As we know, Reddit is full of messy love stories, and we have thoughts.

From gaslighting and age gaps to the weird magic of “new relationship energy,” we read posts that make us laugh, cringe, and wonder — can memory be used as a weapon in a relationship?

For more on this topic

• Listen: ADHD and dating
• Listen: Is it love or is it dopamine?

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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Division of labor between partners isn’t easy for anyone. Add ADHD and suddenly dishes come with shame. Trash becomes a crisis. And rest starts to feel sketchy.

Cate sits down with KC Davis to unpack the messy, deeply human reality of sharing work at home. They talk about resentment, perfectionism, time blindness, trust, and why keeping score almost never fixes anything.

For more on this topic

• Listen: Managing expectations in relationships
• Read: How to Keep House While Drowning (KC’s book)

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

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Have you ever stayed up all night replaying a meeting in your head? Or obsessed over an email? Or questioned every instinct you have? If making decisions feels like a full-time job, this one’s for you!

We’re talking with Dr. Mark Schrime, a surgeon with a PhD in the science of decision-making. Hear about the exhausting cycle of analysis paralysis, second-guessing, and decision fatigue that’s a reality for many people with ADHD.

For more on this topic

• Listen: Analysis paralysis
• Read: ADHD and analysis paralysis

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

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If your ADHD symptoms seem to have leveled up out of nowhere, you’re not losing it. Hormones play a much bigger role in ADHD than most of us understand, especially during perimenopause and menopause.

Today, we’re chatting with licensed counselor Mandi Dixon about why focus, memory, sleep, and emotional regulation can suddenly fall apart in your 40s. We also dig into why ADHD meds may stop working the way you’re used to — and what actually helps when carefully built systems stop cooperating.

For more on this topic:

• Listen: ADHD and hormones
• Read: A guide to hormones and ADHD
• Read: ADHD and periods
• Explore: The Menopause Society

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

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Ever catch yourself spiraling over a decision and feeling like your brain won’t stop replaying every possible “what if”?

Dr. J is joining us to talk about rumination, overthinking, and getting caught in a mood spiral as a woman with ADHD. We’re breaking down why we get stuck and practical ways to interrupt those thought loops.

For more on this topic:

• Try: ADHD Unstuck (a free self-guided activity)
• Listen: How to climb out of mental rabbit holes (from Hyperfocus)
• Read: ADHD and mood swings

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

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When ADHD overwhelm hits, it’s usually not because of one big event. It’s the work project and your kid’s school play and the relationship thing and everyone is out of clean socks... and now you’re caught in a spiral.

Today, Cate and our fabulous producer, Jessamine, dig into Reddit stories about work screw-ups, panic lying, and how pattern recognition can quietly turn everyday moments into emotional flashpoints in relationships.

What actually can stop that spiral?

For more on this topic:

• Listen: ADHD and workplace stress
• Listen: Managing expectations in relationships (feat. KC Davis)
• Read: How to Keep House While Drowning, by KC Davis
• Read: Fair Play, by Eve Rodsky

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

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In this listener Q&A, Cate tackles two wildly relatable ADHD questions: sudden sensory discomfort during intimacy, and the maddening cycle of not being able to start a task… then not being able to stop.

From sensory overload and burnout to hyperfocus, momentum anxiety, and emotional regulation, Cate breaks down what’s going on and how to navigate it without losing it.

Thanks to our listeners for these deeply ADHD-coded questions! Keep ’em coming.

For more on this topic:

• Listen: ADHD and sensory overwhelm
• Listen: ADHD sensory challenges and sex
• Read: ADHD and hyperfocus

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

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We’re back with another spicy Reddit Reactions episode!

This week, we dive into two wildly relatable ADHD relationship posts: one about a partner claiming “you lost your sparkle” (eye roll), and another spiraling over chores, shame, and new-job burnout. We unpack toxic dynamics, people-pleasing, clutter blindness, and why you’re not weaponizing incompetence.

For more on this topic:

• Listen: ADHD, cheating, and weaponized incompetence
• Watch: ADHD and people-pleasing
• Read: What IS weaponized incompetence?

Timestamps:

(01:00) A sparkle-stealing husband

(04:10) Is it ADHD… or a toxic partner?

(08:20) ADHD shame spiral: “I can’t do anything right!”

(11:40) Clutter blindness and burnout

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Exciting news! Cate’s new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, is out now. Packed with practical strategies and insights, it’s a must-read for adults with ADHD. Check it out!

Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

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