Welcome to Episode 437 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Brittany Steffen, LMFT, who speaks to me about how couples can navigate and deepen their sexual communication.

In this episode, Brittany and I discuss the kinds of conversations couples should be having but often aren’t, especially when it comes to sex. We talk about the importance of discussing how and when to initiate sex, redefining what “counts” as sex, and how understanding each other’s intentions can greatly enhance intimacy.

Brittany Steffen is the owner and founder of Steffen Counseling Services. She earned her graduate degree in marriage and family therapy from Seattle Pacific University in 2012 and has worked as a therapist in the Seattle area for over a decade. In 2018, she began the process of becoming an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist to meet the growing demand for specialized sex therapy services.

In this episode, you will hear:

· Top Three Conversations Every Couple Should Have About Sex

· How To Navigate Desire Discrepancy Without Blame

· Shifting From Yes/No Sex to a Menu of Possibilities

· Why Defining “Sex” Broadly Can Improve Intimacy

· Understanding the Emotional Weight of Sexual Rejection

· How To Talk About Fantasies Without Pressure or Shame

· Requests vs. Demands: A Key Distinction in Sexual Communication

· Common Traps That Lead to Sexual Conflict in Long-Term Relationships

· How Self-Reflection Can Improve Your Sex Life

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Welcome to Episode 436 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman, co-founders of the Somatica Institute, who speak to me about sex parties. In this episode, we discuss the evolving landscape of sexual exploration, intentional relationship structures, and how sex parties can be transformative when approached with clear communication, consent, and a sense of curiosity.

Danielle and Celeste share their personal journey of entering the world of sex parties, offering valuable insight into how these experiences can deepen intimacy, spark erotic creativity, and provide healing opportunities for individuals and couples alike.

Danielle Harel, Ph.D., and Celeste Hirschman, M.A., are pioneers in intimacy, sexuality, and relationship coaching. Co-founders of the Somatica® Institute, they’ve transformed how love and connection are taught through their experiential, science-based Somatica Method. Together, they’ve trained over 1,000 coaches and helped countless individuals and couples embrace vulnerability, rediscover desire, and create deeply fulfilling relationships.

In this episode, you will hear:

· Understanding the Modern Role of Sex Parties

· Exploration of Monogamy, Polyamory Relationships

· The Importance of Clear Communication and Consent

· How Sex Parties Can Strengthen Emotional Intimacy

· Navigating Jealousy, Compersion, and Erotic Curiosity

· Preparation Tips for First-Time Attendees

· How to Host a Consent-Centered and Inclusive Event

· The Emotional Core Behind Erotic Desires

· Addressing Relationship Misconceptions Around Opening Up

· Resources for Finding and Learning About Sex-Positive Communities

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Welcome to Episode 435 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Tia Lynn, a seasoned intimacy coach and host of the Sexy Biz Babe Podcast, who speaks to me about navigating threesomes, one of the most common fantasies among couples - and how to approach them with intention, clarity, and care.

In our conversation, we explore the difference between fantasy and desire, and why not every fantasy needs to be acted upon. Tia offers practical advice on how couples can decide whether a threesome is right for them, including how to assess trust, emotional safety, and shared curiosity. We also talk about the importance of open dialogue, emotional preparation, and creating safe, judgment-free zones to explore these conversations.

Tia Lynn is a TEDX speaker, host of the Sexy Biz Babe podcast and a Sex & Intimacy coach. She loves to help high-achieving women tap into their feminine energy, reignite their sexy confidence to have the best sex of their life. Her methods are known to increase self-confidence, income, and better sex!

In this episode, you will hear:

· Understanding the Fantasy vs. Reality of Threesomes

· How to Know If You and Your Partner Are Ready

· Importance of Trust, Communication, and Consent

· Common Emotional Pitfalls to Avoid

· Tips for Bringing Up the Topic with Your Partner

· Where and How to Meet a Potential Third

· Screening for Safety and Emotional Compatibility

· Setting Boundaries and Managing Jealousy

· Initiating Intimacy Without Awkwardness

· Why Aftercare Is Just as Important as the Act Itself

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Welcome to Episode 434 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Rain DeGrey, who speaks to me about the world of prostate massage and milking - what it is, how it works, and the deeper cultural and psychological barriers we often encounter around anal play, particularly for men.

In our conversation, Rain breaks down the differences (and similarities) between prostate massage and milking, highlighting how both are often misunderstood. We explore how performance anxiety, shame, and cultural taboos can shape our sexual experiences - and how embracing pleasure as a valid goal can be deeply healing.

Rain DeGrey is an international educator, writer, presenter, podcaster and performer that has been writing articles and teaching classes focusing on kink, relationships, and sex education since 2009. After getting her start as a fetish model, Pro Domme, and competitive wrestler, she was motivated to branch out into education, something she is extremely passionate about. Demystifying sexuality and presenting in a clear humorous way are trademarks of her teaching style. She believes strongly in making sex education fun and engaging.

In this episode, you will hear:

· Understanding Prostate Massage vs. Milking

· Why Performance Pressure Reduces Pleasure

· The Myth of Proven Health Benefits

· Pleasure as a Valid, Healing Goal

· How Anxiety Impacts Sexual Function

· Practical Safety Tips for Anal Play

· The Link Between Shame and Patriarchal Norms

· Prostate Play Without Penetration

· Navigating Prostate Stimulation with Toys

· The Value of Sex Education and Ongoing Learning

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Welcome to Episode 433 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Anna Lee, the CEO and co-founder of Lioness, who speaks to me about the intersection of pleasure, science, and innovation - and how we can redefine the way we understand and experience orgasms.

In this episode, Anna shares her fascinating journey from working in big tech to creating Lioness, a company rooted in data-driven pleasure and sexual wellness. We dive into how her cultural upbringing shaped her early relationship with sexuality and how she turned a personal healing journey into a revolutionary tool that helps people explore their bodies.

Anna Lee is the co-founder and CEO of Lioness, the startup that built the world’s first and only smart vibrator that helps improves sexual pleasure through biofeedback orgasm data and research. Anna was previously a mechanical engineer at Amazon, launching the Amazon Dash Button and the Kindle Voyage. She was most recently named one of Newsweek’s 10 Innovators Disrupting Healthcare as well as Forbes 30 Under 30. Realizing the underrepresentation of women engineers in sextech and the lack of research, Anna has made it a mission to expand understanding and research in sexual pleasure.

In this episode, you will hear:

· Anna Lee’s Journey From Tech to Pleasure Innovation

· How Lioness Tracks and Visualizes Orgasm Patterns

· The Role of Engineering in Designing for Female Pleasure

· The Cultural Taboo Around Female Masturbation

· Cannabis and Caffeine as Orgasm Enhancers

· The Science Behind Pelvic Floor Contractions

· Data Insights on Age and Orgasm Strength

· Addressing the Orgasm Gap with Research and Tech

· The Importance of Curiosity in Sexual Wellness

· Empowerment Through Pleasure and Knowledge

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Welcome to Episode 432 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by William Moore, who speaks to me about his incredible journey from LGBTQ+ advocacy to pioneering innovations in male enhancement procedures.

In this powerful episode, William shares his story of growing up in rural Alabama and eventually becoming a national LGBTQ+ rights advocate, culminating in a landmark U.S. Supreme Court case that changed anti-discrimination laws forever. He also takes us into the world of male enhancement, where he developed PhalloFILL - a minimally invasive girth enhancement technique that has transformed the lives of countless men, both physically and emotionally.

William Moore is the founder of the Dallas-based biohacking clinic AdvancedYOU and the visionary Founder of PhalloFILL®, the leading network for non-surgical penile girth enhancement. After launching in 2021, PhalloFILL now spans nearly 30 U.S. markets, Mexico City, and Montreal, solidifying its status as the largest and most accessible treatment for penile girth enhancement. Beyond the clinics, Moore is the President of the Texas Med Spa Association, advocating for LGBTQ+ rights and healthcare equality.

In this episode, you will hear:

· William’s Journey From Rural Alabama to Advocacy

· LGBTQ+ Rights Victory at the Supreme Court

· The Birth of PhalloFILL Male Enhancement Procedure

· Why Girth Matters More Than Length in Pleasure

· Risks of Unsafe Filler Practices in Enhancement

· The Role of Confidence in Sexual and Social Life

· Scientific Innovation Behind the PhalloSleeve Device

· Real-Life Impact on Relationships and Self-Esteem

· Training Physicians Nationwide for Safe Procedures

· Breaking Taboos Around Male Body Conversations

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Welcome to Episode 431 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I'm excited to be joined by Susan Bratton as we explore the fascinating world of sexual biohacking—how we can extend our sexual vitality and pleasure throughout our lives. Susan is an expert in sexual wellness and longevity, and she shares valuable insights on how we can enhance our "sex span" alongside our health span.

A lifelong entrepreneur, Susan is CEO of two companies. The 20, founded in 2019, is a supplement company specializing in libido support for sexual vitality. Based on the 80/20 rule, which states that 80% of your results are due to 20% of your efforts - if only you know what 20% to choose. The 20’s blood flow supplement, libido vitamins, and sexual energy bars FLOW and DESIRE make the “what to choose” dilemma a no-brainer by providing the just-right balance of vitamins and botanicals to deliver noticeable results.

Through Personal Life Media, founded in 2006, Susan has authored and published 34 books and programs, including Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, The Steamy Sex Ed®️ Video Collection, and her Amazon #1 International Bestseller, Sexual Soulmates: The Six Essentials for Connected Sex. Over 1,250,000 copies of her books have been enjoyed by lovers worldwide.

In this episode, you will hear:

· Understanding Sexual Biohacking and Its Benefits

· How Blood Flow Affects Arousal and Pleasure

· The Role of Hormones in Sexual Wellness

· Regenerative Therapies for Sexual Health

· Tools and Techniques for Female Rejuvenation

· Male Enhancement Methods and Their Effectiveness

· The Science Behind the "Use It or Lose It" Concept

· Psychological Factors That Impact Desire

· Practical Tips for Boosting Libido and Function

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Welcome to Episode 430 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I'm excited to be joined by Lynn Lohide, a professional body piercer and needle play educator. Lynn speaks to me about the fascinating world of needle play - what it is, how it's practiced safely, and the deeper emotional and psychological connections people have with it.

In our conversation, Lynn shares how their journey into professional piercing led them to discover the erotic and ritualistic aspects of needle play. We explore the ways in which controlled pain can serve as a tool for self-discovery, healing, and even reclaiming one's body.

Lynn has been professionally piercing since 2011, facilitating body suspensions since 2013, and doing play piercings since 2013. They have a passion for everything hook and piercing related, and since their first piercing they have been immensely drawn to the craft.

In this episode, you will hear:

· Understanding What Needle Play Is and Its Various Forms

· The Overlap Between Professional Piercing and Kink Exploration

· How Needle Play Can Be Used for Healing and Self-Empowerment

· The Role of Trust, Consent, and Safety in Needle Play

· The Psychological and Emotional Impact of Engaging in This Practice

· The Historical Ties Between Needle Play and Queer Leather Culture

· Common Myths and Misconceptions About Needles in BDSM

· How Individuals Can Explore Needle Play for the First Time

· The Importance of Education and Safe Practices in Needle Play

· Resources for Learning More About This Fascinating Kink

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