Labiaplasty & Ozempic : Understanding the Surge in Popularity... Our resident therapist and coach, Fi, interviews Ceira Robinson, from London's prestigious Mayfair cosmetic surgery scene. Might Like this? https://youtu.be/pK6vVHyeWcs?si=hEY6cYBTGeo4VWd6

This eye-opening conversation reveals the alarming surge in cosmetic procedures, especially labiaplasty among young women, and exposes how social media pressures are driving dangerous beauty standards. The discussion also touches on emerging trends like Ozempic dietary injections and their intersection with body image issues.

Key Topics Covered:
• Labiaplasty surgery trends and consultation surges • NHS policies denying necessary aesthetic procedures • Body dysmorphia cycles in cosmetic surgery patients • Social media's toxic impact on women's body image • Risks of cosmetic surgery abroad vs. UK procedures • Ozempic and dietary injection trends affecting body standards • The emotional journey of cosmetic surgery recovery • Making informed choices about aesthetic procedures • Mental health implications of beauty standard pressures
Essential viewing for anyone considering cosmetic surgery, struggling with body dysmorphia, or concerned about the industry's impact on women's mental health and self-acceptance.

#CosmeticSurgery #Labiaplasty #BodyDysmorphia #MentalHealth #WomensHealth #SocialMediaImpact #BodyImage #NHS #AestheticProcedures #BeautyStandards #Ozempic #DietaryInjections #FiSclif #CeiraRobinson #TheParadoxOfChange"

Chapters
00:00
The Surge in Cosmetic Procedures
03:04
Kira's Journey into Aesthetics
06:12
Understanding Cosmetic Surgeries
08:57
The Impact of NHS Policies on Surgery Access
11:59
Labiaplasty: A Growing Trend
15:13
The Cycle of Body Dysmorphia
17:58
Social Media's Role in Body Image
20:56
Navigating Patient Insecurities
24:00
The Personal Side of Cosmetic Surgery
27:01
The Balance Between Surgery and Self-Acceptance
31:53
Understanding Surgical Procedures and Recovery
36:45
The Emotional Journey of Cosmetic Surgery
39:35
The Impact of Social Media on Body Image
41:19
The Risks of Cosmetic Surgery
51:20
Navigating the World of Cosmetic Surgery Abroad
58:43

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How do we Understanding the Emotional Roots of Eating Disorders? You might like our other episode Infidelity https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gh-qO5lQg5U&t=1618s

Elliot and Lauren explore how these disorders manifest differently in athletes compared to the general public, the impact of family dynamics, and the emotional struggles that often accompany these conditions.

We highlights the importance of recognising the human behind the athlete and the need for healthy boundaries within family relationships. This conversation delves into the complexities of anorexia and eating disorders, exploring the clinical definitions, the psychological struggles faced by individuals, and the need for compassionate care in treatment. Lauren shares personal experiences, highlighting the impact of societal pressures, childhood trauma, and the often misunderstood nature of eating disorders.

#EatingDisorderRecovery #HealingFromWithin #mentalhealth
#EatingDisorderRecovery #AnorexiaAwareness #MentalHealthMatters #RecoveryJourney #HealingFromWithin #RiseAbovePodcast #BodyImageStruggles #YouAreNotAlone #RecoveryIsPossible #SelfLoveJourney #theparadoxofchange #lottiepassell-syms

Connect with Lauren Vickery:
Website: https://therapytribe.co.uk/

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#AnorexiaRecovery #EatingDisorderAwareness #WarningSignsOfAnorexia #MentalHealthPodcast

Chapters
00:00 Understanding Eating Disorders: Warning Signs and Dynamics
06:00 Mental Health in Professional Sports: The Human Behind the Athlete
09:03 The Impact of Family Dynamics on Eating Disorders
11:54 Exploring the Types of Eating Disorders
15:00 The Role of Emotions in Eating Disorders
20:17 The Impact of Weight and BMI on Diagnosis
24:24 The Role of Control in Eating Disorders
29:09 The Need for Compassionate Care in Treatment
33:12 Hitting Rock Bottom: The Turning Point in Recovery
35:17 Understanding Bingeing and Purging Behaviors
36:29 Health Implications of Eating Disorders
37:07 Exploring Different Types of Eating Disorders
38:12 The Identity Crisis in Eating Disorders
39:03 The Role of Social Media in Body Image Issues
40:32 The Relationship Between Mental Health and Body Image
41:53 The Male Perspective on Eating Disorders
43:45 The Impact of Childhood Trauma on Eating Disorders
45:49 The Process of Writing a Healing Book
48:23 Reparenting the Inner Child
50:11 Recognising Signs of Eating Disorders in Children

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Expert Advice On Intimacy, Sex & Relationships. We discuss everything from dating, to love bombing vs limerence to conscious uncoupling. You may like 'Do Happy People Cheat?': https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gh-qO5lQg5U

A conversation with sex and intimacy specialist Lottie Passell-Syms, hosted by mental health podcast creators James Penny and Sam Bell:

Sam and James our the brains behind "Flex Your Feelings" and this episode reveals hidden truths about modern dating advice and relationship healing in 2025.

This therapist and coach workshop-style conversation combines professional insights with playful, actionable wisdom for relationship maintenance.

Flex Your Feelings
A mental health and wellness podcast hosted by James Penny, an 'almost sane' therapist specialising in child mental health, and Sam Bell, a 'former, all-round insecure idiot' on his own entrepreneurial journey. We take deep dives into important subjects while staying irreverently surface level, ensuring to connect with your inner child along the way. Our show embraces acceptance of others regardless of sexual orientation, focusing on seeking support and personal transformation.

In this episode, we welcome intimacy and relationship specialist Lottie Passell-Syms. We discuss the importance of communication in relationships, the changing landscape of dating, and the need for empathy and connection. Lottie shares insights from her twenty years of experience in the field, emphasizing the significance of understanding each other's needs and expectations. This episode provides valuable insights into fostering healthier relationships and understanding individual needs.Chapters

Pull up a chair, settle in, and 'flex your feelings'.
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/flex-your-feelings/id1738814183

CHAPTERS:
00:00 Introduction
00:53 Understanding Intimacy
03:09 Modern Dating Landscape
05:58 Communication Essentials
11:49 Expectations & Needs
18:11 Empathy & Connection
24:01 Power Dynamics
35:22 Generational Perspectives
43:33 Childhood Scripts
49:11 Sexual Communication
55:12 Anticipation & Play
1:01:32 Breaking Taboos
1:05:53 Limerence vs Love
1:17:20 Conscious Uncoupling
1:23:22 Relationship Maintenance
1:29:00 Healing After Breakups

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🔍 KEY INSIGHTS:
- Why modern relationships need more than just attraction
- How to maintain intimacy in long-term partnerships
- Breaking free from childhood relationship patterns
- The truth about love bombing vs. limerence
- Practical tools for better communication

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Twitter: @ParadoxofChange

📧 WORK WITH LOTTIE:
Website: lottie4salesims.com
Location: Otterbourne, Hampshire

#RelationshipAdvice #IntimacyTips #CouplesTherapy #ModernDating #MentalHealth #SexualWellness #RelationshipGoals #PersonalGrowth #FlexYourFeelings #ParadoxOfChange

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From Room Mates to Romance... How can we rescue the SEX and INTIMACY from a potentially failing relationship and rekindle the spark we're looking for into something even better! What if no sex leads to infidelity (https://youtu.be/Gh-qO5lQg5U) and, What if consciously choosing to pause your sex life could be the very thing that saves your relationship?

Summary
This week Lottie and Elliot explore the decline of intimacy in relationships, emphasising the importance of communication and the role of sensuality over sexuality. They discuss the concept of pausing sexual activity as a means to rediscover connection and intimacy, highlighting the significance of radical honesty and trust. Practical steps for couples to rebuild intimacy are also provided, along with insights into the dynamics of limerence and power struggles within relationships.

Takeaways
Communication and intimacy often decline together in relationships.
Pausing sex can lead to deeper emotional connections.
Sensuality can be prioritised over sexual expectations.
Rediscovering touch can enhance intimacy without pressure.
Radical honesty is essential for rebuilding trust.
Limerence can complicate relationship dynamics.
Couples often transition from lovers to roommates due to lack of communication.
Trust levels affect the quality of conversations in relationships.
Practical exercises can help couples reconnect emotionally.
Intimacy is a journey that requires effort and commitment.

Sound Bites
"It's the glue that builds relationship."
"What does sex mean to you?"
"Intimacy is hypnotic."
"We don't talk anymore, we argue mostly."
"The journey from roommates to lovers."
"We need radical honesty, don't we?"
"What do you need from me right now?"


Chapters
00:00 The Decline of Intimacy
02:58 The Power of Pausing Sex
05:56 Exploring Sensuality Over Sexuality
09:04 Rediscovering Connection Through Touch
11:50 The Role of Communication in Relationships
15:00 Understanding Limerence and Power Struggles
17:57 The Journey from Roommates to Lovers
21:01 Radical Honesty and Trust in Relationships
24:05 Practical Steps to Rebuild Intimacy


KEYWORDS: sex, dating advice, love, emotional connection, romance, intimacy, personal growth, dating, communication, love advice, relationships, love stories, romance advice, couple goals, relationship goals, roommates

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Rethinking infidelity - part 2 ... Exploring the definitions, the dynamics of micro affairs, and the emotional and physical impacts on relationships. The thrill and dopamine effects associated with infidelity, link to Episode 1 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H6JUnK131nI&t=1250s

They also touch on the changing dynamics of relationships and the rising prevalence of affairs. In this conversation, the speakers delve into the complexities of infidelity, exploring themes of honesty, emotional navigation, and the impact of modern relationships. They discuss the importance of communication in therapy, the distinction between forgiveness and acceptance, and the potential for growth following infidelity. The conversation emphasises the need for honesty in counseling and the challenges faced by couples in navigating their emotions and decisions.

Takeaways
Some people do second chances, some people don't.
Affairs can lead to relationship growth if navigated properly.
Micro affairs can breach trust without physical intimacy.
Dopamine plays a significant role in the excitement of affairs.
Emotional affairs can be more damaging than physical ones.
Guilt and shame are common feelings after infidelity.
Repairing a relationship requires active participation from both partners.
Accountability is crucial for healing after an affair.
The dynamics of relationships are changing, with more couples seeking individual therapy first.
Affairs are on the rise, reflecting changing societal norms. Honesty is crucial in counselling settings.

Infidelity often leads to complex emotional navigation.
Support systems are essential for couples dealing with infidelity.
The impact of modern technology on relationships is significant.
Forgiveness and acceptance are distinct processes in recovery.
Trust takes time to rebuild after infidelity.
Communication is key to understanding relationship dynamics.
Affairs can sometimes lead to deeper conversations and growth.
Understanding personal motivations is important in therapy.
Therapy can help clarify intentions and commitment levels in relationships.

Resources:
Rethinking infidelity ... a talk for anyone who has ever loved | Esther Perel | TED: https://youtu.be/P2AUat93a8Q?si=kzk12fQffKddgrw-

Chapters
00:00
Understanding Affairs: Definitions and Dynamics
03:06
Micro Affairs: The Subtle Breach of Trust
06:06
The Thrill of the Affair: Dopamine and Excitement
09:02
Emotional vs. Physical Affairs: The Impact on Relationships
12:03
Navigating Guilt and Regret: The Aftermath of Infidelity
15:04
Repairing Relationships: The Path to Healing
17:50
The Role of Accountability in Healing
21:01
The Rise of Affairs: Changing Dynamics in Relationships
26:42
The Importance of Honesty in Counseling
29:05
Navigating Emotions and Decision-Making
30:47
The Modern Challenges of Infidelity
34:35
Forgiveness vs. Acceptance in Recovery
38:17
Trust and Instinct in Relationships
42:14
The Complexity of Affairs and Relationship Growth
48:00
Understanding Commitment in Therapy


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📢 If you’ve experienced infidelity or are working through trust issues, let us know your thoughts in the comments! ⬇️
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💔 why did my boyfriend cheat on me?
💔 why did my girlfriend cheat on me?
💔 why did my partner cheat on me?

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The hidden crisis of male mental health in 2025. From workplace struggles to finding authentic connection, we uncover why so many men feel lost today. You might also like: • Men are losing their masculinity #017

Today we sit down with BetterHelp therapist Richard Whitenstall.

🎯 In This Episode:
• Why men are struggling to find their place in modern society
• The impact of workplace dynamics on mental health
• How autism and vulnerability intersect with relationships
• Understanding misogyny vs misandry in today's world
• Practical guidance for men seeking direction

💡 Key Takeaways:
• Recognition of male vulnerability in therapy
• The importance of authentic connection
• Navigating workplace mental health
• Building healthy relationship dynamics

🔍 Featured Guest:
Richard Whitenstall - BetterHelp Therapist specialising in male mental health and relationship dynamics

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RELATED HELP:

• Richard Whitenstall - website https://gettherecounselling.co.uk
• Heads Up Guys - https://headsupguys.org
• https://www.ladzapp.co.uk
  
  

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📢 Episode 21: The Truth About Infidelity, Affairs, & Healing Relationships

💔 Why do people cheat? How does limerence (obsessive attraction) impact relationships? Can couples repair trust after an affair? In this episode of The Paradox of Change, Elliot Burgess explores infidelity, emotional affairs, attachment theory, and the complex emotions of betrayal.


🔎 Topics Covered:
✅ Types of Affairs: Emotional, Physical, Financial, & Online Affairs
✅ Attachment Theory & Infidelity: How Childhood Influences Relationship Choices
✅ Limerence & The Science of Attraction: Why Some Affairs Feel Addictive
✅ Healing After Cheating: Steps to Rebuild Trust & Navigate Forgiveness
✅ The Role of Transparency & Boundaries in Preventing Affairs
✅ Gottman’s Four Horsemen of Relationship Breakdown & How to Fix It
🎧 Listen to the full episode & subscribe for more deep conversations on relationships, psychology, and change.

Additional Help:

Esther Perel:
"Rethinking Infidelity: A Talk for Anyone Who Has Ever Loved" (TED Talk):
In this insightful talk, Esther Perel explores the complexities of infidelity, discussing why people cheat and how couples can navigate the aftermath.
Watch the TED Talk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P2AUat93a8Q

"Infidelity: Why I Wrote a Book About America's Most Controversial Topic":
Perel discusses the ubiquity of infidelity and the importance of addressing it openly.
Read the Article: https://www.estherperel.com/blog/infidelity-why-i-wrote-a-book-about-americas-most-controversial-topic

John Gottman:
"The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling":
Gottman identifies four detrimental communication behaviors that can predict the end of a relationship and offers insights into recognizing and addressing them.

Read the Article: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/

"The Four Horsemen: The Antidotes":
This piece provides strategies to counteract the Four Horsemen behaviors, promoting healthier communication patterns in relationships.
Read the Article: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-the-antidotes/

These resources offer profound insights into understanding and improving relationship dynamics, particularly concerning infidelity and communication challenges.

📌 Timestamps:
00:00 Understanding Infidelity: A Complex Topic
02:52 Physical vs Emotional Affairs: What’s the Difference?
05:59 Limerence: The Science of Obsessive Love & Affairs
09:02 Types of Infidelity: Beyond the Obvious Signs
12:06 The Role of Remorse in Repairing Relationships
14:51 Why Too Many Details About an Affair Can Be Harmful
18:02 How Affairs Begin: The Cup of Tea Syndrome
21:13 Online Affairs & The New Challenges in Modern Relationships
23:48 The Importance of Intimacy in Relationship Repair
26:51 Vulnerability & Communication: The Key to Preventing Affairs
31:48 Navigating the Emotional Pain & Grief Cycle of Infidelity
37:25 Forgiveness & Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal
40:54 The Role of Transparency & Boundaries in Relationships
45:27 Can Relationships Grow After Infidelity?

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📢 If you’ve experienced infidelity or are working through trust issues, let us know your thoughts in the comments! ⬇️
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💔 why did my boyfriend cheat on me?
💔 why did my girlfriend cheat on me?
💔 why did my partner cheat on me?

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“Change doesn’t happen unless you make it happen.”

In this special year-end episode of The Paradox of Change podcast, Elliot, Lottie, and Fi reflect on the transformative journey of 2024, sharing personal stories, professional breakthroughs, and key lessons from their work in therapy, coaching, and business. From Fee’s leap into entrepreneurship and Lottie’s work as a sex and relationship therapist to Elliot’s insights into health and well-being, this conversation is packed with valuable takeaways for therapists, coaches, and anyone passionate about personal growth.
The episode also explores the themes of courage, confidence, and authenticity, diving into the challenges of marketing as a therapist, the mindset shifts required for success, and the launch of The Playbook—a comprehensive guide blending coaching and counseling techniques. Looking ahead to 2025, the hosts discuss their aspirations for the podcast, including featuring high-energy guests, client stories, and expanding their impact.

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https://www.lottiepassellsyms.com/
https://www.affirmbeliever.co.uk/
https://www.instagram.com/fifisclif/

Takeaways
Embrace change as a necessary part of growth.
Mindset is crucial for success in therapy and business.


SEO Chapter Titles:
00:00 - Welcome to The Paradox of Change Podcast
01:05 - Introducing the Hosts: Fee, Lottie, and Elliot
03:58 - Fee’s Year of Courage: Quitting a 14-Year Career for Coaching
06:10 - Mindset, Money, and Marketing: Shifting Therapist Perspectives
10:05 - Overcoming the Fear of Being Seen and Celebrating Wins
15:03 - Lottie’s Journey: From Counsellor to Sex and Relationship Therapist
19:52 - The Playbook Launch: Bridging Coaching and Counselling
24:54 - Health as Wealth: Lessons Learned from 2024
30:08 - Looking Ahead: Aspirations for 2025 and POC Guests
39:06 - Authenticity in Therapy and Business: Embracing the Imperfect



#MentalHealth #Therapy #Coaching #PersonalGrowth #MindsetMatters #BusinessCoaching #CouplesTherapy #Counselling #ThePlaybook #CourageOverComfort #TherapistMarketing #podcastshow #pocpodcast #theparadoxofchange

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