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The Dismissive Avoidant's Inner World

The Dismissive Avoidant's Inner World

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Start Healing Your Attachment Style With Personalized Courses Taught by Thais Gibson. Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Offer: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-07-02-25&el=podcast

Why does your dismissive avoidant partner pull away, seem distant, or leave you wondering where you stand? If you’ve felt unseen, frustrated, or confused in your relationship, this episode is for you.

Thais Gibson and co-host Mike dive deep into the inner world of the dismissive avoidant attachment style—revealing what’s really going on behind seemingly “cold” or “unavailable” behaviors. Mike shares vulnerably from his own experience as a former DA turned secure, while Thais explains the neuroscience, patterns, and powerful strategies to bridge the gap and create deeper connection.

You’ll learn:

  • ✅ Why DAs often don’t factor in your needs—and how to work with it

  • ✅ What “independence” really means to a dismissive avoidant

  • ✅ Why conflict feels unsafe and how to open difficult conversations

  • ✅ The truth about DAs and feedback sensitivity

  • ✅ How to communicate your needs without triggering deactivation

  • ✅ When and how healing leads to real change in your partner

  • ✅ How to assess whether a DA partner is truly willing to grow with you

Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Attachment Style Quiz 00:42 – Intro 04:12 – 1 — They Don't Factor Someone Else's Needs When Making Decisions 19:02 – 2 — They Put Less Emphasis on Relationships 23:59 – 3 — They Dislike Conflict 35:04 – PDS Membership Program 36:03 – 4 — They Feel Safe in Their Independence and Autonomy 37:42 – When Their Personal Space is Invaded 43:54 – Love and Connection: Quantity vs Quality 44:24 – 5 — They're Sensitive to Feedback 58:34 – Conclusion

Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

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