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Should Have Listened to My Mother Podcast

Should Have Listened to My Mother Podcast

By: Jackie Tantillo
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 Host Jackie Tantillo is proud to announce that "Should Have Listened To My Mother " has won a 2024 People's Choice Podcast Award for best podcast in the Society and Culture Category. SHLTMM is also a 2024 Nominee in two additional categories including, "Best Female" Hosted Podcast & "Best Podcast" in the Kids and Family category. SHLTMM is an ongoing conversation about mothers/female role models and the role they play/played in ones life. The mother/son, mother/daughter bond is unique for each of us and it is like no other. "You'll be amazed at human nature and how we can overcome our obstacles, says the podcast host. Our mother/son--mother/daughter relationship is such an integral part of who we are. What we choose to do with it, is up to us, not our mother. "Did your mom influence you by her actions or words or both? Are you who you are today because of or in spite of, your mother? What would you say to your mother if you could speak with her again today? This is a once in a lifetime opportunity to learn from others about who and/or what shaped their life. My guests, some of which share similar backgrounds, interestingly enough, had completely different outcomes in their future. Why is that? I hope you enjoy these timeless oral history recordings of the role mothers and maternal figures have played throughout society. The impact these women have on our lives is insurmountable. What the women that preceded us overcame has undeniably given us liberties and knowledge enabling us to have the bright future that we have. They opened so many doors regardless if they were in the eye of the nation or merely in the hearts of their children, and they should be given a voice. Yes hindsight is 20/20, but by sharing these stories now, we can help the next generations of mothers and give them the tools they need to stay healthy, balanced and strong for the betterment of their children and themselves.©2019 Parenting & Families Philosophy Relationships Social Sciences Spirituality
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  • Generations Of Influential Women With Guests Singer Nadia Turner and Daughter Zareh Isa. Looking Back at S3E20

    Generations Of Influential Women With Guests Singer Nadia Turner and Daughter Zareh Isa. Looking Back at S3E20
    Aug 19 2025
    Nadia Turner was the #8 finalist on the 4th season of American Idol (2005) and Zareh, also know as Za, was only four years old. In the spring of 2022 Zareh, then 21, auditioned for AI and surprised her mother when she took her to the audition. Zareh performed “Bust Out Your Windows” by Jazmine Sullivan, which impressed the judges.It was such a pleasure to have a conversation with both mother and daughter at the same time, to share stories of Nadia's mom and grandmother as well as Za's perspective of her mother and grandmother -we're talking about four generations of strong women.Nadia says she's a very different parent today than she was in her 20's and a college student when Za was born. She's very grateful because she always new that her mother was going to be there to help her raised her two daughters. Zareh completely understands why her younger sister is being raised differently than she was. Zareh says that her mom was very strict when she was young but now she understands and appreciates why and respects her mother's decisions. It was, at times, overwhelming raising Zareh when Nadia was younger but now she's got a different attitude about raising her younger daughter, she concentrates on the things that are important, the things that really matter. Rosita, Nadia's mother, originally from the island of St. Eustatius, was a single mom who worked 9-5 at an electric company. "There's never been a time when she didn't show up for me" reflects Nadia. Rosita was very supportive of her daughter, whether it was sports or a school activity, she was always there for her regardless if she truly understood her daughters passions or interests. "I couldn't have done this thing called motherhood with out my mother, Rose," says Turner.Nadia spent quite a bit of time with her maternal grandmother, Esme, Rosita's mother. Nadia remembers her grandmother as "being my Zen, my peace, always very quiet and calm." She continues "she was very religious and always humming her hymns, she never raised her voice and for some reason, that moved mountains for me." When Nadia was a child and she and her mother got into an argument, Nadia recalls simply sitting quietly next to her grandmother and holding her hand which made everything feel alright.There's so much more to learn about my two guests and the influential women that helped them become who they are today. Always so grateful for the mothers/grandmothers and female family members who preceded us to lay down the groundwork and straightened path to keep us moving forward.When I asked Za if she stands a little taller because of these strong women in her life she responds, "my grandmother and mother are my biggest idols. I look up to them for everything they do. We are a family full of women. My grandmother is present no matter what's going on. I'm so grateful and definitely stand taller."There's so much more to these two magnificent women. Hope you enjoy the conversation.Thank you for sharing your stories Nadia and Zareh.There are links below with more information regarding Zareh and Nadia Turner's latest music and singing with the band 'Nadia Turner and the Son Kings' and more. Nadia Turner https://www.nadiaturner.com/https://linktr.ee/nadiaturnerNadia Turner American Idol 2005 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_7a7ug6DkfsNadia Turner American Idol https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6d4aWIM2j_c Zareh American Idol 2022 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vuEgF0rWR28Zareh Instagram-styledbyzaza https://www.instagram.com/p/BvuQ6CBHo23/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=c9062567-fbcc-47cd-bce8-bfbdee8c4142 FACEBOOK: Jackie Tantillo, SHLTMM, Nadia Turner, Zareh IsaINSTAGRAM: #jackietantillo7 #shouldhavelistenedtomymother #nadiaturnerandthesonkings #nadiacturner, #styledbyzaza #SHLTMM LINKEDIN: Jackie Tantillo, Nadia Turner 3rdTWITTER: SHLTMM, @nadiacturnerTHREADS: SHLTMM, styledbyzaza,BKSY: SHLTMM,TIKTOK: SHLTMM, dymuzic, styledbyzaza,YOUTUBE: SHLTMM, NADIA TURNER, Zareh Isa "Should Have Listened To My Mother" is an ongoing conversation about mothers/female role models and the roles they play in our lives. Jackie's guests are open and honest and answer the question, are you who you are today because of, or in spite of, your mother and so much more. You'll be amazed at what the responses are.Gina Kunadian wrote this 5 Star review on Apple Podcast:SHLTMM TESTIMONIAL GINA KUNADIAN JUNE 18, 2024“A Heartfelt and Insightful Exploration of Maternal Love”Jackie Tantillo’s “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast is a treasure and it’s clear why it’s a 2023 People’s Choice Podcast Award Nominee. This show delves into the profound impact mother and maternal role models have on our lives through personal stories and reflections.Each episode offers a chance to learn how different individuals have been shaped by their mothers’ actions and words. Jackie skillfully guides these conversations, revealing why ...
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  • “A WOMAN WHO NOT ONLY SURVIVED BUT THRIVED“ with Guest Author, Dr. Gertrude Lyons.

    “A WOMAN WHO NOT ONLY SURVIVED BUT THRIVED“ with Guest Author, Dr. Gertrude Lyons.
    Jul 29 2025
    Dorothy was the eldest of two children. Her younger brother was well taken care of and able to continue on to higher education, mainly because he was male and in that era, women didn't really pursue higher education because culturally, that wasn't the norm. Women's place was in the home and raising the children.One of the many things that my guest admired about her mother was that she opened up her own Children's Clothing store. Gertrude loved seeing her mom running a business that she was truly good at and enjoyed. Gertrude loved seeing a different side of her mother's personality, outside the home vs inside the home.Unfortunately, the store only lasted so long because of Gertrude's father's wishes. Yes, he was supportive but only up to a certain point. He also gave Dorothy an ultimatum and Dorothy agreed and made some very difficult choices that very same day and never broke her promise. The couple did not have a particularly close relationship. Gertrude's dad worked and provided for the family and the two remained married for 27 years.You will hear Gertrude share stories of the secrets her mother kept her entire life. Gertrude is so impressed and bewildered by her mother's ability to keep all of these compelling stories to herself and still be a mother, raise her children, run her own business and then continue on with another career working as an office secretary for the railroad in Detroit. One of the many wonderful philosophies my guest believes in is that she believes that she chose her mother for "my soul's development." In other words, she continues, "my soul had reasoning and she was the perfect mother for me. We are together for a reason, admits Dr. Lyons.Gertrude also shares stories of the process of writing her book as well as being brave when coming to choosing the title of her book, etc.About The BookIn Rewrite the Mother Code, Dr. Gertrude Lyons challenges the limiting beliefs and expands the concepts around what it is to be a mother. Through the pages of this book, Lyons blurs the lines that pigeonhole women into limited roles that ultimately disempower them. Rather than operating within a narrow conception of what mothering is, she invites readers to open themselves up to what is possible and see the truth: that all women mother, and that mother energy is accessible to all of us-including men. Rewrite the Mother Code is a celebration of motherhood, bringing spirituality and community back into the experience and empowering women to be what they truly are, the ultimate creators.What it would be like if it was a commonly held tradition for the wise women in our Western culture to support women through the mothering process? What if children were raised by the community and not the isolated responsibility of one or two caregivers? What if all women were united as mothers and gave their full support to each other’s mothering choices? Rewrite the Mother Code not only envisions this world of conscious conception, pregnancy, and motherhood, but it also takes the reader into a movement that fulfills the ideals of a matriarchal-led mothering experience.These ideals can open the doors for women to not only take part in the abundance of the world, but also make sure everyone else experiences it. Rewrite the Mother Code explores a world in which mothers feel valued and intrinsically aware that fostering their well-being is the keystone for conscious and harmonious living on earth—a world where there are enough resources for everyone, all life is valued, and decisions are made with everyone's best interests in mind, not just a few. It's a world where mothers are revered for their abilities to create (even ones without their own children, who journey through motherhood in many creative ways), a place where we can tap into our intuition and truly follow it.Rewrite the Mother Code blurs the lines that pigeonhole women into limited roles that ultimately disempower them. Rather than operating with a narrow conception of what mothering is, it invites you to open yourself up to what is possible when you realize that all women mother, and that mother energy is accessible to all of us—including men.In Rewrite the Mother Code, Dr. Gertrude Lyons shares her vast expertise, using her doctoral degree in education, combined with her degrees in psychology, transformational leadership, and her two decades as a coach for families, couples, and individuals. She has traveled the world and had spiritual experiences across the globe, which she brings into her work and writing.Each chapter of Rewrite the Mother Code has thoughtfully tailored reflections, meditations, and rituals to help women get in touch with their innate mother wisdom and strength. This book is a ceremony and celebration of all forms of motherhood, one that collectively births a new revolution of empowered and embodied living.SOCIAL MEDIA LINKSInstagram:LINKEDIN:Gertrude Lyons, MA, EdD, PCCView Gertrude Lyons, MA, EdD, PCC’s ...
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  • “Andy Warhol’s Mother, The Woman Behind The Artist” with Guest Professor and Author, Elaine Rusinko

    “Andy Warhol’s Mother, The Woman Behind The Artist” with Guest Professor and Author, Elaine Rusinko
    Jul 22 2025
    This is the story of a small Carpatho-Rusyn woman, who became know as Andy Warhol's mother. Ulia Zavacka ( pronounced Zavatski), was one of a very large farming family whose homeland today is in the North Eastern Slovakia. Today the general Rusyn population stretches across what is five European countries, including Ukraine, Slovakia, Romania, Hungary and Poland. Officials say that at the turn of the 20th century, approximately 250,000 Ruthenians, as they were known to US Immigration officials, emigrated to America where they worked in coal mines and steel mills of the northeast. Many settled in the Pittsburg. PA area. Rusyns spoke east slavic dialects that used the Cyrillic alphabet. Elaine and I spoke a lot about the similarities of both women. Julia followed her husband to America eventually having three sons and not speaking much English. Nancy, Elaine's mother, had a huge advantage and was born in the United States and spoke two languages at a young age. Both women had Carpatho-Rusyn backgrounds. It was a tough time to raise a family especially in the Pittsburgh area yet Andy's father was a good business man and was able to put some money away for Andy to go to college. Elaine shares stories of her mother moving to New York City at age of thirteen in order to help her family financially as a housekeeper/nanny/servant, as you'll hear Elaine tell the story. By moving to NYC, Nancy met her future husband who has a similar background as she. Keep in mind, that making money to help the family put food on the table was way more important than any kind of education. Nancy eventually married a coal miner from Pennsylvania and fellow Rusyn which was comforting to her. Both of these families had lingering effects of being immigrants and children of immigrants. Of parents parenting similarly as to how they had been parented. They had a lot to overcome and it can take decades if not generations to assimilate.Elaine's academic studies where shocking to her parents. They couldn't really understand why she continued with higher education because that was very foreign to both of them.And course, Andy went to what's now known as Carnegie Mellon University in Pittsburgh and completed a Bachelor of Fine Art Degree in 1949.Julia was an artist of her own right. She was very creative especially when she was younger and in her home country. So much of her artistic talent influenced Andy and they worked closely together on projects for many years as she lived in Manhattan with Andy for almost twenty years. Julia was featured in his artistic projects with his coworkers on a regular basis.https://www.warhol.org/andy-warhols-life/ SHLTMM YOUTUBE CHANNEL LINK:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F_BmWJpLNvAElaine Rusinko INSTAGRAM: rusinko17 Other Carpatho-Rusyn Related Social Media: FB: Carpatho-Rusyns Everywhere, The Lost Warhols by Karen Bystedt, Carpatho-Rusyn Society, Carpatho-Rusyn Society’s Heritage Radio Program, Carpatho-Rusyn Research Center, The Andy Warhol Museum, rusyn.sk/Rusini Slovenska IG: rusinko17, warholfoundation, carpathorusynsociety_, rusynart, carpatho_rusyns_of_pa, thewarholmuseum For more information about Elaine Rusinko and her Book "Andy Warhol's Mother, The Woman Behind the Artist, contact Lesley Rains at "The Pittsburgh University Press Email: LRAINS@upress.pitt.edu "Should Have Listened To My Mother" is an ongoing conversation about mothers/female role models and the roles they play in our lives. Jackie's guests are open and honest and answer the question, are you who you are today because of, or in spite of, your mother and so much more. You'll be amazed at what the responses are.Gina Kunadian wrote this 5 Star review on Apple Podcast:SHLTMM TESTIMONIAL GINA KUNADIAN JUNE 18, 2024“A Heartfelt and Insightful Exploration of Maternal Love”Jackie Tantillo’s “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast is a treasure and it’s clear why it’s a 2023 People’s Choice Podcast Award Nominee. This show delves into the profound impact mother and maternal role models have on our lives through personal stories and reflections.Each episode offers a chance to learn how different individuals have been shaped by their mothers’ actions and words. Jackie skillfully guides these conversations, revealing why guests with similar backgrounds have forged different paths.This podcast is a collection of timeless stories that highlight the powerful role of maternal figures in our society. Whether your mother influenced you positively or you thrived despite challenges, this show resonates deeply.I highly recommend “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast for its insightful, heartfelt and enriching content.Gina Kunadian"Should Have Listened To My Mother" would not be possible without the generosity, sincerity and insight from my guests. In 2018/2019, in getting ready to launch my podcast, so many were willing to give their time and share their personal stories of their ...
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