In this episode of Same Shit, Different Mom, Carly Ely shares a raw and honest life update. After months of being quiet online, Carly opens up about her personal and business evolution—how she’s moving beyond labels, pivots, and expectations to embrace full transparency in her journey. She reflects on her shift from school psychologist to sleep consultant to conscious motherhood mentor, and now toward a deeper focus on self-leadership and multidimensional identity as a late-diagnosed neurodivergent woman. Carly explores the tension between wanting to present polished expertise versus sharing what’s truly alive in the moment. She describes how her mentor challenged her to stop overthinking and start documenting her journey daily—even if it feels messy, imperfect, or self-indulgent. This episode invites listeners to embrace their own evolving identity, trust their inner wisdom, and recognize that the right people will resonate with their story, even if it’s unfinished.

In this raw and unfiltered episode, I'm getting honest about something I've only ever skimmed the surface of before—what it’s really like to navigate motherhood, business, and personal growth while living with late-diagnosed ADHD and autism.

If you’ve ever felt like you were “too much” or “not enough”…

If you’ve been performing, pleasing, and pushing through, wondering why it’s so damn exhausting…

If motherhood has cracked you wide open and left you questioning everything—

This episode is for you.

-The identity crisis that came with my late autism and ADHD diagnosis

-The invisible toll of high-functioning masking—and why so many women miss the signs

-How internalized ableism made me afraid to share my truth

-Why I'm done performing for comfort and ready to show up unmasked

-How motherhood became the portal to awakening, not just struggle

Whether you’re a mother, a highly sensitive woman, or a late-realized neurodivergent soul, this episode is a mirror and an invitation—to unlearn, unbecome, and finally come home to yourself.

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In part two of our series on the invisible generational cycles we’re breaking as conscious millennial moms, we explore some of the most profound unconscious patterns we’ve inherited: victim mentality, hustle-as-worth culture, and emotional suppression.

These aren’t just buzzwords—they’re baked into the way we move through motherhood, and today’s episode is an invitation to unravel them with compassion, self-responsibility, and power. If you’ve ever caught yourself saying “If only they would listen, I wouldn’t yell,” or rushing around the house like it’s an emergency when it’s not... this one’s for you.

00:00 – Welcome Back + Series Recap

Carly introduces this continuation of the generational cycle-breaking conversation and why these invisible patterns matter so much.

01:48 – The Biggest Cycle We’re Breaking:

08:50 – Moving from Reaction to Response

12:25 – Why the Boomer Generation Struggles with Accountability

15:40 – The Protective Nature of Victim Mentality

17:10 – Hustle, Rush, Productivity: The Cycle of Anxiety

25:15 – Emotional Suppression: The Core Wound We’re Healing From

30:05 – Why Kids Can’t “Control” Their Emotions

33:00 – Your Healing Creates Emotional Safety for Future Generations

Download Carly’s Free Cycle Breakers Guidebook to go deeper into your own subconscious healing journey.

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