Most parents want a clean home. Even those who don’t meet someone else’s standard still desire order, tidiness, and peace. We put enormous energy into physical chores—vacuuming before company comes over, rushing the kids to pick up toys, stuffing laundry behind a door. But if we care so much about physical cleanliness… why do we pay so little attention to the spiritual cleanliness of our homes?

Welcome to the HHP Podcast. I’m Chris Franke, Senior Pastor of HFF Church in Oklahoma City. Join me and others from around the country as we talk all things Bible, church, and family. We may be right… we may be heretical… but that’s for you to decide. Drop a like, comment, share, subscribe—and let’s get to it.

In Judaism, Christianity, and even many world religions, the physical and spiritual are always intertwined. So why do we clean frantically for guests—yet ignore the emotional dust, spiritual clutter, and relational messes piling up in our home?

In this episode, we explore:

• Why repentance and forgiveness are the spiritual “cleaning supplies” of a healthy home

• How every household gets messy—emotionally, spiritually, relationally

• Why the healthiest families aren’t conflict-free, but conflict-clean

• How modeling repentance teaches children that mistakes don’t end love—they begin healing

• Why unforgiveness hardens the heart but repentance softens it

• How confession lightens the emotional weight in the home

• Why lingering silence, passive-aggressive tones, and held grudges poison family culture

• The spiritual discipline of rest and why hurried homes create anxious hearts

• How Isaiah 30:15 reveals that rest restores the soul

• Why Sabbath rhythms teach children that worth is not found in productivity

• How your habits become the liturgy of your household—the worship of your daily life

• Why gratitude, forgiveness, joy, rest, and prayer preach louder than any sermon

Habits are liturgy. Rhythms are worship. Your home is always preaching something.

When your patterns embody prayer, peace, repentance, gratitude, and rest, you teach your children that God is both holy and near.

The goal isn’t a perfect home—none exist. The goal is a faithful home, a Christ-centered household where everyone knows who truly holds the family together: Jesus, and the Spirit of Jesus.

Philippians 4:9 says: “Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.”

Let your daily rhythms become your family’s clearest testimony.

• Am I cleaning physical messes faster than I’m addressing spiritual ones?

• Do I model repentance or let wounds linger?

• Does my home have space for rest—or is busyness running it?

• What habits are preaching to my children right now—complaining or gratitude?

• Does the presence of God feel near in our daily rhythms?

If this podcast has blessed you, consider supporting the ministry at HFF.house. For sermons, blogs, and more resources, visit HFF.church. Looking for a church home? Join us for Saturday Church in OKC every week at 10:30 AM.

This week on the HHP Podcast, we’re talking about one of the most overlooked truths in parenting: The culture of your home is shaped less by what you preach and more by what you permit. Your habits, your tone, your rhythms, and even what you tolerate all quietly disciple your children—every single day.

Welcome to the HHP Podcast. I’m Chris Franke, Senior Pastor of HFF Church in Oklahoma City. Join me and others from around the country as we talk all things Bible, church, and family. We may be right… we may be heretical… but that’s for you to decide. Drop a like, share, comment, subscribe—and let’s get to it.

The culture of your home will shape the culture of your church—and your children will live out the habits they see more than the words they hear. Children imitate your walk, not your talk. Deuteronomy 6:7 commands us to speak of God’s ways throughout our daily lives, but if we talk about faith without practicing it, we unintentionally teach our children that it’s okay to live one way publicly and another way privately.

In this episode we explore:

• Why what you tolerate becomes the culture you teach

• How household habits either bring life or chaos into the church community

• Why pastor’s kids struggle—and why it’s not just pastors

• How small, ordinary repetitions shape eternal values

• Why faith is formed in everyday practices: bedtime prayers, forgiveness after conflict, gratitude before meals

• Why habits become heritage, not just routine

• How Luke 16:10 teaches that spiritual faithfulness grows through small acts repeated consistently

• Why spiritual rhythms anchor the soul of your home

• Why the three anchors of a healthy household are: pray together, eat together, rest together

• How your example becomes your child’s first discipleship model

• Why hypocrisy breeds confusion—but authenticity builds trust

• What it means to model worship, generosity, prayer, and grace

• How gratitude reshapes the emotional tone of your home

Your habits preach louder than your words. If they observe forgiveness, they will learn mercy. If they observe prayer, they will learn dependence on God. If they observe gratitude, they will learn joy. What you model, they will mirror.

This episode will guide you in building the rhythms that create a home filled with life, not tension—thanksgiving, not complaining—worship, not worry.

• What habits am I actually cultivating in my home?

• What do my children believe I value based on my daily rhythms?

• Do my actions reflect the Christ I want my children to follow?

• Are we practicing gratitude more than complaining?

• What habits am I tolerating that contradict the culture I want?

If this podcast blessed you, consider supporting the ministry at HFF.house. For sermons, blogs, and more resources, visit HFF.church. Looking for a church home? Join us for Saturday Church in OKC every week at 10:30 AM.

One of the hardest things for modern parents—especially in a culture built on trends, fads, and constant change—is consistency. But consistency is one of the purest forms of love a child can receive. It communicates safety, stability, and trust in a world full of noise.

Welcome to the HHP Podcast. I'm Chris Franke, Senior Pastor of HFF Church in Oklahoma City. Join me and others from around the country as we talk all things Bible, church, and family. We may be right… we may be heretical… but that’s for you to decide. Drop a like, a comment, share the episode, subscribe—and let’s get to it.

As parents, we know consistency is difficult. We’re tired, we’re busy, we’re stretched thin. But Jesus gives us one of the simplest and most profound principles: “Let your ‘yes’ be yes, and your ‘no’ be no.” — Matthew 5:37

Inconsistency confuses children and undermines their trust. When expectations shift with our moods, our leadership becomes unpredictable—and unpredictability breeds insecurity.

In this episode we explore:

• Why consistency = security

• How predictability helps children flourish emotionally and spiritually

• Why inconsistency—even unintentional—can create fear and anxiety in a child

• Why consistency doesn’t mean perfection; it means dependability

• How following through gently and firmly communicates love

• Why transparency matters when we mess up—and how apologizing strengthens connection

• Why correction must always lead to reconnection

• How withdrawing love after discipline distorts a child’s view of God

• How Ephesians 6:4 and Revelation 3:19 reveal God’s model for restorative discipline

• Why correction without reconnection leaves wounds, but correction with compassion creates discipleship

• How pausing and praying before discipline protects your child—and your relationship

Your children need to know what to expect from you, even when you’re tired, frustrated, or overwhelmed. Because correction should always lead to connection, not distance.

Every consequence should end with reassurance: “I love you. We’ll grow through this together. God has us.”

This is how God loves us—and how we model His heart to our children.

“Holy Spirit, lead my words, my tone, and my actions. Let my correction reflect Your gentleness, not my frustration. Make my consistency a testimony of Your faithful love.”