, and unlock their full potential. Click here to learn more about how high-performance hypnotherapy and mindset coaching can help you get out of your own way and play to your potential on (and off) the course. Instagram: @thegolfhypnotherapist Key Takeaways: You're not failing because of a lack of discipline, talent, or information.Emotional fog makes even a clear path feel confusing and exhausting.The weight you carry matters more than the mountain you're climbing.Destructive mindset programs are patterned, predictable, and unconscious.Self-sabotage often appears as logic, timing issues, or "being realistic."Different results require thinking, feeling, doing, and being different.Clearing emotional baggage is the fastest way to sustainable success. Key Quotes: "You're not stuck because you don't know what to do—you're stuck because of the weight you're carrying.""The problem was never the mountain; it was the backpack.""Self-sabotage disguises itself as logic when your nervous system wants relief.""Emotion is energy in motion, and unprocessed emotion creates fog.""Your subconscious doesn't care if an emotion hurts—it cares if it's familiar.""If you want to achieve different, you must be willing to feel different.""Sustainable success begins when you stop dragging old patterns uphill." Time Stamps: 00:00: Climbing the Mountain of Success04:39: Understanding Emotional Baggage16:58: Identifying Destructive Mindset Programs30:36: Taking Action Towards Change
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  • #124 [Inside the Mind] Emilia Doran: The Emotional Cost of Perfectionism, Saying Less, and Stepping Into A New Identity After Golf
    Jan 1 2026
    If you've ever felt your heart race over a three-footer or a make-or-break sales call, imagine doing that with a camera pointed at your face and thousands of people listening… That's the world broadcaster and national champion golfer Emilia Doran lives in every week. In this episode of The Scratch Golfer's Mindset Podcast, Emilia pulls back the curtain on what it really takes to stay composed on live TV, how she manages nerves under pressure, and why the same routines, reps, and reflections that make her great on-air are the same ingredients you need to perform on the golf course and in business. She shares how she redefined success after stepping away from professional golf, the emotional cost of perfectionism, and what it's like to build a powerful personal brand as a woman in a male-dominated sport—all while keeping joy, gratitude, and perspective at the center. In this episode, you'll learn: How Emilia handles nerves and stays authentic during live broadcastsThe mindset shift that helped her stop chasing perfection and start playing freerPractical ways to simulate "18th-hole pressure" in your practice and prepHow routines, reps, and reflection translate from broadcasting to better golfWhat Emilia's identity shift from pro-track golfer to broadcaster taught her about fulfillmentHow she defines a "successful" broadcast (and why saying less is often more)What it really takes to stand out as a woman in golf and claim your space with confidence Get your pencils ready and start listening. P.P.S. Curious to learn more about the results my clients are experiencing and what they say about working with me? Read more here. More About Emilia Emilia Doran is a former high-level competitive golfer turned rising star in golf media. After a decorated junior and amateur playing career—including national-level events and standout performances in women's amateur golf—Emilia transitioned into broadcasting, where she has quickly become one of the most recognizable young voices in the sport. She covers professional golf, collegiate golf, and elite amateur events, combining storytelling, high-performance insights, and on-course experience to bring a fresh, relatable perspective to viewers. Her unique blend of competitive playing background, media experience, personal brand building, and deep understanding of the modern golf audience has positioned her as one of the game's most influential emerging personalities. Connect with Emilia on Instagram. Play to Your Potential On (and Off) the Course Schedule a Mindset Coaching Discovery CallSubscribe to the More Pars than Bogeys NewsletterDownload my "Play Your Best Round" free hypnosis audio recording. High-Performance Hypnotherapy and Mindset Coaching Paul Salter - known as The Golf Hypnotherapist - is a High-Performance Hypnotherapist and Mindset Coach who leverages hypnosis and powerful subconscious reprogramming techniques to help golfers of all ages and skill levels overcome the mental hazards of their minds so they can shoot lower scores and play to their potential. He has over 16 years of coaching experience working with high performers in various industries, helping them get unstuck, out of their own way, and unlock their full potential. Click here to learn more about how high-performance hypnotherapy and mindset coaching can help you get out of your own way and play to your potential on (and off) the course. Instagram: @thegolfhypnotherapist Twitter: @parsoverbogeys Key Takeaways: Treat the camera like a person and slightly exaggerate your natural personality so your true self actually comes through under pressure.Nerves don't disappear; they become more manageable when you simplify the goal—like aiming to say just one truly insightful thing each broadcast.Preparation is routine, reps, and rehearsal: organize your info, rehearse key lines, and build a repeatable process you can trust when the heat turns up.Reflection isn't just about what went wrong—intentionally review what you did well so you don't let one flub define the entire performance.Perfectionism feels like a superpower early on, but if you don't manage your expectations, it becomes emotional kryptonite that drains joy and confidence.Watching the best players closely teaches that even world-class golfers hit plenty of mediocre shots—and handle them with neutrality and grace.In both golf and broadcasting, success is often saying less with more impact and knowing when silence, presence, and emotion are more powerful than words. Key Quotes: "If I can just say one insightful thing to the audience, that's a win.""You might spend five hours on notes and only use ten percent of them—and that's okay.""Broadcasting is a job of imperfection; it's how you handle yourself when things go slightly awry that matters.""I had to accept that golf isn't my number one priority anymore—and still let that be okay.""The more I worked in golf, the more I realized I didn't want to feel emotionally...
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  • #123: Do the Work: My 2025 Golf Reckoning and 2026 Identity Shift
    Dec 29 2025
    In this solo episode of The Scratch Golfer's Mindset Podcast, I'm sharing a raw, honest reflection on my 2025 golf season—what improved, what I avoided, where fear quietly ran the show, and why the theme of 2026 is simple: do the work. I walk you through the exact 15 reflection questions I challenged my newsletter readers to answer—and I read my own straight-from-the-journal responses. Then I close by defining the identity I'm stepping into in 2026: committed, intentional, and fearless—with a clear focus on becoming a longer hitter, sharper from 125 and in, and mentally tougher when things get uncomfortable. If you've been stuck in inconsistency, rushing your routine, or playing not to mess up, this episode will give you a mirror—and a reset. In this episode, you'll learn: The 15 reflection questions I use to audit a season and upgrade my golf identityWhy false urgency destroys routines, decision-making, and scoringHow fear shows up as "smart golf" (laying back, avoiding driver) and silently caps your potentialThe difference between practicing and practicing with intentionalityHow I'm building more presence and focus using a 3-hole check-in resetWhat I'm no longer willing to tolerate in my game—and why that line mattersThe identity shift I'm making in 2026: committed, intentional, fearless—and what that looks like in action Get your pencils ready and start listening. P.S. Curious to learn more about the results my clients are experiencing and what they say about working with me? Read more here. Play to Your Potential On (and Off) the Course Schedule a Mindset Coaching Discovery CallSubscribe to the More Pars than Bogeys NewsletterDownload my "Play Your Best Round" free hypnosis audio recording. High-Performance Hypnotherapy and Mindset Coaching Paul Salter - known as The Golf Hypnotherapist - is a High-Performance Hypnotherapist and Mindset Coach who leverages hypnosis and powerful subconscious reprogramming techniques to help golfers of all ages and skill levels overcome the mental hazards of their minds so they can shoot lower scores and play to their potential. He has over 16 years of coaching experience working with high performers in various industries, helping them get unstuck, out of their own way, and unlock their full potential. Click here to learn more about how high-performance hypnotherapy and mindset coaching can help you get out of your own way and play to your potential on (and off) the course. Instagram: @thegolfhypnotherapist 15 Reflection Questions: What do I want in 2026?What do I want more of?What do I want less of?What am I no longer willing to tolerate in my golf game?What patterns kept repeating for me this year—and why?Where did I abandon my standards when things got uncomfortable?What did I pretend "didn't matter," even though it clearly did?What am I still blaming on my swing that's actually mental or emotional?Where did fear quietly make my decisions for me this year?What did I avoid working on because it exposed my real edge?When did I play not to mess up instead of playing to perform?What part of my game actually improved—and why did it improve?What drained my energy on the course more than it should have?What would change if I trusted myself one level more?If nothing changes in 2026, what will that cost me—emotionally and competitively? Key Takeaways: You don't need more knowledge to reach scratch—you need consistent, intentional work.False urgency destroys routines, decision-making, and scoring faster than any swing flaw.Fear often disguises itself as "smart golf" and quietly caps your potential.Your routine matters most right after great holes and bad holes, not when things feel easy.Intentional practice creates predictable performance; random reps create random results.Emotional toughness is built by sitting in discomfort instead of numbing or avoiding it.Identity is the real upgrade, and in 2026 that identity is committed, intentional, and fearless. Key Quotes: "The theme of 2026 is do the work—not the easy stuff, not the surface-level stuff, the real work.""I already have the talent and capability to be a scratch golfer; inconsistency was the real issue.""I'm no longer willing to tolerate playing hurried golf with a false sense of urgency.""Fear made decisions everywhere this year, especially when I convinced myself I was being strategic.""Avoiding driver and playing not to mess up kept me playing par fours like par fives.""Vulnerability, ownership, and accountability aren't weaknesses—they're performance accelerators.""If nothing changes in 2026, it will cost me everything." Time Stamps: 00:00: The Importance of Doing the Work01:40: Introduction to the Scratch Golfer's Mindset04:29: Reflecting on 2025: Lessons Learned08:37: Setting Intentions for 202614:25: Identifying Goals and Areas for Improvement18:12: Overcoming Mental Barriers in Golf23:18: The Role of Fear in Performance28:33: Celebrating Progress and Growth31:40: The Cost...
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  • #122: [Inside the Mind] Trevor Tellin: The Power of Self-Talk and Having Better Conversations with Yourself to Build Confidence and Resilience
    Dec 26 2025
    Your self-talk is the only voice you hear 24/7 — and most days, it's not that kind. For many golfers and entrepreneurs, that inner dialogue quietly runs the show: it talks you out of what you know you should be doing, keeps you glued to comfort, and convinces you you're not ready, not worthy, or not capable of the next level. In this episode of The Scratch Golfer's Mindset Podcast, I sit down with mindset coach Trevor Tellin to unpack how your inner voice shapes your identity, your confidence, and your results — on the golf course and in business. In this episode, you'll learn: Spot the invisible ways your self-talk sabotages your golf game and business.Use a simple "reward scale" to win more debates between the couch and the range.Personify your inner voices so you can work with them instead of being ruled by them.Create space between you and your thoughts so they feel less personal and more workable.Use Interloop to capture real self-talk data from your rounds and turn it into growth.Understand fear of success, over-identifying with "the grind," and how they keep you stuck.Build mental toughness and confidence through repetition, hard things, and self-compassion. Get your pencils ready and start listening. P.P.S. Curious to learn more about the results my clients are experiencing and what they say about working with me? Read more here. More About Trevor Trevor Tellin is a high-performance mindset coach who helps golfers master the mental side of the game so they can perform with confidence, composure, and clarity under pressure. Founder of Mindset Coach Trev, he works with competitive amateurs, college players, and professionals to help them overcome fear, perfectionism, and self-doubt—on and off the course. With a master's degree in psychology and years of experience coaching athletes, leaders, and business professionals, Trevor combines sport psychology, neuroscience, and practical mindset tools to help clients unlock their full potential and play—and live—with greater freedom and fulfillment. Connect with Trevor. Connect on Instagram (mindsetcoachtrev). Play to Your Potential On (and Off) the Course Schedule a Mindset Coaching Discovery CallSubscribe to the More Pars than Bogeys NewsletterDownload my "Play Your Best Round" free hypnosis audio recording. High-Performance Hypnotherapy and Mindset Coaching Paul Salter - known as The Golf Hypnotherapist - is a High-Performance Hypnotherapist and Mindset Coach who leverages hypnosis and powerful subconscious reprogramming techniques to help golfers of all ages and skill levels overcome the mental hazards of their minds so they can shoot lower scores and play to their potential. He has over 16 years of coaching experience working with high performers in various industries, helping them get unstuck, out of their own way, and unlock their full potential. Click here to learn more about how high-performance hypnotherapy and mindset coaching can help you get out of your own way and play to your potential on (and off) the course. Instagram: @thegolfhypnotherapist Key Takeaways: Awareness is everything — most self-talk patterns run on autopilot until you finally slow down enough to hear them.Every choice is an exchange; comfort feels good now, but it often carries the hidden cost of slowing or blocking your long-term growth.Scoring your choices helps you override resistance by comparing the real value of short-term comfort vs. long-term reward.Personifying your inner voices creates separation, making it easier to recognize which ones help you and which ones hijack you.Tools like Interloop reveal patterns you'd never notice on your own, giving you tangible data to change your on-course self-talk.Fear of success often drives sabotage — when you get close to the next level, the uncertainty of "what comes with it" pulls you back.Mental toughness and confidence come from repetition, doing hard things, and proving to yourself (again and again) that you can handle discomfort. Key Quotes: "We're so familiar with our inner voice that we don't realize how often it runs the show.""We rationalize sabotage because the excuses sound convincing coming from ourselves.""Every decision is an exchange — you can't get what you want without giving up something.""When you personify a limiting voice, it becomes easier to question and redirect it.""Turning a feeling into a character creates distance, and distance creates choice.""Most people envy the result but not the inputs required to reach it.""Mental toughness is being present in discomfort and choosing to lean in anyway." Time Stamps: 00:00: The Power of Inner Dialogue02:45: Understanding Self-Sabotage05:33: Personifying Inner Voices08:14: Balancing Positive and Negative Voices11:17: Creating Awareness for Change14:06: Introducing InnerLoop: A New Tool17:03: Education and Frameworks for Improvement19:53: Unlearning Achievement-Based Identity22:36: Invisible Patterns of Self-Sabotage24:17: The...
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  • #121: Delusional Goals Require Delusional Action (Your Effort is Embarrassing)
    Dec 22 2025
    Most golfers aren't short on belief… They're short on behavior. They'll say they're going to qualify for a USGA event, win their club championship, or finally break 80 consistently… then practice "when it's convenient," avoid pressure, and wonder why their confidence keeps collapsing the moment things get uncomfortable. This episode is a gut-check (and a blueprint): being delusional in your thinking isn't the issue—being delusional without matching action is. Because that gap—between what you say you want and what you repeatedly do—is where frustration, self-doubt, guilt, and stalled progress live. You'll hear why high performers aren't just delusional in their goals… they're delusional in their standards, their commitment, and their consistency—and how to bring that same congruency into your off-season so next season finally matches the player you believe you are. In this episode, you'll learn: Why "big belief + small execution" creates anxiety—not confidenceHow to stop underestimating the action required to reach big goalsThe real difference between being interested and being committedWhy small goals create negotiation, and big goals create clarityHow to build identity through consistent, unreasonable repsWhat your subconscious does when you start standing out—and how to override itA simple weekly lens: "What would a scratch golfer do this week?" Get your pencils ready and start listening. P.S. Curious to learn more about the results my clients are experiencing and what they say about working with me? Read more here. Play to Your Potential On (and Off) the Course Schedule a Mindset Coaching Discovery CallSubscribe to the More Pars than Bogeys NewsletterDownload my "Play Your Best Round" free hypnosis audio recording. High-Performance Hypnotherapy and Mindset Coaching Paul Salter - known as The Golf Hypnotherapist - is a High-Performance Hypnotherapist and Mindset Coach who leverages hypnosis and powerful subconscious reprogramming techniques to help golfers of all ages and skill levels overcome the mental hazards of their minds so they can shoot lower scores and play to their potential. He has over 16 years of coaching experience working with high performers in various industries, helping them get unstuck, out of their own way, and unlock their full potential. Click here to learn more about how high-performance hypnotherapy and mindset coaching can help you get out of your own way and play to your potential on (and off) the course. Instagram: @thegolfhypnotherapist Key Takeaways: Delusional thinking is fun—delusional action is what changes your handicap.The real problem isn't lack of belief; it's underestimating the reps required.When your goals and habits aren't aligned, you don't feel confident—you feel anxious.Small goals invite negotiation; big goals demand commitment and simplify decisions.Identity isn't what you claim—it's what your calendar proves.The moment you stand out, your subconscious will try to pull you back into "safe."Your breakthrough happens when thinking, doing, and identity finally match. Key Quotes: "Being delusional isn't the problem. Being delusional without matching action—that is the problem.""Big beliefs, small execution. And this dissonance creates anxiety, not confidence.""The reason you're not achieving your goals isn't lack of capacity to believe—it's lack of action taken to align with the delusional thinking.""As soon as you accept how hard it is, the journey becomes easier.""Small goals require constant negotiation. Big goals demand full commitment.""Most people are delusional in their thinking, conservative in their action, inconsistent in their identity.""Your breakthrough doesn't happen when you feel confident—it happens when your thinking, doing, and identity finally align." Time Stamps: 00:00: The Delusional World of Jake Paul02:39: Understanding Delusion in Action07:50: The Gap Between Thinking and Action10:24: The 10X Rule and Its Implications13:21: Commitment vs. Interest in Goals15:46: The Power of Delusional Thinking18:35: Personal Stories of Delusional Action21:16: Closing the Gap with Action23:35: Final Thoughts and Call to Action
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  • #120: [Inside the Mind] Casey Jacox: Strength in Humility, Staying Curious, and the Endless ROI on Prioritizing Relationships
    Dec 18 2025
    What if your ego is quietly costing you the very things you say you want—better numbers, deeper relationships, more freedom, and more fun on the golf course? In this conversation, former all-time leading salesperson turned coach, author, and podcast host Casey Jacox joins me to unpack how humility, curiosity, and relationship-driven leadership can help you win in business, golf, and fatherhood—without burning yourself (or everyone around you) out. We dig into the invisible pressure high performers feel to always do more, how easily we tie our worth to our results, and why so many men confuse anger and intensity with "high performance." Casey shares powerful stories from his football career, corporate life, and his journey as a dad and scratch-level golfer to show you a more sustainable way to compete and win. In this episode, you'll learn: How to chase big goals without tying your self-worth to your numbers or handicapWhy humility and relationships are your real competitive advantage in sales, business, and golfThe difference between fear-driven and curiosity-driven behavior—and how to shift into curiositySimple questions you can ask clients, teams, and yourself to uncover blind spots and ego trapsHow to "bench your ego" for 30 days and the measurable changes that will show up in your life and gameThe hidden pressure many dads carry—and how to protect presence with your kids without tanking your careerPractical ways to use gratitude, curiosity, and "even though…" reframes to bounce back faster after setbacks on and off the course Get your pencils ready and start listening. P.P.S. Curious to learn more about the results my clients are experiencing and what they say about working with me? Read more here. More About Casey Casey Jacox is an author, keynote speaker, executive coach, sales advisor, former collegiate quarterback, and the host of The Quarterback DadCast. After a 20-year career in corporate leadership—where he became the all-time leading salesperson at his company—Casey shifted his focus to helping leaders communicate more effectively, build stronger relationships, and lead with humility in business and at home. He is the author of WIN the RELATIONSHIP, Not the DEAL, and is widely known for his work with elite athletes, high-performing executives, and entrepreneurial founders. Whether he's coaching CEOs, interviewing world-class performers, or sharing real stories of fatherhood, Casey blends honesty, vulnerability, resilience, and leadership in a way that challenges people to grow from the inside out. Connect with Casey. Play to Your Potential On (and Off) the Course Schedule a Mindset Coaching Discovery CallSubscribe to the More Pars than Bogeys NewsletterDownload my "Play Your Best Round" free hypnosis audio recording. High-Performance Hypnotherapy and Mindset Coaching Paul Salter - known as The Golf Hypnotherapist - is a High-Performance Hypnotherapist and Mindset Coach who leverages hypnosis and powerful subconscious reprogramming techniques to help golfers of all ages and skill levels overcome the mental hazards of their minds so they can shoot lower scores and play to their potential. He has over 16 years of coaching experience working with high performers in various industries, helping them get unstuck, out of their own way, and unlock their full potential. Click here to learn more about how high-performance hypnotherapy and mindset coaching can help you get out of your own way and play to your potential on (and off) the course. Instagram: @thegolfhypnotherapist Key Takeaways: Humility isn't weakness; it's how you stay grounded when success, money, and recognition start stacking up.Relationships are not transactions—treat them like a bank account and make consistent deposits before you ever ask for a withdrawal.Fear-driven behavior protects the ego; curiosity-driven behavior unlocks growth and deeper connection.The right questions at the right time are more powerful than the perfect pitch, speech, or pep talk.Benching your ego leads to better leadership, less stress, stronger teams, and more enjoyment on the golf course.Being a present dad often requires brave decisions about boundaries, time, and saying "no" to good opportunities.Golf is a mirror: how you respond to bad shots, slumps, and frustration reveals how you handle pressure everywhere else. Key Quotes: "When you're great, other people will tell you. If you have to tell everyone how good you are, you're probably not that good.""People who treat relationships like transactions miss the bigger picture—you get back what you consistently deposit.""Fear-driven people are afraid to ask for help. Curiosity-driven people say, 'I don't know' and then do something about it.""It's not what you say that closes the deal or builds trust. It's what you ask.""The mind is the best tool in your golf bag—and only you have access to it.""Do you want to be right, or do you want to get what you want?""I'm never ...
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  • #119: The Likeable Loser: Why Being "Easy to Play With" Is Costing You the Life and Game You Want
    Dec 15 2025
    You've been "the fun guy" in the group for so long that you've started confusing being liked with being safe. You crack jokes. You wave people through. You rush putts. You skip your full routine because you don't want to be "that guy." You downplay your standards with, "We're just out here having fun." And then you walk off 18 quietly frustrated… because you do care. You do want to play well. You do want to shoot lower scores and be taken seriously. This episode is about the identity I call the Likeable Loser: the man who sacrifices his standards, edge, and ambition to remain accepted, easy, and socially safe—on the course, in business, and in relationships. In this episode, you'll learn: What the Likeable Loser is (and why he's not lazy, broken, or incapable)How people-pleasing shows up on the scorecard through rushed process and softened standardsWhy "winners are assholes" is a hidden belief that keeps you stuckHow labeling a "part" of you creates distance, clarity, and choiceWhy this pattern formed: belonging, approval, and social safetyThe real cost: self-trust, self-respect, integrity, and inner peaceHow to pursue excellence without becoming arrogant, intense, or unlikeable Get your pencils ready and start listening. P.S. Curious to learn more about the results my clients are experiencing and what they say about working with me? Read more here. Play to Your Potential On (and Off) the Course Schedule a Mindset Coaching Discovery CallSubscribe to the More Pars than Bogeys NewsletterDownload my "Play Your Best Round" free hypnosis audio recording. High-Performance Hypnotherapy and Mindset Coaching Paul Salter - known as The Golf Hypnotherapist - is a High-Performance Hypnotherapist and Mindset Coach who leverages hypnosis and powerful subconscious reprogramming techniques to help golfers of all ages and skill levels overcome the mental hazards of their minds so they can shoot lower scores and play to their potential. He has over 16 years of coaching experience working with high performers in various industries, helping them get unstuck, out of their own way, and unlock their full potential. Click here to learn more about how high-performance hypnotherapy and mindset coaching can help you get out of your own way and play to your potential on (and off) the course. Instagram: @thegolfhypnotherapist Key Takeaways: If you keep choosing "liked" over "aligned," your game will always feel capped—even if your swing improves.The Likeable Loser isn't unmotivated—he's over-indexed on approval, and it's leaking into every decision.Rushing your routine to protect group comfort is a form of self-betrayal that compounds over 18 holes."We're just out here having fun" becomes a shield—until the round ends and the truth shows up as frustration.You won't win consistently while you secretly believe winners are jerks—your subconscious will keep you 'safe' at good-enough.Labeling the part ("the Likeable Loser") creates space: you can observe the pattern instead of being owned by it.The upgrade isn't trying harder—it's giving yourself permission to be fully you: standards, routine, voice, ambition. Key Quotes: "Somewhere along the way, being liked became far more important than being great.""You're not lazy. You're not unmotivated. You're not incapable. You are, however, over-indexed on approval.""The likable loser is the man who sacrifices his standards, edge and ambition in order to remain accepted, easy and socially safe.""When you can label the emotion you're feeling… you create distance, and that distance allows you to invite in curiosity.""On one hand you want to win. On the other hand there's a belief that says winners are assholes. There's an incongruency there.""The cost isn't just strokes or revenue. It's self-trust, self-respect, integrity, inner peace.""The upgrade here doesn't require trying harder… it requires being truer, giving yourself permission." Time Stamps: 00:00: The Likable Loser: An Introduction02:34: Understanding the Patterns of People Pleasing05:36: The Cost of Being Liked08:04: The Impact of the Likable Loser on Performance10:49: Unpacking Beliefs Around Winning13:23: Transforming the Likable Loser Identity16:00: Embracing Authenticity and Ambition18:38: The Journey to Self-Respect21:17: Taking Aligned Action23:54: Conclusion and Call to Action
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    28 mins