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00:02:55 Technique 1: Playing It Cool

00:07:02 Technique 2: Pulling A Columbo

00:07:29 The technique is pretty straightforward:

1. Get People Talking Freely And Carelessly

2. Slip In A Question When Their Guard Is Down

3. Show No Indication Of What’s Happened

00:11:20 •Avoid Confrontation

00:11:36 •Don’t Make A Big Show Of Listening.

00:11:53 •Play Dumb.

00:12:14 •If In Doubt, Ask People To Repeat Themselves.

00:12:53 Technique 3: False Replay

00:17:00 Technique 4: Leading Questions

00:24:19 Technique 5: Be Provocative

00:29:18 Technique 6: Gauge Response, Not Answers

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• To take our information extraction to the next level, we can use lighter, more relaxed versions of the interrogation techniques practiced by law enforcement.

• One key approach is to lower the person’s defenses by not appearing to them as a threat. This can be done by being casual and informal, or even prying when official interrogations are over. The trick is to behave as though you’re not especially invested in their answer.

• The Columbo technique relies on this impression of casualness so that a question can be sneakily slipped in and answered while the person’s guard is down. Play dumb, ask people to repeat themselves, and maintain a degree of plausible deniability. Hide questions in comments or statements that the other person can’t help but respond to—and reveal themselves.

• The false replay technique aims to confuse and disorient a liar and get them to slip up or confess. You repeat back their story but make a “mistake” with a crucial detail, and watch their reaction. A liar is most likely to ignore it, while a truth teller will correct you. Liars are also most likely to grow agitated, angry, or distracted with being asked to retell their story in different ways, or being asked about it repeatedly.

• Leading questions are typically closed questions that guide a person’s response to where you suspect the truth lies. A question can be made with a built-in assumption, or you could lead a person with priming statements or question tags.

• Being provocative is a great way to de-stabilize someone and observe their reaction—disproportionate anger, fear, or distraction indicate you’ve hit a nerve.

• The golden rule is to gauge a person’s complete response to a question, and not just their verbal answer. Use questions to trigger an emotional reaction and analyze this in context.

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00:01:12 Broadly speaking, there are three types of validation:

00:01:44 1. Emotional Validation

00:03:52 2. Behavioral Validation

00:05:49 3. Cognitive Validation

00:10:02 In Listening to Conflict, author Eric Van Slyke outlines six listening levels.

00:14:37 To be a good listener, try to remember H-U-R:

•Hearing the Message

•Understanding the message

•Responding to the message

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• Validation is the process of genuinely hearing, seeing, and witnessing another person’s lived reality and allowing it to be what it is. It’s crucial in good communication. Validation is not agreement or reinforcement but recognizing emotions for what they are. It can be emotional, behavioral, or cognitive—or all three.

• Good listening is the ability to be open and receptive, to accept what we’re told, but also to process and really engage with that information so that we can also return it to the speaker if appropriate.

• There are six increasing levels of listening: passive, responsive, selective, attentive, active, and empathic. Remember your role as a listener with the HUR acronym: hear the message, understand it, and respond. We can respond and show our understanding by paraphrasing, reflecting, and summarizing.

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