We’re gonna talk about why we give up!! There’s actual psychology and neuroscience behind why this happens.

And more importantly—we’re going to talk about how to keep going in a way that feels kind, doable, and sustainable.

Here are the 4 things I talk about in the episode that you can do to break that cycle

1. Tiny wins build momentum.

Start embarrassingly small. One push-up. One journal sentence. One client pitch. That first win tells your brain, “Hey, I can do this.”

2. Make your environment support you.

Set up cues, reminders, visuals, whatever you need. Motivation might not be consistent—but your systems can be.

3. Celebrate consistency, not intensity.

You don’t need to be dramatic—you just need to show up.

Even if it’s not impressive. Especially when it’s not impressive.

4. Rest without quitting.

Let yourself pause. Let yourself cry. Let yourself nap.

Just don’t confuse a rest stop with the end of the road.

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Today we’re talking about how to actually build consistency—even when you’re tired, uninspired, or doubting yourself. And we’re not just talking fluff—we’re digging into the psychology and brain science behind it.

Here are those 4 science-backed strategies:

1. Start small—like ridiculously small.

This is called the minimum viable habit. If your goal is to meditate every day, start with 60 seconds. Not 10 minutes. Just 60 seconds. Your brain doesn’t get overwhelmed, and it’s more likely to say, “Yeah, I can do that.”

2. Stack it with a current habit.

This is known as habit stacking. For example: “After I brush my teeth, I journal for 2 minutes.” Your brain already has a cue (brushing teeth), and now you’re piggybacking the new habit onto it.

3. Track it visually.

The human brain is weirdly motivated by streaks. Ever used Duolingo or seen a calendar with X’s on it? That’s the “don’t break the chain” method—and it works. It taps into our dopamine system and gives us a reward for simply showing up.

4. Make failure hard.

Set up your environment so it’s harder to not do the thing. If you want to work out in the morning, lay your clothes out the night before. If you want to drink more water, leave a bottle in every room. You’re making the desired action the easiest one.

This episode is for the woman who's ever been told she's "too much." Too loud, too opinionated, too emotional, too ambitious--too something.

People were getting comfortable with your silence and with you dimming your light, but now you've flipped that switch back on and they're squinting. They don't know how to handle the brightness! But here's the truth-- that's not your problem.

Come listen, and stop making yourself smaller.

Here is the affirmation we use in this episode:

I am not too much.

I am finally being who I really am.

And the people who are meant for me--will never ask me to be less.