Episodes

  • Excusing BPD Behavior is Codependent Externalization

    Excusing BPD Behavior is Codependent Externalization
    Jun 29 2025
    Excusing BPD Behavior is Codependent Externalization

    Excusing BPD behavior is what so many people with Codependency do and it is a function of Codependent Externalization and need for taking more personal responsibility for yourself - not how anyone with BPD treated you terribly. It is important to get into a healing and recovery journey in therapy to break the trauma bond, learn to focus more on yourself, and to stop externalizing out your needs that can't be met by a person with BPD. Codependent needs that you need to learn how to meet internally for yourself.

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    22 mins
  • BPD Sudden Shocking Discard Ex is Alone Now What Can You Do?

    BPD Sudden Shocking Discard Ex is Alone Now What Can You Do?
    Jun 21 2025
    BPD Sudden Shocking Discard BPD Ex is All Alone Now What Can You Do?

    BPD sudden shocking discard is devastating and leaves many an Ex of someone with BPD worried that their Ex wife or Ex husband with Borderline Personality or Ex Boyfriend or Girlfriend with BPD may be all alone and what can you do to help them? Why do you still want to help them?

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    22 mins
  • Wanting to Make Amends to a BPD Ex is Codependent

    Wanting to Make Amends to a BPD Ex is Codependent
    Jun 21 2025
    Wanting to Make Amends to a BPD Ex is Codependent

    BPD Ex wanting to make amends to Borderline is codependent. Whether you are struggling with alcoholism in AA and wanting to make amends or substance abuse program recovery and wanting to make amends or not, just generally want to make amends to a BPD Ex itis highly NOT recommended that you do so. Maybe you feel guilty that you so hurt an Ex with BPD just by going no contact.

    It is not in your best interest at all to try to make amends to a BPD friend, Ex, or if you were their favorite person because it is Codependent action that isn't going to help you take care of you.
    Why is trying to make amends to a Borderline Ex, or in any relationship type Codependent and too risky for you?


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    28 mins
  • Does Going No Contact Make Your BPD Ex Think About You?

    Does Going No Contact Make Your BPD Ex Think About You?
    Jun 19 2025
    Does Going No Contact Make Your BPD Ex Think About You?

    Does going no contact after a BPD breakup, ghosting, or discard, make your Ex with BPD think about you? No contact is not a strategy to manipulate a Borderline. No contact is a serious action BPD Exes need to take as soon as one can to truly be engaging your own healing and to break the trauma bond. No contact is difficult, people often feel guilty. Learn more about the slippery slope of using no contact for anything but your own healing and recovery. It is totally not healthy to re-contact your BPD Ex or try to manipulate him or her to re-contact you in any attempts for closure, getting heard, trying to "make them" get how much they hurt you because it doesn't work
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    45 mins
  • BPD Abuse Called Out is Denied Deflected BPD Lying

    BPD Abuse Called Out is Denied Deflected BPD Lying
    Jun 13 2025
    BPD Abuse Called Out is Denied Deflected BPD Lying

    When people with BPD (usually untreated) are called out their abusive behaviour, words, actions, they deny, deflect, and defend. Is this because they have "memory loss" - they don't really know or remember what they did? Even when showed evidence they don't take any personal responsibility - they weaponize it and claim you have victimized them. It's crazy-making. Do they have memory loss or are people with BPD lying to escape personal responsibility and accountability?

    Why Codependents need to know what you know and believe that and not give any person with Borderline Personality the benefit of the doubt. People with BPD when you try to hold them accountable will turn it around on you and blame you for what they often are lying about saying they "don't remember" because they incapable of actually taking responsibility and/or accountability or doing anything about what you've called out because they can't repair ruptures either.

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    1 hr and 15 mins
  • Wanting a BPD Ex Back The Fantasy Bond & Unanswered Questions

    Wanting a BPD Ex Back The Fantasy Bond & Unanswered Questions
    Jun 1 2025
    Want a BPD Ex Back? Fantasy Bond & Unanswered Questions

    Want a BPD Ex back? It's the fantasy bond and wanting answers to unanswered questions. Questions that most (especially untreated) with Borderline Personality don't know the answers to. They are too defended, more often than not, to even try to "communicate" with you.

    The fantasy of getting a BPD Ex back after they ghost you and END a relationship - it really has an end that most won't, don't and/or can't accept. It's fantasy bonds and unconscious Codependent repetition compulsions that continue to drive your limbo of lostness and agony with you believing you can somehow get them back, get answers, to make it work. That just does not work and you continue to abandon yourself in this process.

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    38 mins
  • Unknowingly Loving a Borderline Suddenly Ghosted

    Unknowingly Loving a Borderline Suddenly Ghosted
    May 26 2025
    Unknowingly Loving a Borderline Suddenly Ghosted

    Unknowingly loving a Borderline and suddenly ghosted? Wondering what on earth just happened? Maybe you know now you were loving a Borderline and were suddenly ghosted. It's a terribly traumatic experience knowingly or unknowingly. Many in wanting the BPD Ex back relationship recycle and may have been ghosted multiple times.

    Everyone wants the Borderline back immediately. The pain of being ghosted is terrible. Many just want that pain to go away not realizing that if you can get your BPD Ex back you are only going to find temporary relief from your pain due to intermittent reinforcement - which will not last, just like these relationships and relationship recycling don't last.

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    31 mins
  • BPD On/Off Relationship Can You Change To Make It Work?

    BPD On/Off Relationship Can You Change To Make It Work?
    May 13 2025
    BPD On/Off Relationship Can You Change To Make It Work?

    In a BPD on/off relationship? Are you wondering, can I change, like heal some Codependency, and have more energy and tolerance to make a BPD relationship
    work?

    Have you been ghosted and so want your BPD Ex back? Maybe you've been
    discarded, and you are emotionally terrified that you won't hear from that person
    ever again? What can you do to change? Anything? Can it work?


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    1 hr and 4 mins