Today's guest is the radiant and grounded Arlene Miller, a woman whose core qualities—authenticity, compassion, courage, and loyalty—shine through every word. Arlene brings a deeply soulful and sacred lens to the conversations we’ve been having, reminding us that how we treat ourselves and others must begin with curiosity, not judgment.

In this powerful episode, we dive into the concept of living outside of judgment-based expectations—not just for ourselves, but for those around us. Arlene encourages us to release assumptions, pause before reacting, and consider giving others the space we wish they would give us. It’s a revolutionary act of grace and self-respect.

🌀 Key insights from this episode:

• Why we must drop expectations rooted in judgment

• How to respect boundaries without guilt or pressure

• The sacred quality of curiosity in healing relationships

• Practicing empathy even when we don’t have the full story

• Reclaiming your self-worth by releasing internal criticism

• A tree visualization to ground yourself in compassion and growth

🌱 Arlene’s wisdom invites us to replace judgment with curiosity. Instead of making assumptions, she suggests we ask deeper questions: What if that person is struggling? What if there's more to their story than we can see? This approach not only transforms how we treat others, but how we treat ourselves.

💭 One of the most impactful parts of this episode is Arlene’s beautiful bedtime visualization—imagining yourself as a deeply rooted tree that grows and adapts through all seasons. It’s a powerful reminder that change is natural, and strength is built in the stillness between storms.

🎧 Listener Takeaway:
If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by expectations—your own or others’—this episode will give you the tools to lead with grace, curiosity, and grounded self-love. Press play and allow Arlene to guide you back to your roots.

Blog Excerpt: When it comes to living out of her own expectations, Arlene brings a new perspective that I don’t think has been brought up before. She says we need to drop expectations with judgment, not only for ourselves but for others as well.

Ways to Engage: We talk about living out of your own expectations, but do you consider what expectations you put upon other people? Are they fair and reasonable? Are you making a quick judgment of someone else and what you expect them to do for you? The work begins with us, and we should keep these thoughts in the back of our mind as we continue to grow and evolve.

Timestamps:

Prioritizing Self Care - ( 2:36 )

Confidently Setting Boundaries - ( 16:20 )

Taking Care of Your Emotional Health as much as Your Physical Health - ( 22:08 )

Support self & other women unapologetically - ( 29:32 )

Coming Back to Your WHY and Your VALUES - ( 32:45 )

Living Out of Your Own Expectations - ( 35:50 )

Accepting the Layered Aspects of Yourself - ( 40:10 )

Living out FEEL, how does it affect your relationships - ( 45:24 )

5 Activities That Nourish You - ( 53:13 )

5 Words for How You Want to Feel in the Next Six Months - ( 54:58 )

Original Music by Rio & Valencia Saint-Louis

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