Most parents want a clean home. Even those who don’t meet someone else’s standard still desire order, tidiness, and peace. We put enormous energy into physical chores—vacuuming before company comes over, rushing the kids to pick up toys, stuffing laundry behind a door. But if we care so much about physical cleanliness… why do we pay so little attention to the spiritual cleanliness of our homes?

Welcome to the HHP Podcast. I’m Chris Franke, Senior Pastor of HFF Church in Oklahoma City. Join me and others from around the country as we talk all things Bible, church, and family. We may be right… we may be heretical… but that’s for you to decide. Drop a like, comment, share, subscribe—and let’s get to it.

In Judaism, Christianity, and even many world religions, the physical and spiritual are always intertwined. So why do we clean frantically for guests—yet ignore the emotional dust, spiritual clutter, and relational messes piling up in our home?

In this episode, we explore:

• Why repentance and forgiveness are the spiritual “cleaning supplies” of a healthy home

• How every household gets messy—emotionally, spiritually, relationally

• Why the healthiest families aren’t conflict-free, but conflict-clean

• How modeling repentance teaches children that mistakes don’t end love—they begin healing

• Why unforgiveness hardens the heart but repentance softens it

• How confession lightens the emotional weight in the home

• Why lingering silence, passive-aggressive tones, and held grudges poison family culture

• The spiritual discipline of rest and why hurried homes create anxious hearts

• How Isaiah 30:15 reveals that rest restores the soul

• Why Sabbath rhythms teach children that worth is not found in productivity

• How your habits become the liturgy of your household—the worship of your daily life

• Why gratitude, forgiveness, joy, rest, and prayer preach louder than any sermon

Habits are liturgy. Rhythms are worship. Your home is always preaching something.

When your patterns embody prayer, peace, repentance, gratitude, and rest, you teach your children that God is both holy and near.

The goal isn’t a perfect home—none exist. The goal is a faithful home, a Christ-centered household where everyone knows who truly holds the family together: Jesus, and the Spirit of Jesus.

Philippians 4:9 says: “Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.”

Let your daily rhythms become your family’s clearest testimony.

• Am I cleaning physical messes faster than I’m addressing spiritual ones?

• Do I model repentance or let wounds linger?

• Does my home have space for rest—or is busyness running it?

• What habits are preaching to my children right now—complaining or gratitude?

• Does the presence of God feel near in our daily rhythms?

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This week on the HHP Podcast, we’re talking about one of the most overlooked truths in parenting: The culture of your home is shaped less by what you preach and more by what you permit. Your habits, your tone, your rhythms, and even what you tolerate all quietly disciple your children—every single day.

Welcome to the HHP Podcast. I’m Chris Franke, Senior Pastor of HFF Church in Oklahoma City. Join me and others from around the country as we talk all things Bible, church, and family. We may be right… we may be heretical… but that’s for you to decide. Drop a like, share, comment, subscribe—and let’s get to it.

The culture of your home will shape the culture of your church—and your children will live out the habits they see more than the words they hear. Children imitate your walk, not your talk. Deuteronomy 6:7 commands us to speak of God’s ways throughout our daily lives, but if we talk about faith without practicing it, we unintentionally teach our children that it’s okay to live one way publicly and another way privately.

In this episode we explore:

• Why what you tolerate becomes the culture you teach

• How household habits either bring life or chaos into the church community

• Why pastor’s kids struggle—and why it’s not just pastors

• How small, ordinary repetitions shape eternal values

• Why faith is formed in everyday practices: bedtime prayers, forgiveness after conflict, gratitude before meals

• Why habits become heritage, not just routine

• How Luke 16:10 teaches that spiritual faithfulness grows through small acts repeated consistently

• Why spiritual rhythms anchor the soul of your home

• Why the three anchors of a healthy household are: pray together, eat together, rest together

• How your example becomes your child’s first discipleship model

• Why hypocrisy breeds confusion—but authenticity builds trust

• What it means to model worship, generosity, prayer, and grace

• How gratitude reshapes the emotional tone of your home

Your habits preach louder than your words. If they observe forgiveness, they will learn mercy. If they observe prayer, they will learn dependence on God. If they observe gratitude, they will learn joy. What you model, they will mirror.

This episode will guide you in building the rhythms that create a home filled with life, not tension—thanksgiving, not complaining—worship, not worry.

• What habits am I actually cultivating in my home?

• What do my children believe I value based on my daily rhythms?

• Do my actions reflect the Christ I want my children to follow?

• Are we practicing gratitude more than complaining?

• What habits am I tolerating that contradict the culture I want?

If this podcast blessed you, consider supporting the ministry at HFF.house. For sermons, blogs, and more resources, visit HFF.church. Looking for a church home? Join us for Saturday Church in OKC every week at 10:30 AM.

One of the hardest things for modern parents—especially in a culture built on trends, fads, and constant change—is consistency. But consistency is one of the purest forms of love a child can receive. It communicates safety, stability, and trust in a world full of noise.

Welcome to the HHP Podcast. I'm Chris Franke, Senior Pastor of HFF Church in Oklahoma City. Join me and others from around the country as we talk all things Bible, church, and family. We may be right… we may be heretical… but that’s for you to decide. Drop a like, a comment, share the episode, subscribe—and let’s get to it.

As parents, we know consistency is difficult. We’re tired, we’re busy, we’re stretched thin. But Jesus gives us one of the simplest and most profound principles: “Let your ‘yes’ be yes, and your ‘no’ be no.” — Matthew 5:37

Inconsistency confuses children and undermines their trust. When expectations shift with our moods, our leadership becomes unpredictable—and unpredictability breeds insecurity.

In this episode we explore:

• Why consistency = security

• How predictability helps children flourish emotionally and spiritually

• Why inconsistency—even unintentional—can create fear and anxiety in a child

• Why consistency doesn’t mean perfection; it means dependability

• How following through gently and firmly communicates love

• Why transparency matters when we mess up—and how apologizing strengthens connection

• Why correction must always lead to reconnection

• How withdrawing love after discipline distorts a child’s view of God

• How Ephesians 6:4 and Revelation 3:19 reveal God’s model for restorative discipline

• Why correction without reconnection leaves wounds, but correction with compassion creates discipleship

• How pausing and praying before discipline protects your child—and your relationship

Your children need to know what to expect from you, even when you’re tired, frustrated, or overwhelmed. Because correction should always lead to connection, not distance.

Every consequence should end with reassurance: “I love you. We’ll grow through this together. God has us.”

This is how God loves us—and how we model His heart to our children.

“Holy Spirit, lead my words, my tone, and my actions. Let my correction reflect Your gentleness, not my frustration. Make my consistency a testimony of Your faithful love.”

The topic of discipline in the 21st century is complicated. Many adults carry the wounds of abusive or unhealthy childhoods, and in response they either swing toward free-range parenting with no structure… or subconsciously replicate the very model they swore they’d never repeat. But biblically, discipline is not optional—and when done God’s way, it produces life, not fear.

Welcome to the HHP Podcast. My name is Chris Franke, Senior Pastor of HFF Church in Oklahoma City. Join me and others from around the country as we talk all things Bible, church, and family. We may be right, we may be heretical—but that’s for you to decide. Drop a like, a comment, a share, subscribe, and let’s get to it.

God disciplines His children—and Scripture calls us to do the same. But biblical discipline isn’t about punishing behavior. It’s about training the heart.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why heart training matters more than behavior management

• How the Torah emphasized the outward, but Jesus emphasized the inner transformation

• Why godly discipline prepares, rather than punishes

• How consistent boundaries build trust, not fear

• Why love without discipline leads to rebellion—and discipline without love leads to resentment

• How empowered obedience creates lifelong trust, while blind obedience creates future rebellion

• Why boundaries are not barriers to freedom, but environments where freedom flourishes

• How calm, consistent authority reflects the heart of the Father (Hebrews 12:6)

• Why the goal is not to control your child, but to steward their heart toward Christ

Proverbs 4:23 reminds us: “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Your child’s behavior flows from their beliefs. Change the heart—and the actions follow.

This episode teaches parents to ask heart-shaping questions:

• “Why did you do that?”

• “What were you thinking in that moment?”

• “What was going on inside you?”

Not just: “Don’t do that.”

Rules without relationship create rebellion. Relationship with guidance creates maturity.

• Safety, not fear

• Confidence, not confusion

• Responsibility, not rebellion

• Freedom within structure (Psalm 16:6)

Use calm explanations instead of threats. Connect correction to protection. Say, “I’m guiding you because I love you,” not, “Do this because I said so.”

Ask yourself: Do my boundaries create peace in my home… or fear?

Your job isn’t to control your child. Your job is to guide them toward Christ.

Every parent knows what instability feels like—rage one minute, joy the next, frustration right after. For years, I lived that cycle myself. Ministry pressures followed me home, and I would swing between extremes. I loved my kids deeply, but my emotional instability often set the tone of the household.

Eventually, I realized a hard truth: My home could never be more stable than my spirit.

Isaiah 26:3 reminds us, “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast.” A child can only feel as secure as their parent is grounded.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why spiritual grounding is the root of emotional grounding

• How children absorb the anxiety, anger, or peace we carry

• The “lifeguard principle” of parenting: you must stabilize yourself before rescuing anyone else

• Why peace isn’t built by routines but by God’s presence saturating those routines

• How grace—not perfection—is what creates long-term stability

• The rhythms, habits, and prayers that help form a peaceful home

• How your emotional tone becomes your child’s first theology

• What it means to replace chaos with Spirit-led consistency

• How parents can model Christ in the moments that matter most

Scripture tells us:

• “The fruit of righteousness will be peace…” — Isaiah 32:17

• “Do not provoke your children…” — Colossians 3

• “God is not a God of disorder but of peace.” — 1 Corinthians 14

• “Practice these things… and the God of peace will be with you.” — Philippians 4:9

You don’t need perfect routines—you need Spirit-led rhythms. You don’t need control—you need communion. And you don’t need to be the perfect parent—you just need to be a peaceful presence.

• Does my home feel peaceful or pressured?

• Are my children confident in what to expect from me daily?

• Where can I replace chaos with consistency?

• What does my tone teach my children about God?

• Have I made peace the pursuit of my home—or perfection?

If this episode blessed you, consider supporting the ministry at HFF.house. For sermons, blogs, podcasts, and resources, visit HFF.church. Looking for a church home? Join us for Saturday Church in OKC every week at 10:30 AM.

In this episode, we explore the heart of biblical parenting—not behavior control, but heart formation.

Children thrive when structure shapes their days and love grounds their identity. Scripture reminds us:

• “By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established.” — Proverbs 24:3

• “Let all things be done decently and in order.” — 1 Corinthians 14:40

We unpack why:

• Structure builds stability, but love builds confidence

• Extreme parenting—too loose or too strict—fails to train the heart

• Predictable rhythms (meals, prayer, chores, bedtime blessings) create emotional safety

• Parents disciple children into either steadiness or chaos

• Your tone, presence, and reactions shape how your children imagine God

• Authority must reflect Psalm 103: compassionate, gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love

• Daily habits should reflect God’s character—not fear, instability, or emotional volatility

You’ll walk away with practical, biblical tools to help your home become a place of peace, predictability, warmth, and Christlike formation.

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How do you help make your church healthy? 💭

In this powerful conclusion to our two-part series, Pastor Chris Franke of HFF Church in Oklahoma City explores your personal role in building a Jesus-centered, Spirit-led, and servant-hearted church.

Healthy churches don’t happen by accident — they’re built by people, not programs. And the truth is, the church will only ever be as healthy as the people who make it up.

1️⃣ Serve Faithfully & Humbly Jesus said, “The Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve.” (Mark 10:45) A healthy church is led by servants, not celebrities — by people who care more about washing feet than building platforms.

2️⃣ Walk in Fruit, Not Just Gifts Many want the gifts of the Spirit, but few cultivate the fruit of the Spirit. (Galatians 5:22–23) reminds us that true transformation happens when love, patience, kindness, and self-control define our lives — not just our ministries.

3️⃣ Stop Complaining — Start Contributing If you see something missing in your church, fill the gap instead of fueling the gossip. Be the solution God can use to bring healing, maturity, and revival.

Healthy churches are not perfect churches — they’re repentant churches. They’re families on mission, walking in humility, fruitfulness, and unity.

So before saying, “My church isn’t healthy,” ask yourself:

“Am I bringing health to it — or am I part of what’s keeping it sick?”

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How can you help make your church healthy? 💡

In this episode of the Hopeful Heretic Podcast (HHP), Pastor Chris Franke from HFF Church in Oklahoma City challenges listeners to move from consumers to contributors — from spectators to participants in the Body of Christ.

Over the past two weeks, we’ve unpacked what defines a healthy church — a Christ-centered foundation, sound doctrine, authentic community, and the presence of the Holy Spirit. But today we turn the question back on ourselves: 👉 What can YOU do to make your church healthy?

1️⃣ Be a Participant, Not a Consumer Stop asking, “What did I get out of church?” and start asking, “What did I contribute to it?” (Hebrews 10:24–25)

2️⃣ Be Rooted in the Word, Not in Opinion A healthy church requires spiritually rooted members who anchor themselves in the truth of Scripture — not emotion, not popularity. (2 Timothy 3:16–17)

3️⃣ Build Relationships That Heal, Not Hurt Unity isn’t about perfection; it’s about forgiveness, humility, and reconciliation. (Ephesians 4:2–3)

Healthy churches don’t just happen by accident — they’re built on people, not programs. When you live biblically, love humbly, and serve faithfully, you bring health to the house of God.

So before asking, “Is my church healthy?” ask yourself:

“Am I helping it become healthy?”

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