In this no-bullshit, soul-rattling episode of Clean Your Toilet, Raymond strips away the surface-level productivity talk and dives straight into the often-ignored world of self-leadership—the kind that doesn’t happen on LinkedIn posts, but in late-night reflections, quietly broken promises to yourself, and uncomfortable moments of truth no one claps for.

With Xing Jian holding space, this conversation pulls no punches. Raymond talks openly about how easy it is to lie to yourself in subtle, self-soothing ways—and how costly those lies can be when left unchecked. From his years in HR and leadership development, he’s seen firsthand how people at every level avoid their own inner mirrors. But the biggest breakthroughs don’t come from frameworks. They come from glimmers—those brief, painful flashes of truth we’d rather ignore.

This episode isn’t about hustle. It’s about honesty. The kind you don’t share on your performance review but that shapes everything beneath the surface.

This is a masterclass in:

• The quiet discipline of self-leadership when there’s no external reward
• How fear of discomfort keeps us stuck in old patterns
• “The glimmer” — a split-second realization that exposes what you’ve been avoiding
• Navigating the tension between grace and grit
• Why lying to yourself is more dangerous than failure

And true to Clean Your Toilet form, we’re not avoiding the mess:

• Are you chasing self-growth—or just curating a better version of yourself to escape scrutiny?
• Are you mistaking discipline for alignment?
• Are you leading others before you’ve learned to lead yourself?

Raymond gets real about the false narratives we use to feel in control: “I told myself I was adventurous—but had zero proof.” He talks about identity myths, the slippery comfort of performance personas, and the terrifying moment you realize the hardest person to be honest with... is you.

This episode will hit especially deep if:

• You’ve been calling your overfunctioning ‘ambition’
• You keep catching yourself in the same life loop—despite all your growth tools
• You secretly don’t know who you are without the hustle

Highlights:

🧠 “Self-leadership is what you do when no one claps.”

🪞 “The moment I discovered I was lying to myself—that was my glimmer.”

🚽 “The toilet doesn’t care how successful you look. It knows what you’re full of.”

This isn’t an episode about fixing yourself. It’s about facing yourself.

Because freedom doesn’t come from quitting your job or buying the planner. It comes from cleaning the inner toilet you’ve been pretending doesn’t exist.

🧍‍♂️ Your identity is outdated.

🪞 Your mirror is foggy.

💩 Your internal system is clogged.

Time to scrub the narrative and flush the noise. Clean leadership starts here.