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The Attractive Standard

The Attractive Standard

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Welcome to Phase 2! The goal is high level self-development and high level relationships. Most people want it, only a few actually do it. But it's available to EVERYONE.

In this episode I explain the framework we'll be working out of for the foreseeable future.

Timestamps are approximate:

02:30 Regrouping from Phase 1 and years of this work

03:45 From business school to therapist school, shoutout to Dr. Erika Grafsky

08:30 Lunch with Marissa Layton in Atlanta

10:30 The broader relationship conversation

11:50 People who cannot or will not change for the better should be left behind

14:50 Be free from the ones who won't listen and don't care

16:10 The inherent value of every human being

17:50 People who value growth

20:44 A human architect and thought models

22:25 Winner winner

25:35 My definition of an attractive match

27:45 Are you going to do something about it or not?

29:35 Doing 'white people stuff'

31:25 Life-oriented results

32:05 Christianity and God are not synonyms

32:35 Fakers

35:35 Building yourself is a process and the ones who build are the best matches

36:12 Why we are the best matches

36:44 Self-esteem, Energy, Responsibility

37:05 Where do you fall on the spectrum?

40:30 Too easy and dumb to be negative

42:00 Scarcity in the dating market

44:40 'I'm not there yet'

47:30 Be honest and willing

49:00 Most people are not attractive matches

51:00 No one in their right mind would choose certain people

53:20 Becoming attractive

54:15 Wealthy is more than money

55:20 No competition for high energy

57:40 Let's win

01:00:00 My goal

01:01:15 People confusing each other because they have different goals

01:02:45 How to think for great relationships

01:04:00 If you learn what I teach you, you will win

01:07:00 Listening to people who aren't really trying to help you

01:08:10 Working with couples who want to be highly synergistic

01:09:10 Some couples are just incompatible

01:11:00 Understand how individuals work together, should you cut your losses?

01:11:30 Prepare when you're single so you save time

01:13:45 An attractive match is everybody's type

01:15:15 Everyone wants to marry the same type of person

01:17:10 'How do I become a marry-able person?'

01:18:40 Attractive matches and physical qualities

01:19:50 Attractive matches do tend to look better

01:22:50 My aligned audience and ideal client

01:23:20 Self-actualization and relationship actualization

01:24:40 Minor leagues and major leagues

01:28:15 People whose purpose includes being single

01:29:00 I don't think relationship people are better

01:30:30 The disempowered man and the entitled woman

01:34:50 I do too many disclaimers

01:37:00 New interest form


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