A life's trajectory derailed by a single night, a textbook case of injustice unfolding at one of America's most prestigious military academies. This urgent special episode of Stories of Service brings to light the troubling case of Joseph Fernau, a wrestler and former Air Force Academy cadet fighting to save his military career and avoid crushing debt after being falsely accused of sexual assault.

When a devastating ankle injury sidelined Fernau from his beloved wrestling team, he made a mistake while heavily medicated - fraternizing with a freshman cadet. What followed defies belief: months later, after he began dating someone new, came an accusation of sexual assault that threatened everything he'd worked for. Despite text messages clearly showing consent before and satisfaction after their encounter, and despite OSI investigators finding the assault allegation unfounded, Fernau now faces disenrollment and $240,000 in debt while his accuser transferred to Stanford without consequences.

The episode reveals disturbing inconsistencies in how military discipline is administered, with numerous examples of cadets committing similar or worse violations receiving far lighter punishments. Captain Adam DeRito, himself a veteran of a 15-year battle with the Academy over his own case, provides crucial context about potential bias and command influence affecting the proceedings. The conversation raises profound questions about who receives second chances in our military, and whether factors like identity politics might be corrupting the process of justice.

Whether you're connected to military service or simply care about fairness in our institutions, this case demands attention. As Fernau's appeal reaches the Secretary of the Air Force, the fundamental question remains: Should one mistake, immediately self-reported and followed by exemplary conduct, end a promising military career? Listen now and decide for yourself.

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A decorated Navy corpsman's career derails when military justice turns against him. Eric Gilmette served 21 honorable years, deploying as a medic with Marine infantry and special operations forces, only to find himself embroiled in a four-year legal nightmare stemming from a New Year's Eve incident in Iraq.

After an altercation at a bar in Erbil left a civilian contractor unconscious, Gilmette's medical training kicked in. He monitored the man throughout the night, performing neurological checks and positioning him to maintain his airway. Despite these efforts, tragedy struck when the contractor stopped breathing the next morning and later died.

Rather than treating this as the accident autopsy evidence later confirmed it to be, military authorities charged Gilmette and two Marine Raiders with homicide. What followed exposed shocking flaws in the military justice system, particularly when a senior JAG officer made threatening comments to Gilmette's defense team, creating an untenable conflict of interest.

The case became a fight not just about what happened that night in Iraq, but about fundamental fairness in military courts. COVID delays stretched the ordeal to four years while Gilmette remained in limbo, unable to practice his medical skills or advance his career. The military's highest court eventually dismissed all charges, recognizing the violation of due process.

Gilmette's story reveals the personal toll when systems designed to protect service members fail them instead. Now retired in Michigan, he's pursuing his master's degree and speaking out about needed reforms. His journey reminds us how quickly lives can change and the courage required to stand firm when facing injustice from the very institution you've devoted your life to serving.

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The most meaningful connections in military service often come from those who guide us through our most challenging moments. Ron Dean represents this kind of transformative mentorship—a Vietnam-era Navy veteran whose expertise in aircraft electrical systems made him legendary among maintainers across four decades of service.

Born to a World War II B-25 radio gunner, Ron joined the Navy in 1965 under the draft, deliberately choosing a different path than his Air Force father. As an Aviation Electrician's Mate, he quickly distinguished himself through exceptional troubleshooting abilities and a practical approach to maintenance that prioritized aircraft readiness over procedural orthodoxy. "I enjoyed fixing aircraft. I enjoyed making the maintenance chiefs happy," Ron explains, describing how he would take technicians directly to the flight deck to repair planes before returning to consult the manuals—reversing the traditional approach and keeping crucial combat aircraft flying during wartime operations.

Ron's impact extended far beyond technical innovation. During a particularly challenging 2003 deployment to Iraq, he specifically requested Teresa Carpenter—then a young aviation electrician struggling with workplace tensions—as his troubleshooting partner. This professional pairing evolved into a decades-long friendship that survived career transitions, including Teresa's commissioning as an officer and Ron's move to civilian technical representative roles with Lockheed. Their paths continued to cross at significant life moments, from commissioning ceremonies to retirement celebrations, demonstrating how military connections often become life's most enduring relationships.

From Vietnam-era deployments to supporting the historic moment when President Bush landed on the USS Abraham Lincoln, Ron's career spans significant chapters in American military history. Now enjoying retirement in Nevada, he remains engaged through political activism, community service, and even competitive bowling—continuing his lifelong pattern of service in new forms. Listen to this heartfelt conversation between mentor and mentee as they reflect on shared experiences, technical challenges overcome, and the lasting impact of showing up for others when it matters most.

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What happens when a sailor takes his leadership philosophy beyond the quarterdeck and into the podcast studio? Command Master Chief Damo McCullough's story illuminates how authentic conversations can transform military culture.

From his Philadelphia roots to becoming a respected Navy leader, Damo shares the unfiltered journey that led him to create a podcast platform now boasting over 550,000 YouTube views and 100,000 downloads. His approach—speaking the "quiet parts out loud"—has created a unique space where sailors and leadership alike can engage in honest dialogue about military life, leadership challenges, and cultural issues that often remain unaddressed in formal settings.

Damo's early career experiences with exceptional leaders who valued open communication shaped his philosophy that every sailor deserves a voice. When confronted with communication barriers between leadership and junior sailors around sensitive issues, he didn't just identify the problem—he created a solution through podcasting that has evolved into a thriving community over five years.

The conversation explores how maintaining authenticity while advancing through the ranks presents both challenges and opportunities. As Damo notes, his podcast serves as an "integrity test," ensuring he embodies the leadership principles he advocates. What began as a way to help junior sailors see chiefs as relatable humans has expanded to influence leadership across the Navy, proving that speaking honestly doesn't hinder professional growth when done respectfully.

For today's military members navigating service life, Damo's journey offers a compelling blueprint—demonstrating how traditional leadership values can adapt to connect with a new generation through digital platforms while preserving what matters most: mentorship, guidance, and mutual respect.

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What happens when a decorated Army officer discovers her family is being poisoned by contaminated water on a military base – and then faces retaliation for speaking out? Major Mandy Feindt takes us inside one of the largest toxic exposure cases in U.S. military history, revealing how the Red Hill fuel facility in Hawaii contaminated drinking water for over 93,000 military and civilian families.

With raw honesty, Mandy shares the devastating health impacts her family experienced – from her 13-month-old son developing mysterious rashes and respiratory issues to her own unexplained symptoms that left doctors puzzled. When military leadership insisted the water was safe despite overwhelming evidence to the contrary, Mandy made the courageous decision to become a whistleblower, risking her nearly 20-year military career and upcoming promotion to lieutenant colonel.

The institutional betrayal she experienced was profound. Overnight, her standing in her unit plummeted. Her evaluation reports were downgraded. But instead of staying silent, she filed a Department of Defense Inspector General complaint that was ultimately substantiated after a three-and-a-half-year investigation – a remarkable outcome in a system where less than 2% of such complaints favor service members.

Beyond her personal vindication, Mandy's advocacy has driven meaningful change. She spearheaded a landmark federal lawsuit that held the Navy legally responsible for the contamination, helped secure a National Academy study on health impacts, and established a registry for affected families. Now, she's working on transparency legislation to ensure future military families aren't kept in the dark about environmental hazards.

Perhaps most powerfully, Mandy opens up about her journey through PTSD, moral injury, and finding healing through specialized trauma programs and adaptive sports – ultimately becoming a 10-time medalist at the DoD Warrior Games. Her story illuminates not just the fight for justice, but the profound resilience required to transform betrayal into purpose.

Listen now to this essential conversation about courage, accountability, and what happens when duty calls you to fight the very institution you've pledged to serve.

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When you're a young service member preparing for your first PCS, finding honest information about where you'll live and eat can be nearly impossible. Military barracks and dining facilities remain one of the most significant blind spots in our support system for junior enlisted personnel.

Rob Evans, an Army veteran and software developer, experienced this firsthand during his 12 years of service. After transitioning to civilian life, he noticed something critical was missing: a platform where service members could openly discuss the conditions of their living quarters and dining facilities. This realization, coupled with a 2023 Government Accountability Office report highlighting widespread problems in military housing, sparked the creation of Hots and Cots – an app that's transforming how we address quality of life issues for our troops.

During our conversation, Rob shares powerful stories of service members living with mold-covered ceilings, broken HVAC systems, and unreliable dining options who found their voices through his platform. The app's anonymity feature has proven crucial, allowing personnel to document conditions without fear of retaliation. What began as a simple idea has now collected over a thousand reviews and caught the attention of military leadership at the highest levels – including the Secretary of the Army.

Perhaps most compelling is how Hots and Cots creates accountability where traditional systems have failed. Rob describes instances where installation commanders reached out directly after seeing negative reviews, resulting in immediate fixes to problems that had lingered for months. His recent addition of a leadership dashboard allows vetted military leaders to engage with reviews and address concerns while maintaining user anonymity.

As someone who's witnessed the transformative power of good leadership and proper resources, Rob's mission extends beyond building an app – he's building a bridge between those who serve and those who lead them. His work reminds us that taking care of our service members isn't just about equipment and training but ensuring they have decent places to live and nutritious food to eat.

Ready to see what's happening at military installations nationwide or share your own experience? Download Hots and Cots today and join the movement to improve quality of life for those who serve our country.

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What happens when you refuse to let the world put you in a box? Marine Corps officer Riley Compton reveals the extraordinary journey that unfolded when she decided to pursue every passion without limitation.

Riley's story begins in the Midwest, where she never saw women serving in the military while growing up. After earning a Division I softball scholarship, a chance encounter with a Marine recruiter opened doors she never knew existed. What followed was a remarkable balancing act—commissioning as a Marine officer while simultaneously pursuing a spot on Team USA's bobsled team.

For five years, Riley competed internationally in bobsled, achieving a world ranking of 14th and winning a North American Cup gold medal, all while maintaining her active duty status. When a deployment opportunity to Baghdad arose, she volunteered for a billet typically filled by officers ranking above her. Upon returning from deployment, she went straight from the combat zone to competing on the world's fastest bobsled track in Canada—a testament to her unwavering dedication and resilience.

The conversation explores Riley's difficult decision to step away from bobsledding to focus on her Marine Corps career, her upcoming marriage to a Royal Marine, and her bestselling children's book "If You Can Dream It, Be It." With refreshing candor, she shares the behind-the-scenes struggles of publishing, including countless rejections, while maintaining her "never quit" mentality.

What makes Riley's perspective particularly valuable is her humility. Despite her achievements across multiple domains, she emphasizes that anyone can follow a similar path with enough courage and persistence. As she puts it, "Your job, the things you do, is what you do. It's not who you are." Her definition of wealth—measured in relationships, experiences, and discipline rather than financial gain—offers a refreshing counterpoint to conventional success metrics.

Ready to break out of your own self-imposed limitations? Listen now to discover how one Marine officer's story might just inspire you to dream bigger than you ever thought possible.

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Military psychiatrist Dr. Robert Moretta exposes the hidden flaws in our armed forces’ mental healthcare system—where administrative convenience often trumps genuine healing. From the overuse of adjustment and personality disorder diagnoses to avoid benefits, to a culture that discourages sailors from seeking help, Dr. Moretta reveals how these practices harm trust and recovery.

He shares firsthand accounts of blurred confidentiality, where providers are told to avoid diagnosing PTSD to keep paperwork simple, and how fragmented records across clinics and agencies leave struggling service members to piece together their own care.

Drawing on experience across multiple branches and the VA, Dr. Moretta outlines how standardizing policies could ensure consistent, recovery-focused care for all who serve.

Listen now, then explore his book Reflections of a Military Psychiatrist for deeper insights and solutions.

Whether you’re a veteran, military family member, or someone interested in the realities of military medicine, this conversation offers an unfiltered and compassionate look at the challenges—and hope—within the field of military psychiatry.

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