Come chill with us in the back row today for a bit of a different episode. This episode is more conversational, less serious toned. In this episode, Courtney and Grace talk about what they believe it is like prioritizing yourself as a Bride of Christ before anything else, and how it can help identify and root your identity in Christ.

After that, they begin a pretty long yap-sesh about their dream wedding, proposal, dresses, and even some hot takes (no food proposals please, we BEG!)

As promised, you can find Grace's instagram at @gracemharker if you want to see the photo she posted of the wedding dress without context to stir some feathers (its in the Scallywag highlight). You can also see the OG photo Josh's pastor took on the plane if you want to confirm the story is real (truly a magical story).

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Ever scrolled through Instagram and suddenly felt like your life wasn’t measuring up? Maybe it was someone’s travel pics, engagement post, new job, or just their perfect aesthetic—meanwhile you’re three iced coffees deep, comparing your behind-the-scenes to someone else’s highlight reel. Yeah… we’ve been there.

In this episode, we’re talking comparison—how it sneaks in, why it wrecks your joy, and what God actually says about your identity and pace. From Cain and Abel to Psalm 139, we’re diving into spiritual, emotional, physical, and even academic comparison. It’s more than a surface-level convo—we’re getting into the soul of it: why we measure ourselves against others, how to stop, and what freedom looks like when we fix our eyes on Jesus instead of everyone else.

Whether you’re feeling behind in your calling, stuck in your season, or just tired of wishing you were someone else, this episode is a reminder that you’re not falling short—you’re being led. He’s not late with your life. He’s intentional.

We’ve got real talk, Scripture, a little sass, and probably a sunscreen rant. You already know.

Let’s call comparison what it is: a liar.

And let’s get our joy back.

You ever sit down to spend time with God and suddenly feel the urgent need to reorganize your entire closet? Or maybe you’ve got a deadline looming, but somehow you’ve convinced yourself that now is the perfect time to deep clean your camera roll. Yeah. Same.

In this episode, we’re talking all things distraction and procrastination — not just in a “you need to be more productive” way, but in a real, vulnerable, why am I doing this instead of the thing I actually care about kind of way. From 10-hour screen time reports (we’re not proud) to the myth of multitasking and the comfort of avoidance, we’re unpacking the ways we run from what matters — and what God might be saying through the quiet we keep dodging.

We get into:

• Why “productive” distractions might be worse than TikTok
• The cost of numbing out when things get hard
• Missing God’s voice in the noise
• Trusting yourself to follow through
• Letting conviction lead to movement, not shame

This one’s not about guilt — it’s about calling it out with grace, laughing at ourselves a little, and learning to pause before we self-sabotage. If you’ve ever avoided your quiet time by watching three seasons of a show you don’t even like anymore, this one’s for you.

Let’s talk about what’s pulling our focus, what it’s costing us, and how to realign with the things (and the God) that matter most.

So grab your iced coffee, silence your phone, and come sit with us in the back row. We saved you a seat.