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Be careful of going on a Regret Binge as it leads to a Regret Hangover

Dealing With Happy Birthdays and Big Occasions: To Send a Card or Text…Or Not To Send, That Is The Question

Podcast Ep. 60: "I should have more self-discipline", Gifting stress, Intense With The One After You

Podcast Ep. 12: 'Tis The Season To Be Stressed Out, Toxic Type, Knowing When To Fold

Feeling Anxious About Family Obligations and Expectations During the Festive Season? Here are 3 Tips

Faux Obligations With Family & How To Say No To Those Holiday Invites

Natalie's revisiting some of the most-read Baggage Reclaim posts from the past 20 years in this new Between the Sessions series. In this minisode, Natalie talks about the issue of wanting to go back to the beginning of a relationship instead of recognising the reality of who we're involved with and what that might mean.

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Break The Cycle

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Dating Your Imagination: The Fantasy Trap in the Early Stages of Dating

Despite 'Good Points', We Deal With the Consequences of People Coming as Full Packages

'Entanglement' and what happens when we look outside ourselves to feel good

Letting Go of a Relationship That Doesn't Exist

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#1 Blessings in Disguise: Be Thankful They Didn't Show Up (and Other Things To Be Thankful For)

#2 Blessings in Disguise: Be Thankful They Didn't Show Up (and Other Things To Be Thankful For)

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Ep. 244: It Often Sucks Before It's a 'Blessing in Disguise'

Stop Feeding Your Worry Goldfish: Finding Calm in Uncertain Times

Maybe the Relationship and Breakup Gifted You with Something After All

Having a Positive Outlook Matters in Loving, Intimate Relationships

Ep. 87: Jaysus! What's Up With All The Life Lessons, Professor Life?

Life Lessons: How to Identify What You Need to Learn to Move On

Ep. 228: Learning From Our Problems

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Ep. 197: Using Code Amber and Red Alerts to Be More Boundaried

Ep. 185: The Emperor DOESN'T Have Any Clothes On. Let's Talk About Gaslighting

Sometimes a Discussion Doesn't Cut It. Stop Discussing; Get to Flushing!

Ep. 205: Four steps to help you have an assertive response when you recognise that you don't want to do something

The Joy of Saying No

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Podcast Ep. 216: The Truth About Breakups

Don't They Care About Me? Didn't I mean something to them?

Do you have a Replacement Mentality?

When you're afraid they'll become a better person in a better relationship, without you

Natalie chats with writer GG Renee Hill, author of Story Work, about the stories we tell ourselves and how they shape our lives. They discuss the impact of growing up with a mentally ill parent, estrangement, the way we humans judge ourselves in general, and how to rewrite narratives that leave room for hope rather than keeping you stuck.

**Note: After removing hissing from the recording, the sound quality isn't as good as usual, but it's still a great conversations!**

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Future Faking, Fast Forwarding and Being The Good Girl/Guy. When You're Too Concerned With How You Look

Future Faking is partly about using intentions to enhance self-image

Understanding Why You Find It Hard To Get Over Someone Who Future Faked and Fast Forwarded

Fantasy vs Reality: When you struggle to differentiate between what was real and what wasn't

The Pop-Up Relationship: The Temporary Romance That Expires & Never Develops

Recovering from Somebody Doing a U-turn on Their Feelings or Proclaimed Intentions

We Need To Talk About: 'Ghosting' in the Early Stages of Dating

Did they just do a U-turn? When a person overestimates their level of interest or capacity for commitment

Ep. 223: The Gaslighting of Future Faking

Ep. 251: Spotting a Romance Scammer

Ep. 211: Too good to be true?

Ep. 140: The Truth About Lies

Ep. 135: In the Beginning… There Were Assumptions

Natalie reflects on being tired of chasing and how it masquerades as ambition, tenacity and persistence. She explores people-pleasing patterns, over-identification with roles, why we believe things must be hard, and how to recognise when you're trying to meet old needs rather than pursuing what's truly aligned with who you are now.

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