Episode 224: A recent article by Jason Feifer serves as the starting point for this episode of “The Ethical Life,” where hosts Richard Kyte and Scott Rada examine the quiet struggle many people experience when reaching out for support.

Feifer’s piece argues that the fears holding us back — such as imposing on others, appearing incompetent, or being judged — are often misplaced. In reality, offering assistance tends to strengthen relationships rather than strain them. Rada and Kyte use that insight to explore why hesitation remains so common and what it reveals about modern life.

Rada opens the conversation with a story from Thanksgiving, when he asked a relative to pass the butter while preparing mashed potatoes. The request was trivial, yet it offered a striking example of Feifer’s point: rather than being put out, the relative felt useful and included. That small moment reflects broader research cited in the episode, including a study featured in The New York Times, which shows that people who help typically feel more satisfied and appreciated than those who request support.

Kyte connects the issue to cultural forces, noting that American society often elevates self-reliance as a virtue. Many people, he says, absorb the message that competence means handling everything alone, even when collaboration would be healthier. He recalls his experience trying to stabilize a struggling nonprofit as its interim leader. Although he initially tried to shoulder too much himself, he soon realized that without asking others to join in, the organization couldn’t build the collective capacity it needed.

The episode also highlights how interdependency forms through everyday social rituals, including children’s birthday parties. Rada explains that critics once argued such celebrations encouraged selfishness. Instead, as Feifer notes — and the hosts echo — these gatherings helped establish mutual obligations among young peers, teaching them both to receive recognition and to reciprocate by showing up for others.

Listeners also hear practical guidance on making responsible and thoughtful requests. The hosts discuss the SMART framework — specific, meaningful, action-oriented, realistic and time-bound — which helps ensure outreach feels respectful rather than burdensome. Kyte emphasizes that clarity is especially important for volunteers, who want to know not just that they’re needed, but how they can be genuinely useful.

Episode 223: Hosts Richard Kyte and Scott Rada take on a modern problem that feels both familiar and persistent: why so many people feel unmoored despite busier lives than ever. Their conversation explores whether stepping outside — even briefly — can provide a clearer path to reflection, balance and personal insight.

The episode wraps up the show’s occasional series inspired by Kyte’s lecture program, “The Search for Meaning.” Earlier discussions explored justice, truth, love and beauty. This week, the focus turns to the natural world, which Kyte argues offers lessons not just about the environment, but about how people understand themselves.

Kyte explains that outdoor settings operate on rhythms vastly different from those that dominate our daily lives. Wildlife, landscapes and seasonal change create an environment that moves at its own pace — slower, quieter and resistant to human control. That contrast, he says, forces people to shift from constant activity to simple observation, a state many find both uncomfortable and deeply restorative.

Rada, attending Kyte’s recent lecture on the topic, shares stories from the audience discussions, including one student who began spending nights in a hammock on the bluffs above La Crosse. The stillness startled him at first, but ultimately became a source of comfort and clarity. Kyte notes that such moments push people to confront their surroundings without distraction and, in the process, learn something about their own reactions, fears and habits.

The episode also explores the writings of conservationist Aldo Leopold, whose classic “A Sand County Almanac” helped shape modern environmental ethics. Kyte describes Leopold’s belief that understanding the land requires both affection and attention — learning the names of things, noticing seasonal changes and recognizing the ways humans fit within a larger community of living beings.

Listeners hear personal reflections from both hosts, including Rada’s childhood memories of viewing nature through car windows and Kyte’s accounts of encountering wildlife just steps from busy city streets. Together, they argue that meaningful outdoor experiences don’t require remote wilderness or weeklong expeditions. Quiet city parks, early morning walks and small acts of noticing can offer the same rewards.

Episode 222: When a city planner mentioned that a large, developable tract of land might contain Native American artifacts, cohost Scott Rada started wondering how communities decide which parts of the past are worth protecting — and what the costs of preservation might be for the present.

This week’s episode examines the tension between honoring cultural heritage and addressing pressing human needs, such as housing. Rada and co-host Richard Kyte unpack the ethical dilemmas that surface when new development projects run up against the remnants of older civilizations.

Rada argues that while respect for the past matters, society’s first responsibility should be to the living — to families who need homes, jobs and public spaces now. He questions whether stopping or slowing modern projects for the sake of long-buried artifacts truly serves anyone.

Kyte counters that the choice isn’t always binary. He suggests that reverence for the dead and care for the living can coexist, and that certain places — burial grounds, ceremonial sites or historically significant landscapes — deserve deliberate protection, even if doing so requires compromise or delay.

Their exchange touches on Wisconsin’s effigy and burial mounds, the ethics of archaeology and how public policy shapes what gets preserved. Kyte points out that housing shortages typically stem from decades of zoning failures, rather than from the small number of sites deemed sacred or historically valuable. Rada pushes back, asking whether reverence for what once was can sometimes become an excuse for inaction.

The conversation widens to include broader cultural questions: Why do humans feel compelled to memorialize the dead? What promises do cemeteries represent to future generations? And how long should those promises last — centuries, millennia, forever? Kyte argues that physical reminders of our ancestors keep societies grounded in gratitude and perspective. Rada wonders whether our fixation on physical places distracts us from the spiritual or emotional connections that endure regardless of location.

About the hosts

Scott Rada is a digital strategist with Lee Enterprises, and Richard Kyte is the director of the D.B. Reinhart Institute for Ethics in Leadership at Viterbo University in La Crosse, Wisconsin. He is also the author of "Finding Your Third Place: Building Happier Communities (and Making Great Friends Along the Way)."