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🎙️ Episode 2: The Myth of Same Effort

They say, “You give your best at work — why not at home?” But leadership isn’t about giving the same effort in every room — it’s about offering the right presence for the audience that matters. In this episode, we dismantle the myth that equal effort across roles proves commitment. Instead, we explore how true leadership requires calibration, not duplication.

Host Lionel Murphy shares a deeply personal story from his time as a motorcycle officer, revealing the silent cost of emotional transitions, and the importance of rituals that help us truly come home. Whether you’re leading at work, at home, or both, this episode will help you recognize where your presence is needed most.

🔑 Topics include:

• Emotional leadership vs. performance
• Calibrating your energy across roles
• First responder stress transitions
• Leadership lessons from horsemanship
• How misapplied effort leads to disconnection

👣 Walk away with practical steps to decompress, reconnect, and lead with discernment — not just duty.

References:

Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (1999). The seven principles for making marriage work. Crown Publishers.

Johnson, S. M. (2008). Hold me tight: Seven conversations for a lifetime of love. Little, Brown Spark.

Murphy, L. K. (2025). Experiential Leadership Theory: Leadership Development through Horsemanship. BAE Publications.

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🔎 About Living Beyond Average Podcast

Join host Lionel Murphy — veteran, rancher, leadership coach — as we challenge oversimplified clichés and simplify overcomplicated leadership and relationship myths. Weekly episodes blend lived experience, leadership insight, and biblical truth to help you lead with integrity, ride with confidence, and live beyond average.

✅ Leadership

✅ Emotional Intelligence

✅ Marriage & Relationships

✅ Personal Growth

✅ Veteran & PTSD Perspective

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📩 Contact: Lionel@BeyondAverageExistence.com

Disclaimer: Content is for informational purposes only. Not a substitute for professional counseling, therapy, or medical care.