The Art of Charm

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  • The Art of Charm is where self-motivated people, just like you, come to learn from the company’s coaches about to how to master human dynamics, relationships, and becoming your best self with the help of Johnny and AJ, the company’s founders. Johnny and AJ bring their 11 years of coaching experience from their famous Bootcamps, where they host clients in Los Angeles from all over the world and they share their stories, best practices and themselves on this weekly podcast. Not only does The Art of Charm help everyday people, including active members of the military, learn how to become higher performers, better spouses, partners, and coworkers, they dig deep into human behavior, the science behind it, and demystify what we do and why we do it.
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  • Escape the Dream Job Trap | Simone Stolzoff

    Escape the Dream Job Trap | Simone Stolzoff
    May 5 2025
    In this eye-opening conversation, we sit down with Simone Stolzoff, author of The Good Enough Job, to explore why modern work culture traps so many of us in cycles of burnout, identity crises, and unrealistic ambition. Drawing on research and personal experience, Simone challenges the “dream job” myth and offers a liberating framework: redefine success on your terms. We explore the dangers of workism, the importance of building an identity outside of your career, and the power of setting clear boundaries. For high-achievers who feel stuck on the hedonic treadmill, this episode offers a roadmap to a more balanced, meaningful life — without abandoning your ambition. [00:00:00] Introduction [00:02:26] The real meaning of a “good enough job” — and why it’s not about slacking off [00:08:16] The rise of workism: why your job became your identity [00:13:33] The difference between boundaries and guardrails — and why we need both [00:21:14] The myth of the dream job (and why passion usually follows skill, not the other way around) [00:27:41] How to rebuild an identity outside of work and escape workaholism [00:39:28] The surprising reason people at both ends of the ambition spectrum struggle [00:50:00] Why defining your “enough” number is the antidote to endless striving [00:56:08] Simone’s personal lesson: why time autonomy is his ultimate luxury Episode Takeaways: Your job should support your life, not become your life. Stop chasing perfection — a “good enough” job can free you to thrive in other areas that matter. Identity is like an investment portfolio: diversify it beyond just work. Intrinsic motivation (mastery, purpose, autonomy) beats external markers of success. Define your personal “enough” — financially, emotionally, and professionally — or risk falling into the endless “more” trap. Play, beginner’s mindset, and non-work communities are secret weapons for resilience. Tired of awkward handshakes and collecting business cards without building real connections? Dive into our Free Social Capital Networking Masterclass. Learn practical strategies to make your interactions meaningful and boost your confidence in any social situation. Sign up for free at theartofcharm.com/sc and elevate your networking from awkward to awesome. Don’t miss out on a network of opportunities! Unleash the power of covert networking to infiltrate high-value circles and build a 7-figure network in just 90 days. Ready to start? Check out our CIA-proven guide to networking like a spy! Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince—where high-end essentials meet unbeatable prices. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Shopify makes it easy to start, scale, and succeed—whether you're launching a side hustle or building the next big brand. Sign up for your $1/month trial at shopify.com/charm. Need to hire top talent—fast? Skip the waiting game and get more qualified applicants with Indeed. Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at Indeed.com/charm. Curious about your influence level? Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence. Simone Stolzoff’s website The Good Enough Job: Reclaiming Life from Work AJ on LinkedIn Johnny on LinkedIn AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok What to Listen ForEpisode Takeaways:A Word From Our SponsorsResources from this EpisodeCheck in with AJ and Johnny! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 9 mins
  • 3 Tips to Grow Your Charisma Instantly [Social Intelligence Brief]

    3 Tips to Grow Your Charisma Instantly [Social Intelligence Brief]
    May 1 2025
    Brief Description Charisma isn't just for extroverts or performers—it's a scientific advantage that determines how often you're invited, trusted, and remembered. In this episode of Social Intelligence, AJ Harbinger and Johnny Dzubak reveal why people decide how they feel about you before they evaluate your skills, and how this hidden force might be keeping you from the promotions and relationships you deserve. Through the story of their client Brett—a high-performer who was passed over for promotion despite working harder than everyone else—AJ and Johnny break down why being skilled isn't enough when you're perceived as "cold and unapproachable." They share three counterintuitive, science-backed techniques that transformed Brett from invisible to magnetic in both his professional and social circles. If you've ever wondered why colleagues with average skills get all the credit, or why you keep hearing you're "great at what you do" but still feel invisible, this episode reveals the subtle signals of warmth and connection you might be missing. [00:00:00] Opening introduction to the hidden force of charisma [00:02:54] How charisma opens doors and makes everything easier [00:05:36] Why warmth is judged before competence (Princeton research) [00:07:37] The "processing face" problem that makes you seem unapproachable [00:08:31] How avoiding side conversations kills career opportunities [00:10:53] The Pratfall Effect: How small mistakes make you more likable [00:11:55] The Reflective Label Technique: Mirroring emotions to build connection [00:13:30] The Benjamin Franklin Effect: Why asking for help raises your status[00:16:41] Three-step challenge to boost your charisma this week People judge your warmth before they judge your skills—without warmth, your competence won't matter Mirror neurons fire when we converse, creating shared emotional states that build connection The "processing face" problem: When you're thinking deeply, your expressionless face makes others uncomfortable The Pratfall Effect: Competent people become more likable when they reveal a small flaw or vulnerability Reflective labeling shows emotional fluency and makes people feel deeply understood The Benjamin Franklin Effect: Asking for advice activates others' investment in you and raises your status Small acts of vulnerability build more authentic connections than maintaining a "mask of competence" The Art of Charm Social Intelligence ProgramLooking to quickly improve your social intelligence with support from AJ, Johnny, and their team? Check out the Art of Charm Social Intelligence Program at intel.theartofcharm.com. A quick application gets you on board. In your next conversation, start by sharing a small vulnerability or flaw When they respond, label the emotion you hear in their story Before leaving, ask for advice (not feedback or validation) Try all three in one conversation and report back what changed, who opened up, and what surprised you.Email AJ your results AJ on LinkedIn Johnny on LinkedIn AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok What to Listen ForEpisode Takeaways:A Word From Our SponsorsThis Week's ChallengeCheck in with AJ and Johnny! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    23 mins
  • 3 Powerful Tools to Manage Emotions Under Pressure | Ethan Kross

    3 Powerful Tools to Manage Emotions Under Pressure | Ethan Kross
    Apr 28 2025
    This week on The Art of Charm, we're joined by award-winning psychologist and bestselling author Ethan Kross to explore the fascinating science of emotion regulation. In his newest book Shift: Managing Your Emotions So They Don't Manage You, Ethan reveals how emotions secretly drive 90% of our lives—and how mastering them can unlock performance, connection, and fulfillment. We dig into why your emotions feel so overwhelming, why trying harder isn’t the solution, and how building your own mental "toolbox" is the real path to emotional fitness. Whether you're leading teams, raising a family, or striving for personal excellence, this conversation will give you the tactical edge you didn't even realize you needed. [00:00:00] What exactly are emotions — and why are they so hard to define? [00:06:35] How emotions are helpful — until they aren't [00:08:33] Why emotional triggers are unique to each person (and why empathy matters) [00:12:14] The surprising connection between sleep, food, and your emotional resilience [00:16:31] How to design your environment for automatic emotional shifts [00:28:20] The secret to becoming a better emotional advisor for friends, family, and teams [00:37:05] Why belief in your ability to regulate emotions is just as important as skill [00:45:51] When emotional avoidance is actually healthy [00:48:39] How elite performers make emotional regulation automatic (WOOP framework explained) Emotions aren't irrational noise — they're signals. But they must be managed with tools, not brute force. Your triggers, emotional responses, and coping strategies are as unique as your fingerprint. Stop copying other people's solutions. Mastering emotions is like mastering fitness: belief, awareness, and deliberate practice matter more than natural talent. The environment you live and work in can either sabotage or support your emotional state — design it thoughtfully. Emotional support isn’t just about listening; it’s about knowing when (and how) to move from empathy to problem-solving. You can't think your way through every emotional challenge — but you can train yourself to act automatically under pressure. Tired of awkward handshakes and collecting business cards without building real connections? Dive into our Free Social Capital Networking Masterclass. Learn practical strategies to make your interactions meaningful and boost your confidence in any social situation. Sign up for free at theartofcharm.com/sc and elevate your networking from awkward to awesome. Don’t miss out on a network of opportunities! Unleash the power of covert networking to infiltrate high-value circles and build a 7-figure network in just 90 days. Ready to start? Check out our CIA-proven guide to networking like a spy! Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince—where high-end essentials meet unbeatable prices. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Shopify makes it easy to start, scale, and succeed—whether you're launching a side hustle or building the next big brand. Sign up for your $1/month trial at shopify.com/charm. Need to hire top talent—fast? Skip the waiting game and get more qualified applicants with Indeed. Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at Indeed.com/charm. Curious about your influence level? Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence. Ethan Kross’s website Shift: Managing Your Emotions--So They Don't Manage You AJ on LinkedIn Johnny on LinkedIn AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok What to Listen ForEpisode Takeaways:A Word From Our SponsorsResources from this EpisodeCheck in with AJ and Johnny! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 5 mins

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